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I work 3 times a week. Saturday day, Sunday&Monday nights. I used to work every single day/night. I got tired of it, so once i slowed down i just picked what shifts i enjoy the most ( Which happen to be the slow shift ) and i just went with it.
When I want something, like new shoes, or a book, or anything I just add it a list i keep in my purse. I put a star next what is more important for me to buy and i only buy one item off the list a week. It keeps my spending down, and the numbers in my bank high!
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So pay particular attention to the interpersonal problems. Girls take off time because they need to recover from childhood trauma. They take time off to avoid being triggered by the crazy no win situations in the club with the self absorbed, the predatory, and the substance abusing crowd all around them.
Oh yeah- I'm diagnosed PTSD and dancing is a definite contributor.
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I can't really relate to this. As a self employed person I'm a work horse. I tend to get "lazy" when I'm bored or burnt out...but when I start a new business or go back to dancing I tend to work myself into exhaustion-for better or worse. I get addicted to money and making the sale (on all platforms, not just dancing) and it's hard for me to stop.
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I can't really relate to this. As a self employed person I'm a work horse. I tend to get "lazy" when I'm bored or burnt out...but when I start a new business or go back to dancing I tend to work myself into exhaustion-for better or worse. I get addicted to money and making the sale (on all platforms, not just dancing) and it's hard for me to stop.
I totally get it. I've learned to use my "easily bored" personality trait to my advantage in the last couple years. Learning how to best structure your daily activities is a skill akin to developing a healthy diet-- but for your mind. My friends used to tease me about how busy I always was in high school--I had 2-3 jobs most of the time since about 15 on, volunteered, skated 3 days a week and graduated with a 87% average (damn you first period chemistry for blowing my 90!). When I moved out and went away for uni I thought I "deserved" to give myself more free time, and whether a result of my intrinsic personality or my childhood, I abused the shit out of it, What with the newly invented internet tv streaming, and no parents around and all. I need to plan to be busy, as in I need to make myself lists of things to do the night before or when I wake up or I will bum around all day, after all, if it ain't broke, why fix it? When I set myself goals though, I feel as though I NEED to accomplish them, and I sleep easier at night when I have, and generally feel better. It helps to have monetized interests--my hobbies are mostly my various business ventures--because they offer a moneyary reward which is motivating and they also keep me on my toes constantly. It's hard to get bored when you work a job or two and then have a bunch of other work just always waiting for you that interests you--the work never stops for the self employed right? Another bonus is the lack of susceptibility to social misfortunes that would bother me when I was less busy...oh have a date that blows you off? Fuck em, you have tons of other shit to do anyways! That being said as much as I need to plan my goals I need to plan fun time too--again it's motivating and I can enjoy it more when it is moderated because after working 6 days straight it just feels so riiiiight to lay in bed and watch netflix all afternoon--while working on some sidework at the same time of course ;) I also find planning social time every 3 days or so even if just for a couple hours helps stave off boredom, burnout, and workaholicism. Always be doing something, but always be switching it up.
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^ I am actually usually a 'workhorse' type... I think dancing is a combination of things that makes me unmotivated; the 'don't have to' factor, the 40 mile drive to a decent club, $10 dances and the 'culture' of clubs here, etc. The fact that I intentionally took a gap year to not be in full-time school and had the mentality of it being the "fuck around" year probably didn't help the motivation to go to work.
I seem to do best when I work 3 shifts on, 1 shift off and then take several days in a row off after a bit of that. Charlie is always saying how it's super hard to want to go in when you've been off for a week, and it's true.
Another thought I had was that some people (myself included) are suggestible at times. I never knew what "burnout" was until I got on this board, and it became an excuse almost... "I'm not interested in going today, must be burned out, if I don't take time off I'll get PTSD." ::) Vanilla people get sick of their jobs all the time but they don't stop going to work (yes, I know, they can't get a new job next week like we can), but they usually get through the phase of hating it and it levels back out.
Not to say burnout isn't a real thing, and yes I get that our job is not exactly the same stresses as a desk jockey, so nobody jump on me for that :)
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I've been in a lull for a little bit now & I've been only going to the club when I either need to pay my bills or if I'm getting bored being at home. I'm def burnt out of working in my club no doubt, but I've been doing side jobs for money as well as looking for other avenues instead of feeling like I am tied to the club. It def helps. I'm feeling lazy today but am pushing myself into going in tonight bc I need the money & I'm bored as hell staying at home.
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^ Same here. I haven't worked in 2 weeks and am finally going in tonight. I feel like such a slacker but I've literally just been DREADING my club. Idk if I'm burnt out from stripping or just from my club/city. I think its the latter.
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^ True that girl! Me & this other girl I work with were doing the same shit this last week hah. It's really hard to maintain esp when the mngr demands a stupid 3 day minimum schedule per week. I've been majorly slacking off & trying to find housekeeping /personal assistant work that'll pay $20 an hour here in my area. I'm def burnt out of my club but not really my area just yet :) Sometimes we all just need to take a week or 2 off from the place just to get back in check with our hustle.
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I've been coming off a long period of burn out myself. This month will be the first month since May that I'll be working consistently. I've found that scheduling everything in my calendar (not just work but doctors appointments, exercise classes, etc...) has helped immensely. I even plan my meals. I also make sure that I get lots of rest on my days off and also take a bit of time off to see my family . I spend my days off catching up on sleep, listening to podcasts, reading Stripperweb, doing my nails, eating well. I also redo my budget/savings goals every month and make going into work and making money sort of a fun challenge. My schedule for this month will be Wednesday thru Saturday. Defintely make sure to rest, decompress and treat yourselves well ladies. We all fuck this up sometimes but the point is to recognize when to slow down.
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I've been dealing with this a lot recently. If I don't have a regular scheduled to come in, it's very difficult for me to make myself go to the club, especially because this summer has been so slow, which means the club is usually packed with girls and very few customers. I'm actually debating whether or not I'm going to go in today (particularly because I'm cooking dinner for my boyfriend tonight, and if I didn't go in, I would have time to make the much nicer dinner I was originally planning versus the chicken parm and spaghetti I'll have to make if I spend all day working), and I have this just impending sense of dread despite having taken some 5-htp to calm myself down.
I'm thinking I may just need to take it easy the rest of this summer and go back to a stricter schedule in the fall--the only problem being that once school starts I've already got a couple days blocked out for having class. I've only been making on average ~3.5k a month as opposed to the 4-5k (which might not sound like a lot to many ladies here, but is plenty to support myself and save a little, as I live pretty modestly) I was making working fewer shifts in the busier seasons. Seems like it makes more sense to take a break and deal with burn out now rather than getting burned out and working less during the busy season.
But I also have this fear that the busy season is never really coming back and I'm going to be running myself into the ground trying to make $200-250 a shift forever now. It's not a good headspace to be in!
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I get lazy when I hit burn out mode. It's unintentional but part of why I'm a part time/on and off dancer only. I'm pretty useless and broke When I get to that point lol
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I got like this maybe a month or two ago. I could practically recite every word a customer was going to say before he said it. Mental burn-out. Take a longggg break and come back when you start to miss it again.
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I don't have the lazy factor when it comes to going in to work. Its after I'm there 3 hours, there's 10 guys, only 7 are tipping, and theres a rotation of 4-5 girls so I never get to sit down. I get to the point where I basically walk back and forth from pole to pole, bed over, swivel a little and walk back. Because dancing my ass off for $5-10 a set is not worth it. And I work long shifts, usually noon to 2am. I do change my outfit every 2 sets so guys don't get bored. But I am to the point where I want to get my two songs over with, collect my tips, get a dance or two and sit in a dark corner somewhere.
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I have danced for going on 10 years, and I can tell you, even after traveling a little, witht he wayt he economy has been since 2008/9 I haven't enjoyed dancing at all. It feels like slave labor and it is NOW degrading. I've never felt so degraded as a dancer, and the only reason is bc men expect more for less, and the clubs are charging dancers more. It seems we are getting fucked from every angle, and not in the way I like.
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I have danced for going on 10 years, and I can tell you, even after traveling a little, witht he wayt he economy has been since 2008/9 I haven't enjoyed dancing at all. It feels like slave labor and it is NOW degrading. I've never felt so degraded as a dancer, and the only reason is bc men expect more for less, and the clubs are charging dancers more. It seems we are getting fucked from every angle, and not in the way I like.
How was it different before for you? When I first started we had a small house fee but got to keep all our dance money. Now they take money out of dances, I feel pressured to tip out everyone a lot....i thought about going back sometimes but it's hard to motivate myself remembering all of that shit
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This thread is super interesting. I tend to be a "lazy" worker (with dancing or any job) as long as I'm meeting my goals/standards. I've had anxiety problems all my life and I just don't like to push myself harder than necessary, for health reasons. I also have a weird dislike of strictness, which is probably some deep-rooted psychological problem, lol. I haaate being obligated to do something, even if I'm the one who came up with the plan. For example, if I tell myself I have to work Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday, I'll find some reason to change one of the days just to prove I have autonomy.
But I also think it's human to only work as much as you need to. Especially if dancing is your only income source or if it becomes too much of a focus in your life, since it's a mentally/physically draining job.
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"Part of my issue is also that I get bored very easily. Most of the customers are nowhere near the same mental playing field, like not even in the same baseball stadium, and the asinine conversations night after night really grind on me. It frustrates me to the point of nearly exploding when someone OTC tries to make small talk. Switching clubs won't cure it; still the same boring ass customers save the one or two gems every couple nights. This translates into another mentality akin to the Bitch Hustle where I'm like "Uh hello, you should be paying me just to bask in my presence, common folk!" There's often not enough $$ in the club, except for the 4 months of season, to make it worth being around these people to me."
Ok. Are you there to meet fascinating people- or to take their money? I think it's easiest to bank when you go into work with a set of priorities 1) show up, 2) meet generous men who want to spend money and are happy to (no cheap assholes they drain my energy), 3) Chat with them and tease them so they ask me to dance and THANK ME for taking their money.
I used to be lazy then my best stripper friend bought a house and she was like, yeah, I don't know why you don't work more you should be able to put away 30,000/year if you worked full time... At that point I was still new and had literally never thought of thinking of it as a regular job and how much of my salary I could be saving. Now I try to work 3-4 shifts a week, with weeks off here and there, in order to meet my savings goals. It's not a lifestyle anymore, it's a job.
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Since I started camming I noticed I'm far more spoiled than I could've ever imagined & ya it's great but fuck is it hard to force myself to get camera ready & stay on for hours at a time. I am happier tho since I quit dancing. I feel better as a whole that I don't have to deal with as many shitty factors as I did before.