What do you ladies say when a guy asks, "do you have a man?"
I want to start saying, "I leave my personal life at home." But I don't want them to get shitty with me for that. I'm a bad liar, and I don't do the fake life story thing...
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What do you ladies say when a guy asks, "do you have a man?"
I want to start saying, "I leave my personal life at home." But I don't want them to get shitty with me for that. I'm a bad liar, and I don't do the fake life story thing...
"I have several, do YOU have a man?"
LOL I say the same thing! "I have ten boyfriends. I can't even keep track of them all! How many do you have?"
ETA: I will also say, very sweetly and sincerely, that Satan is my boyfriend. This makes guys laugh because I look like a girl scout.
... I have too much fun messing with customers.
That's quite the conundrum you've presented yourself with. Shutting down any personal questions makes it difficult to build rapport, especially when done so abruptly. May I ask why you don't "do" the fake life story thing? If it's because you think you're a bad liar, there are ways to overcome that.
The best I can suggest, in addition to Selina's awesome one which I've often used (one for every day of the week!), is "Not in here/I'm single in here!" Similarly, you could say, "you can be by man for now" or something along those lines to prime them for your close. It's not a lie since as far as they're concerned, you can act like a single lady (aka into them) while in the club, but it also nudges them away from personal questions in a less harsh way -- especially if you immediately follow with a question/comment to steer the conversation to something less focused on your personal life, such as "so what brings you out tonight?" or "what do you like to do for fun?"
Here are a couple of older threads that might help you out:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...-always-single
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ts-your-hustle
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...r-no-boyfriend
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...say-I-m-single
Otherwise, your best bet is to find the busiest club and shifts so you can just "wanna dance?" instead of having to engage in much, if any, conversation!
Now I don't know if this will bite me in the ass someday, but I've used the line "I have a girlfriend" to get customers to lay off of the whole "Can I get your number"/"Can I take you home?"/"Will you go out on a date with me" ordeal. I swear the "Do you have a boyfriend" question only gets asked by these types. For me, it's a way to tell them I'm not interested in a relationship and yes I'm committed... without turning them off. Men tend to find it a turn on which I think is silly but whatever. They ask a lot of questions after that though, so if your bad at lying this might not be the best response for you. However, typically if you open up to them about your "relationship" they'll get a dance or two IME.
I reply with "do /you/ have a boyfriend?", they get all flustered, smile and be cute, laugh it move, move on
I lie and say I just broke up with my significant other. This means I am not trying to get back into another relationship and I may have someone I'm could easily go back to so them dating me is out of the question.
If a customer asks me this question, I then feel like it's fair game for me to ask him the question if he has a wife or girlfriend.
Smart customers will not ask this but some are clueless and just trying to strike up random conversation. I change the topic real quick cause I'm not there to be dating any customers and my personal life has nothing to do with getting a vip now.
"I only fuck guys with long hair. I just want your money." (Yes I have said this to customers and for some reason they still like me)
If they are pushy/annoying, I tell them I have a girlfriend and she's Colombian and crazy and will kill both him and me if we meet OTC.
This usually gets followed up with the customer agreeing and telling me about the one time they dated a Spanish chick and that Spanish chicks are crazy lmao
I dunno I feel like I develop some sort of connection with them. And guys seem to be a lot more respectful with me once they find out i'm committed. But because it's a girl, they think it's hot. It's weird.
TRUE STORY**
The one time I did date a coworker, we had to stop working at the same clubs together because she would get insanely jealous if she saw me going in the back with a good looking guy. She was a lesbian so she saw these men as money, but for some strange reason because I was bi, she thought I would see these men as more than money and want to date them. It got so bad to the point where if I went in the back with a young guy, she would invite herself and join in the lap dance to make it a double dance. Just to keep her eye on me. That cut into my money because as much as the guy enjoyed the surprise, he couldn't afford to keep getting double dances.
Lol I guess that's why I giggle a little when the customers tell me Spanish women are crazy cuz I went through it too. LOL
what's even worse than "so do you have a bf?" Is
"So what's your boyfriend think of you doing this? "
"So where is your boyfriend right now?"
" so what does your boyfriend do for work?"
it annoys the hell out of me that they purposely ask the question like that because they think they can trick you into admitting that you have a boyfriend and they think they are just soo clever for asking the question like that.
Usually I'll just get up, roll my eyes and walk away without answering their question at that point, because those questions are usually a clear indication he isn't going to spend money.
If I'm in an especially smart ass mood I will respond back " you're in an establishment with a bunch of attractive barely clothed women, yet why is it that you are more concerned about the personal feelings, job discription , and whereabouts of a man who may or may not exist? perhaps you may feel more comfortable at the gay stripclub down the street?"
It really rubs me the wrong way when people ask me personal questions In the stripclub setting. Unless the guy is a regular or has spent lots of time and money that night with me and has established some trust, then he hasn't earned the right to ask me my personal details.
I just don't get it.....I would never just walk up to a customer and ask them if they are married, or how old they are and then argue with them and call them a lier because in my opinion I think they look older than what they claim to be, or ask them what their parents would think of them visiting a stripclub, or with a critical glare ask why they had chosen their line of work, or how much money they usually make at their job, or what level of education they have, or what their personal ambitions are, or if they do drugs, or have kids.
All of those kind of questions throw me off my game and take away from the sexy mood I'm trying to create and he should be trying to enjoy. Seriously, don't bring up my family, my personal relationships, etc none of that is what either one of us wants to be thinking about right now.
I'm not sure if I'm over sensitive about that, but I find those questions all incredibly rude, intrusive and classless.
I've come to the conclusion that guys assume because we are dancers, we are also too unintelligent, high on drugs, and of low self esteem.....plus because we probably have no souls anyways we would not be offended or have the mental capacity to realize that the things they ask are offensive and none of their damn business.
You know, I'm going to start charging money for my answers to personal Questions.
"What's my real name? Oh I charge $20 per personal question.... so I'll let you decide if you would rather know my legal name or for that same $20 have a lapdance? I'll tell you what, you do a champagne room and you can ask me as many questions as you like."
I feel like this will either cut out the bullshit real quick or get you a lapdance. Or perhaps maybe get a guy who is cool with $20 per question, and I'll just get paid to sit and be annoyed all night lol.
That's me! "I have many. [Girls too.]" ;) Depends on my mood, but from there I can generally use that as a transition into sex talk.
And I love love love, the idea of saying something completely outlandish to throw them off-topic.
They ask if I have a boyfriend.
I say no because technically I don't, I have a fiancee. But they don't need to know that! :D
I tell them I have several boyfriends that I can't keep track of. It makes me look more in demand and if they still want my number, I can tell them I forgot to call them because I have several boyfriends.