Tomorrow is my first day and I'm terrified...
OK girls I'm freaking out I'm having anxiety attacks about tomorrow, as I mentioned before its my first day escorting, incall at a hotel. I'm worried the guys will not like me or I wont know what I'm doing, I need a pep talk or some encouragement. I apparently am going to see a couple of guys tomorrow so It's not like it's just one guy I have to worry about. What if they are rough or mean? IDK I'm just freaking out here and have no one to talk to because I dont have any friends that do this or that know :'(. I really cant afford to back out, I'm completely broke and already have set things up with the agency plus I really want to go through with it, I'm just scared.
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I have been following your posts & esp after reading this ^^^^ why not try stripping first? It's cash-in-hand just like escorting (read: immediate pay as long as you have the sense to get your $$$ upfront) & sex acts are not part of the job description, in fact they are well outside of it. Many clubs also often waive at least the first nite's fees, sm of them even waive part or all of 2nd-3rd nite's fees as well IME. You also don't have an agency breathing down your neck to do anything, it is def a sink-or-swim environment but at least you can do it largely at your own pace.
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I live in NYC and it's really hard to get hired at the good clubs when you are curvy and voluptuous aka big booty, I worked in Queens in March at a club and was miserable, plus the money wasn't very good, I especially know Summer isn't good in this city and I need money now. Thanx for the suggestion but I tried that and it just didn't work out well for me.:'(
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Most important, stay safe. Don't do anything you're not comfortable with doing. You have to come up with a persona. Someone you can become that's strong, confident, sexy. Think of someone you know that really has their shit together and mimic her. How would she handle this or that situation. For example, the client doesn't want to use a condom. Rehearse in mind how you are going to handle that situation. Think of how you dealt with trying to return something that you bought and they won't give you back your money or something like that. Stay in control of the flow of the appointment. Keep it casual.
Greet them at the door, "Hey you, nice to finally meet you. Come on in, sit down. Let get to know each other a bit." And let it flow from there. You're going to make so major mistakes, everybody does, but it gets easier with experience.
Re: Tomorrow is my first day and I'm terrified...
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I live in NYC and it's really hard to get hired at the good clubs when you are curvy and voluptuous aka big booty, I worked in Queens in March at a club and was miserable, plus the money wasn't very good, I especially know Summer isn't good in this city and I need money now. Thanx for the suggestion but I tried that and it just didn't work out well for me.:'(
If it's necessary & possible, commute. Philly or NJ might yield better results. Have you only tried/worked at one club? I ask only bc that's the impression I got from your post, that you actually worked in only one club so far. Idk much abt NYC admittedly since I have nvr worked there, but there is a wealth of info in Club Chat & Hustle Hut to improve your skills & chances of finding a club that's a better fit for you.
I strongly suggest sticking w/ dancing for the moment only bc the desperation in your threads on escorting is palpable. That's the worst state of mind to be in while escorting, esp when just starting out. That's when you are most likely to suppress the inner voice that tries to tell you when smtg is not a good idea, & those kinds of risks can have even worse consequences as an escort than as a dancer. :cop: :rip:
But if you're hell-bent on going down this road -- Read Up on everything here. I have nvr escorted -- not my thing, outside my boundaries -- but I :lurk: in this section often. Check out random pages, just like in the stripping sections, I guarantee you will find answers to questions you didn't even know you had. There are also a number of threads discussing safety/screening protocols, & sm stories as well abt how to handle an appt that went way south in a hurry.
As Elektra said above, consider each possible situation & visualise how to handle it, for example if smtg goes wrong w/ payment. Her suggestion of how to calmly but firmly hold your ground is spot-on. The idea of emulating a character that she described above -- mine when I am ITC is Rosario Dawson's Mimi from RENT, that character is so fearless & energetic yet sexy. That sort of visualisation, while it may take a little practise, does wonders toward positively affecting your mindset while you're working.
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Thanx so much for all your advice girls. So I wont be starting today because the hotels where I'm going to start are all booked or super high due to a music festival. I will be starting Thursday instead, dancing is an option but this is something I really want to try even if just for one day to see if it's for me or I'm going to keep wondering if I can go through with it. I love the picking a persona and emulating it instead of me just being myself. Mimi is a great one Aneila, I'm going to take these next few days and figure everything out.