one of my regs became a 30 sec peeper
other ones just pop in daily and don't say hi
another one started getting cheaper and cheaper with me but would brag about spending $500 a week on girls
they sit in free chat too much
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one of my regs became a 30 sec peeper
other ones just pop in daily and don't say hi
another one started getting cheaper and cheaper with me but would brag about spending $500 a week on girls
they sit in free chat too much
If they're not spending, they're not behaving like customers, but time-wasters and freeloaders. Make your decisions accordingly.
If you don't want to ban them quite yet then I wouldn't even acknowledge the ones that try talking to you but don't spend on you.
As for the one bragging about spending money on other girls, I'd be snarky and say something like "Oh yeah? When did you last spend on me?" if he continued I'd eventually tell him that he can go spend that money on them and kindly fuck off, then I'd ban him. It's rude for people to do that. You give me money or your give them money, but don't fucking brag about it in my room!
The ones that come in every day and don't say hi, how about you call them out? If they don't respond then ban them. If they aren't going to contribute then they can go away :P
Don't feel bad about purging the useless or rude. It will make you feel better and worry less!
As soon as they become more trouble than they're worth...literally.
I pay for my makeup, net,laptop, outfits etc..... So I gotta pay for them then they sure as hell gotta pay to sit and either look at me or stroke to me. I don't lets guys sit. I give them 3 to 5 mins. You want a show? no? well go bye bye
Let's just say you were the owner of a fine foods grocery shop. Would you let a guy come in and sample all your food merchandise, talk about how he goes to other shops and spends money over there while at the same time taking your precious time away from other paying customers? Taser ban that asshole with your security guards. Dude is as bad as a shoplifter.
Sounds like this guy has morphed into a frequent freeloader. I had a regular that made a big production about leaving the site several months ago (I'm almost certain I posted about it in Camming sucks thread at the time). It's Jul and his ass is still around.
He won't come into my room anymore instead he'll send me novel like emails a few times a month.
Or a comment when I change my profile pic.
He got butt hurt because I didn't want to take things off the site and that I didn't see him as "more than a client".
Oh well.
I'm almost certain too that he comes on as a guest on a site I split with, and makes feeble attempts to troll. It'd be funny if it wasn't sad.
Fuck 'em.
I spent most of June banning really good regulars. Straight up banned five of them, matter of fact, and they were all $150+ per month spenders (my cut). Some reasons for banning these particular customers: constantly coming into my room on SM to talk about a skype show on CMD; regularly IMing me about his very specific fetish without buying a show; giving me the run around on whether or not he was going to pay; pre-paying for a show without asking me first then getting pissy when I'm unavailable and bitching for a week; ignoring/pushing my boundaries; trying to get a discount; wanting constant dirty talk over IM for free (CMD/Skype boys); and so it went on and on. Those are all valid reasons to ban, but they're also all different and not all-encompassing.
I ban because I feel 1) disrespected or 2) uncomfortable. Simple as that. When a dude starts acting entitled or like he has actual feelings for me (NOTICE TO ALL LURKERS: CAMGIRLS AREN'T INTERESTED IN DATING YOU!), I'm all sorts of out. The Fun Times Train has come into the station and these dudes are loitering around in hopes of getting a free ticket for the next round. They're taking away time I could be using to get new paying customers who won't give me a headache and burning me out. That's why I ban.
In other news, my banned list on Skype/SM has now exceeded 1200. Most of those are from skype requests of 'paypal bb?' but probably 50 of them are customers who used to spend and just stopped. Feel no guilt--someone new will always be ready to replace them.
I recently blocked a regular that was coming once at 2 weeks in the past, during several months and he was making me $300 worth exclusives. Last time he shown up after 3 months of silence , joining the premium and complaining the price is too high and he ain't got money to waste with "bla bla bla" and "just take off clothes and do your thing".
Say WHAT???
Fuck off. I BLOCKED him out of private.
He suddenly cnahged 180 degrees in his behaviour and I did not tolerate. It actually hurt me because he used to be an awesome person and he was rarely asking for shows. I felt bad all the night for banning him but no matter what, i don't accept this shit.
The end.
I ban regs a lot, for all types of offenses, some solid some not. There are members that I wouldn't ban unless something really, really, REALLY bothersome happened because they make up so much of my income. Yes, they ask to meet, yes, I say no and change the subject. They have the choice to stop seeing me if this doesn't work for them, but I'm going to keep on taking their money. But we are talking about extrodinary clients, probably 35k over the last couple of years with gifts offline, etc etc. Some of them are worth putting up with little annoyances, but these clients are rare.
Why the fuck do so many of these men think they can meet us? I simply don't understand the logic. There are millions of dating sites, wtf.
Oh that's easy, because they've met cam girls before. Two of my big regs have "dated" multiple cam models. This is why I can't get angry about this shit, it's mixed messages.
Also, most of them are married. Much easier to try with your favorite cam model (who also needs a level of digression) then find someone in your area. I just don't understand why they don't seek out escorts instead, in the end it would be cheaper. Maybe it's because they've already developed a relationship...eh, who knows
On SM at least, I will ban paying customers from my room but not PM's. I've had a few come crawling back saying they'll pay/behave if I unblock them. I had to ban one of my best-paying regulars from my room because he couldn't figure out we weren't 'friends', but that he was a client, no matter how much I emphasized the paid nature of our relationship. Having my Skype doesn't give you free reign to message me whenever you want just to 'chat'.
Unless, of course, they've really crossed the line somehow. Being rude or disrespectful or demanding (unless it's D/s/humiliation roleplay that's been negotiated and they respect my hard limits) is an insta-ban. These people are not worth the money they provide. Even if you have really good self-esteem, the emotional drain gets to be too much.
Ban him, his shelf life has expired.
Because of sites like Chaturbate.
A lot of members are coming from there or MFC and are "landing" on Streamate.
They don't know the rules are different and the site not that open in letting to share contacts and so, because they don't bother to read them.
They were used to some type of behaviour from other models they interacted with on the other sites and expect us to do the same here.
I recently saw on twitter a model from chaturbate (i won't say her name because is not my business) that she was running a sex raffle.I even got a DM from her (probably was automatic because we just follow each other, never interacted in any way) about this contest.So this made me convince myself why members think that for a 100$ spent , we OWN them a sex session hahaha :))
Also members are shocked for seeing us not showing anything in freechat.
So is like you take an already "trained" dog from another owner and struggle to "re- teach" him that is not ok to pee and poop in the middle of the house and he must do it outside.
Tough but is madeable.
When they start using my room as a hang out spot / come often not intending to tip or buy a show
I don't think date raffles and escorts on cam sites make men think they can meet ALL of us. I'm talking about the guys where you tell them you will never meet them but they keep trying to persuade you regardless and they become really fucking annoying. I've decided just to weed as much money as I can out of guys like this because they obviously like it that I keep saying no, might as well make it worthwhile. I now consider it a "rejection fetish" and I charge for it like everything else. Convince me to meet you 1000 tokens for 10 minutes.
I ban guys who give off the "I'm creepy and potentially unsafe" vibe, no matter how much they pay. Also regulars who out of nowhere become persistent about fetishes I don't do or illegal things.
My reasons for banning a regular:
1. Insistent on meeting in real life
2. Becomes a 30 second peeper
3. Drains your emotional & mental well being
4. Creepy
5. Expects you to "owe" them for all that money they gave your services already paid...
I just came out of a show with a long time regular going back maybe two years now, and I've decided no more. He was relentless today about meeting me. I will never meet him. I don't even like him as a custie, and I think he's gross. I stuck it out for so long because he was a consistent source of money, but now I'm done. He wasn't this bad before, but now I can't even do a show without him bothering me about it throughout the entire show.
And, he keeps going on and on about a camgirl who met him and another camgirl who met him. I'm so sick of this turd.
For not paying
For talking too much and expecting all my attention in free chat.
For constantly trying to meet, get my number, and find out personal info about me.
For expecting deals because they spend a certain amount.
I'll block a reg for anything they do that annoys me. They're all replaceable imo.
Oh yeah, also when they throw "I love you" around too much. So creepy..
I ban freely and at all times, even if they pay a lot. If they drain me, gone. Its not worth the money, period.
I have a guy just like that, i m wondering maybe they are the same. (On Jasmin) However i don t bann him. He just come > asks if he can come - again and again. Sending his email, phone number endlessly. Whatever i say his answer: "fuck that" and start to ask again if he can come. He shows pics about other cam girls, who he dates with.
Sometimes he jumps into the room, while i do pvt with someone else. I just stop and kick him out. Never get dressed down to him.
On Jasmin, u can t bann anyone, they relog, and they can come back.
once i had a fucking cheap - disgusting guy > I ve banned him when i was like about to cry. (all his pvts were like 10 seconds, no need to tell what he wanted to see...) 5 mins later, customer support came to my room, because a member complained about me... They questioned me how i imagined that, i MUST do whatever he asks. *.* Uhumm okay. That happened years ago, when i started to work there.