I need a fairy God mother
I wish I knew more girls in my area. Long story short at one point I was kinda found out by one person so I am changing my name kinda. I need new pictures but I dont have anyone to take them. I wanna travel but not alone. I wish there was a way to meet older or more experience women. the ones I have met are not how I want to be. I know this is kinda ramblely.
Questions
1. how do I meet a potential travel buddy?
2. I have a name in mind but Idk if it sounds stupid. lol
3. I use to do email first only and then at one point put my number up in ads but that lead to 2am phone calls I did not like. Should I just go back to email first ?
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Honestly... You cannot trust 99% of the people in this industry.
Work with a travel buddy? Unless you two are best of friends and extremely emotionally mature, it will breed jealousy and resentment when one of you is making more money than the other.
As long as you live in a metropolitan area, you should be able to find a competent boudoir photographer for around $500.
Occasionally, people will set up ladies' luncheons - this is where you would meet older, more experienced women, but they may not be women you want to be like either. I don't have a true peer in my home market, they're predominantly decrepit TER whores doing hourly sex work, everyone I really network with lives in NYC, Chicago, Boston, or SF.
Find a trusted, non-industry friend and bounce names past them. I went through half a dozen before picking the right one for my relaunch.
Up to you and what you're willing to deal with. I have my number posted on my site, but not on my ads - no 2am calls at all. Email only may lower volume, but it also filters out a lot of crap.
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You are right. I use to work with one girl but then her "bf" started making this way more stressful than it needed to be.
I have looked around for a photographer. I think I am gonna have to look outside the area. The few I found I did not care for their portfolio. I have a non-industry friend who took my last set of photos but lately they are not about this life so we do not speak about it anymore.
Relaunching is harder than I thought it would be. People who will call at 2am are not people I want to see. I am content with lower volume sucks for reviews but it is the only thing making this relaunch not too bad.
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1) Pay for photos or find someone looking to do a trade for prints or CD. I live near an art school, so there always students who need models. Many of them are very good.
2) I have a Google Voice number that is listed in some of my ads but does not ring through to a phone. If they feel a need to call at 2:00 am, it goes to voice mail. So far, no one who calls at 2:00 am has been worth my time - and that seems to be universal at all price points.
3) Your fairy godmother is this forum. Seriously, there are a lot of experienced, professional women here who would be happy to share what they know - just ask. Also, ask yourself what a travel buddy would really do. Presumably you are not sharing clients and you should be able to afford your own hotel room. You might want to consider contacting escorts in the cities you want to visit, see if any of them are interested in meeting for coffee or a drink when you are in town. Make your own network.
I know it's hard, but you've got this, sweetie!
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Late but thanks so much ladies. Everything you said was true. A woman convinced me to get with her and i wouldn't have to get rooms in my name. Worse mistake. They smoke and try to in my room and just so much drama. Solo I had less and was always on time. Always bragging about how much she made. End rant
Re: I need a fairy God mother
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3) Your fairy godmother is this forum. Seriously, there are a lot of experienced, professional women here who would be happy to share what they know - just ask. Also, ask yourself what a travel buddy would really do. Presumably you are not sharing clients and you should be able to afford your own hotel room. You might want to consider contacting escorts in the cities you want to visit, see if any of them are interested in meeting for coffee or a drink when you are in town. Make your own network.
Agree with this. Honestly in 6 years of sex work I have met ONE person that I could trust, I worked with her at the first SC I was at. It's almost impossible to find anyone in this industry who won't backstab you to make some money, doesn't have some secret agenda, isn't on drugs or suffering from some mental instability. Honestly I don't even flinch anymore when people make stereotypes about sex workers because sadly so many women DO fall into those categories. If there was a place where just SW girls worked, I would be so down.
I found the internet to be a much better place to network even if I never met anyone (only never meeting is better, no way for them to scam you/steal from you/drive you nuts/etc). If you're on a forum you don't even have to reach out to them, just read what they say. There are lots of escorting forums and there are lots of escorts on this forum you can speak to. When I was renting a room in a flat to work out of I had a bunch of different flatmates and the ones who didn't speak to me were always the best ones. The others 'borrowed' my stuff without asking, were always drinking the alcohol I bought for clients, left a complete mess, never bothered to do things like wash the shower for clients or buy toilet paper, were constantly asking me for little things that were cheap but added up over time. I don't know why you'd need a traveling partner, you'll just have to deal with all of that... do you really want to share a room with someone? That's going to cut down on the amount of bookings you can do since you'll have to work with each other's schedules.
As for numbers, I used my old iPhone and put a prepaid card in it that I filled when it was empty. My number was plastered online but it never went back to me since no one who knew me had that number and my name wasn't on any phone contract. I told people not to call/text after a certain time and I turned the phone off at that time. If they wanted to call at 2am, go ahead. I'm not going to hear it, and if you can't read my ad/website through and respect my boundaries, you're no client of mine. I find doing things that really helps weed out the bad ones. Just small little things you ask clients to when they contact you, if they don't do it they haven't read the whole ad/looked at your whole website and that makes them unlikely to become regulars or even good clients (how do they know you're a fit for them if they haven't read through? how do they know what kind of experience you're offering if they haven't read through? do they even know your price list?.
Finding a photographer should be pretty easy. Just do a search for "glamour photographers" and see what comes up. You may have to travel to find someone you like but it's expensive and it's 80% of the advertising on your page, so it's worth it. And the photos should last you a good long while as long you take care of yourself and don't make huge changes to your look.
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Honestly your fairy Godmother as an escort is really a Fairy Godfather (aka a client turned friend or sugardaddy.) Men who are not running scams & just want a pretty young lady fwb are willing to help you out when no one else will. A couple of my guy friends have really saved my grass. Trust me, 90 percent of guys are not good enough for this kind of thing, but there's often a diamond in the rough.
edit to add- yeah stereotypes about strippers/escorts exist for a reason. Be grateful when you can't be lumped into that category...