I charge finsubs for just chatting about what they want etc. The ones who are serious and have respect understand and pay.
Alluring into spending? Same like "show ass bb, I'll take you pvt for 5 hours".
Thank you but no thank you.
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I charge finsubs for just chatting about what they want etc. The ones who are serious and have respect understand and pay.
Alluring into spending? Same like "show ass bb, I'll take you pvt for 5 hours".
Thank you but no thank you.
Yassssss girl!
I do too, this is the way i attract many finsubs by allowing a bit of consultation time. I am by no means ever spending an half hour for "free chat" which is basically free fun for them. However, to make sure you are in the right page a few minutes of chatting( just chatting no video) I am fine with also just as their is a lot of fake finsubs the same goes for fake findoms scamming left and right not really who they portray.
There are alot of finsubs and non subs alike who will gladly send me a tribute/tip before they contact me. You have to pay for most pm on my site sooo... there are some genuine ones on edge and a few mins I will allow. I am on enough cam sites, my own site, and every other social media where you can see me live, as well as verified on findom sites so need for me to video chat. Usually after a few minutes of chat state to continue either a tip if im on cam or can talk via skypvt (per min) and 50% of the time they comply the other half give you the whole whatever excuse or generally we not a good fit. I am a femdom in an many fetishes especially taboo so while they will pay a pretty penny for a session, they usually want to make sure I offer it and my do's and don'ts.
On the topic of payment acceptance it sucks because you want more of your money but I do not allow any paypal, google wallet, amazons gc anything that can be refunded or not allow adult transactions.
i tested the theory with one guy, he added me on collarspace and asked my whatsapp, i charged him 50 for 7 days and he paid...lol
hes willing to meet in person though and i said i never did it before, so hes trying to get into that by sending me some money. he then paid 150 on my site to show good will......mmmmmm, ok, still i said: i am not sure i will meet u in person, so if u are tributing with this intention, bette stop. he said: no, its just that i dont want u to think im a time waster. Ok then, keep tributing. but first i gave him 20 mins of chat on skype. i guess it worn work with everyone, but it worked with him.
I am new here, and haven't spent much time on this site other than in this thread. I found it because I've been focusing more on getting guys to use ambien or other hypnotics during sessions and this thread showed up on Google.
I agree that my method won't work for everyone, but I think it's more successful than what some dommes are doing. As in real life, you can't necessarily draw a man in by walking up and demanding something. You flirt, and you make him want you, then you make your move. The same applies here.
Slyvy, it sounds like you took my advice and it worked. And of course, if a sub will insta-pay, take it. But I've found that the VAST MAJORITY of finsubs need to become turned on before they are vulnerable. They have their submissive side that wants to give in, and a rational side saying "think of my wife and kids!" Your job is to help that submissive side win over, which can sometimes mean some unpaid chat. You'll learn, as I have, that nearly all finsubs have a point where something inside clicks into place and they go into pay-mode. Then you cash in. Over time, you'll learn what works on a particular guy, and can usually get him into sub mode asap.
Lately I've been sessioning with a guy who hems and haws and stalls. I chat, and after a bit I show him a little bit of skin on webcam. That is usually the tipping point. Literally, lol. He sends me some small amount, say $5, and once that's done the ball is rolling and he can't stop. $5 becomes $50, and most sessions end up being about $300. I actually spend more time in the free teasing phase (maybe 15-20 minutes) than the paying phase (5 minutes of furious paying). The funniest part is that once he starts paying, he loses interest in the cam show. I'll show my tits BEFORE he pays, and once he starts put my top back on and fire amounts at him. NOT ALL MEN ARE LIKE HIM. But a surprisingly large number are.
I wish you the best, and hope you can buy your house doing what you do, but I have a strong hunch that you're a shitty findomme. The methods you describe are only going to garner you a fraction of what you could be earning. I'd LOVE to chat with your alleged "ambien walrus riding psycho" and see what I could extract from him. If he's willing to pop an ambien before chatting with me, I'm confident I'll rinse his wallet clean and keep every penny.
whats ambien, sorry?
Only a domme's best friend!
It's a prescription sleeping pill that is classified as a hypnotic. It's an easy prescription to get, so tell your sub to ask his doctor for it. Make sure he gets the 10mg pills.
Normally, a person takes one, goes to sleep, and falls into a sound sleep quickly, and sleeps for 5 to 8 hours and awakens refreshed.
HOWEVER
If you make your sub take one, chat about 20 minutes, put him to bed, then wait about 40 minutes and call him, magic happens. He'll wake up, sort of, but be in an incoherent, groggy state. Every guy is different, and some are more susceptible than others, but most will quietly obey whatever they are told to do. I imagine there are limits, but I've never tested it. Mostly I tell them to sign into Paypal and send me money. Or sometimes I tell them to go on cam and hold up their drivers license, state their name, wife's name, home address etc. and then jerk off, eat the cum, piss on their own face, etc. I'm not a blackmail domme, but in the rare case a guy wakes up and says he wants the Paypal money back, sharing that video never fails to get him to change his mind. I've been a findomme for about a decade now and have not yet had a chargeback, so...
Can we get a ban on this member?
This is a community evil_asian. We are family. We look after one another and are weary when new people come on here putting out questionable info.
Yes what you do is a hustle. But for 90% of women that could blindly take your advice could be burned...BADLY.
So when you have less than 10 posts bragging about your earnings using third party payment services that plainly say you cannot process adult payments.
Who's really the shitty one here?
You can have every ambien walrus on the internet evil_asian because you are doing this out of boastful pride. that's not what SW is about. We are about empowerment and education. We do not ever put the upper hand in the hands of a customer or a third party payment service. Period.
This is called Blackmail. This is a felony.
This is not what domination is necessarily about. Although so many customers ask for this, theres already a thread on it. All your favorite top earning cam girls will say "No. I only do fantasy." Why? Because it's a felony. Getting someones wife involved????? Sharing videos to prevent chargebacks?????
oh god.
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im getting scared here....lol
Seriously, this seems like a bad hustle for most dommes because you are using paypal and ambien to get your money. What would happen if he reports you to the police? What would happen if he takes too much? You know, many dommes had got into trouble for not doing safe and sane scenes. It seems that you are not doing safe and sane scenes with many of your subs. Girl, you better watch yourself when doing things risky like this because it can end badly. For example, 6 years ago....two Belgian dommes received sentences for giving their client too much nitrous oxide during a scene.
Im in a mental confusion right now, as i did well blackmailing guys who asked me to do so in the past, im kinda scared of doing it now as im older and wiser, that this could lead me into trouble. this guy on aw asked me to blackmail him and gave me a lot of his info ( which i dont know if its true) to take money of him every month. should i do it? can this get me in trouble even if im in a different country as he is? advice girls, pls. ty
I've found that submissive clients that swear they want things like this done to them are completely fickle.
Yes right now he's egging you onto do it but the reality is he could switch this on you entirely and then what? It's illegal to post private photos. Illegal to disclose personal information. Blackmail is a felony. And you'd look like a complete stalker by knowing all of this personal info. Remember, your client could deny it all and now you just look insane.
Its not worth it. And any guy who wants someone to take the money leaves a perfect opportunity to cry to their bank later and say the funds were "taken" and technically he'd be right. The bank would reverse his charges and maybe even investigate who took the money. Another not so good reality of "taking" funds.
Stick to fantasy. Keep it within your sessions and have him tribute you via an adult processor or cam site where chargebacks are unallowed. Anything extra outside of your session by him...remember you as a Domme run your empire. So if he begs and begs...shit that's grounds for termination in my book. No means no. If he respects you and wants to pay he will do it on your terms.
A true money pig won't be so particular about how the fantasy goes down. That's a male Dom who is getting one over on you. Money pigs will say they like being blackmailed, taken advantage of, or forced to pay and that's that. You decide how it goes down and they totally comply. The only men I know who are hat particular are male doms. Not real subs. And frankly when they get that picky I stop talking. Even if they pay. Or I half ass it so I get money and they will stop coming back on their own accord. Yes I deliberately waste their time as payment for wasting mine. Note, this is also a phone issue too. Except they don't get a refund. Same
Shit.
A lot of men try to take advantage of Dom females. Show feet. Games. Feet. I'm not going to say vanilla women don't catch them too. But we are naturally at least in character and we will bitch slap a loser so fast. You can't get one over on a femdom who's been at it for a while. But like all you live and learn.