Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
I'm a mix. I'd describe my hustle style as the girlfriend experience but with a twist of professionalism. And by professionalism I mean I value myself and my time and expect dudes to do the same. If they don't I let them know quickly what time it is.
Strip club has different rules and customers cannot expect exclusivity with you especially if they don't have that kind of money to spend with you. Him getting jealous should be motivation to spend money with you if he doesn't want to see you dance for other paying customers.
Use the "walk off" to your advantage and walk off from cheap dudes and douchebag dudes.
Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
I sit and talk with lots of flirting while trying to close the sale as quickly as I can, ideally in 2-3 songs max. If it's very busy or the customer seems keen to go, I'll close after one song; if it's quiet or the customer seems like he has money but will need a bit of additional coaxing, I'll close after 3-4 songs.
FWIW if a customer is getting jealous because you're leaving him to talk to someone else, but he sin't ponying up to buy dances, then he isn't actually jealous. He's just a cheap waste of time who tries to get free company by making the nice girls feel bad. Don't let him make you feel bad. He's the jerk for trying to waste your time.
Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
shanna dior said it all. You should always be closing...If it's really slow or I feel the customer has $$$ I'll talk to him for 10-maybe-15 minutes max but I expect a long VIP or champagne room from that. Otherwise I talk for 2 songs or less before closing a dance or a shorter VIP. On busy nights you don't need to chat at all..Just go around the room and grab them.
Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
If I absolutely can't get them to dance I get up and say, "Oh, I could talk to you forever babe, but I need to go sell dances to pay my rent tomorrow". Depending on how they answer you can usually tell whether they're a waste of time. If they're like, "Go make your money but come back here in a bit babe" or something without an explicit promise of a dance, they're probably never going to pony up so don't go back to them.
Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
Great idea. I'm going to start using that line.
Re: Assertive or 'friendly'
I'm assertive. I walk up, talk for maybe a song then throw my sales pitch. I hate the idea that they expect you to talk to them for more than a few minutes. They know why they're there & I know why i'm there, haha empty your pockets or get lost :)