Re: How to ask for a dance?
Stop "talking to guys" and start selling to them. Never "ask" for dances. Tell them that you are going for a dance. Don't give them an opportunity to say no. "Let's go have some fun." "I'm sure you're ready for me to get naked". etc.
It's not really about what you say so much as how you carry yourself. Work on having sexy and confident body language. Two girls can use the exact same lines, but the one who delivers them in a way that says "well of COURSE we're going for dances" is the one who is going to get the dances.
Don't sweat about approaching the "wrong' customers. Approaching everyone is your best bet, but if they're not a biter, move on.
You'll find your personal style, but 9 times out of 10 I'll just use something like:
"Hi, how are you doing tonight?"
"Good/Fine/Great/Whatever"
"Well you'd be feeling even better with me naked on your lap."
If you end up in a conversation, use literally every opportunity to bring it back to the sale. Never sit longer than a couple songs- your time is valuable, don't give them lots of it for free. E.g:
"We just came from _____, it was a very friendly bar."
"Speaking of getting friendly..."
"I've had a long day, so I came here to have a drink and relax."
"We should go upstairs, there's no better way to relax than with me naked on your lap"
Re: How to ask for a dance?
Superja is absolutely right- confidence is key! Custies sense desperation and hesitation. If I'm feeling shitty and have been rejected too many times, i leave the floor and regroup. Change outfit, fix makeup, etc. Here lately I've noticed that even if I'm feeling awkward and the guy is looking around at other girls, I can still close the sale with something like "so how much time do you have to hang out? Oh that's perfect! Let me relax you/rub on you/ give you a few minites that you'll never forget!" And boom- we're in vip. I never ever use the word "dance"- these custies nowadays are practically programmed to say no that word it seems!
Act like you just can't possibly resist them or, alternatively, there is a thread on here about "don't take me to vip" which suggests that if you tell them you could have just too much fun, they will argue and be like @i can handle you! Lets go!" It has worked for me about 75% of the time.
Best of luck- you'll find your groove. And if all else fails, play the newbie card "I'm so new at this, wanna help me get some practice?? (Giggle)" ;)
Re: How to ask for a dance?
Think of it this way, if you don't offer to dance for them, there is a good chance a customer is sitting in the club just wishing a girl would ask him if he is ready for a dance. The customers are sometimes intimidated by the dancers, especially the ones they don't already know. You have to take that first step, because he is too nervous around these sexy, beautiful, scantily clad women.
How many men left the club wishing you had just asked them for a dance?
Here is a basic sales approach that works in just about any low cost sales situation (High dollar items like fine jewelry, fine art, real estate, and cars is slightly different):
1. Non-business opening line ("Some weather we're having here!")
2. Introductions
3. Getting to know you questions (What's your sign, who's your favorite team, etc)
4. Open the sales conversation (Have you been here before? Do you like getting dances? Have you heard about our Champagne Room?)
5. Trial close (I've got some time before my next regular gets here, would you like to join me in the champagne room?)
6. Handling objections (Just got here, too expensive, not ready yet, waiting for another girl etc.)
7. Close or move on to next customer ("Are you sure you aren't ready for a dance yet? Do you want to try a single song lap dance for $40?" If the answer is still no, then thank him for his time and excuse yourself from his table because you have to get back to work now)
8. Repeat until you've talked to all the customers or your shift has ended.
Re: How to ask for a dance?
I was a deer in headlights for the first year I danced. Give yourself time to let the hustle advice sink in. The amount of information on here can be very overwhelming at first, and obviously, the club itself can be overwhelming as well. It takes time to integrate, understand, and effectively utilize all of the sales advice in HH. You probably won't truly start to 'get it' for a while. Until then, just experiment with different tactics. Get a sense for what definitely doesn't work and what seems to be promising. Focus more on getting your 'look' together and not being awkward when you strike up conversations. You need to learn to walk before you can run.
When all else fails, show up to work looking as hot as possible, throw on an outfit that flatters your body type, act like you have five functioning brain cells, cock your head to the side like a parakeet, smile like a porno queen, and tell every customer that you're ready to get naughty with them in the back.
Re: How to ask for a dance?
SuperJa's advice is SPOT ON... Very well written description of how to keep the focus of all conversation circling back around to that sale.
Re: How to ask for a dance?
"Five functioning brain cells" lol
Great advice! I think practicing really believing what you're saying is good. If you sound like you're not convinced that he will take you for a dance you'll have a harder time convincing him.
Assume the sale!! You're a hot sexy vixen, who WOULDNT get a dance from you?!