Re: "Can I take you home"
Short answer is that without promising something you have no intention of delivering, you just can't keep them spending. Not all customers come to the club to get dances -- some come explicitly looking for some after hours fun, so once they feel they've spent enough to get a dancer comfortable with them, they'll pop the question. If you say no, they're most likely off to the next dancer in hopes of securing a yes. Unless your club is literally full of them, just keep doing what you're doing and immediately focus on other customers.
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I just say 'sorry I don't do that'. I've had customers still spend money it just depends on the guy. Sometimes they have money and they really like you so they will still maybe get some dances or a VIP or two even though you said no. I'll also say something like 'I just met you!'. You can still say no but keep it nice and make yourself sound like a good girl. But there are also the customers who come in strictly to find a girl they can take home without even spending any money and those are the guys you just say no to. I mean if the sweet responses don't work and he's still insisting on taking you home rather than spending anymore money then you know to walk away.
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^ I also say something like "*giggle* I just met you though!" Worked for me last night, the guy kept paying me to sit with him under the guise of "Well then let's talk and get to know each other."
Other silly responses like "Oh no, I have to stay here until realllllllllly late" or serious ones like "No I'll get fired if they see me leave with you... but we can definitely have some fun in the VIP!" may get you some $$ or at least get him to drop the matter.
The guys that do this are split. Some can be hustled out of some $$, usually the nice ones who are enamored with you, but some are literally not interested at all in buying dances from you and should just be walked away from... they're just jerks looking to hook up with a stripper.
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Yeah. I've done the "but I just met you approach" before. Some guys keep spending, but the caveat is that a lot of times, IME, they keep pushing the issue until they receive a blatant "NO." Then they're uninterested in buying anymore dances because they really wanted to hook up with a stripper and thought that I would magically change my mind because they spent a lot of money. However, at this point I don't care because I've already made as much as I would get from them, and I'm tired of being hassled to go to their hotel room. Lol
Other guys will not spend money trying to convince you, but that's okay too, because they never intended on spending money anyway. I'd rather know that up front than waste a bunch of time talking and trying to schmooze them into getting a dance that they never intended to buy anyway.
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I always comment "it's so early, and I have to stay until close (1:30)" because I find this question coming up a lot only at 9-11pm. If they still ask, I tell them "if you can find me after we close, then I'll think about it."
Been using this line a good 8 months, and I haven't once ran into the guy after close. Either we're packed and I dip out the front door, or all the guys are gone and I go out a back exit. Never really though about how that question affects them buying more dances, because that answer seems to satisfy them. When I used "I just met you" at a heavy extras club, that really did not fly so I had to think of something else. Not to mention, that opens the door to them asking again when you "get to know each other."
Don't get me wrong, It can be bad to give them mixed signals. I do get a ride home from my large roommate so being followed isn't particularly a concern of mine. If I get asked to go home with them before selling a dance, I give them only 30 more seconds of my time, promptly asking them for a dance (typically it's a no).
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I've been responding to this type of request with the "but I just met you" line, but a lot of guys seem to comeback with "we'll meet at the bar next door when you get off and get to know eachother better than we could in here" (they don't seem to be deterred by the fact that I get off work at 6am either). I tell them I'm not going to meet them OTC if they've already rejected me (by not buying a dance, as this is usually people who haven't spent a dime because they intend to spend it on "the real thing" OTC). Are these just lost causes?
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I know some will disagree with me on this method but here it is,
" I would love to meet you later but so many times Ive gotten stood up by guys before. They are either too drunk or already asleep by the time I get off work, they don't pay etc. I will only meet if I know you're serious and are willing to give half the agreed upon amount in the form of a champagne room right now. I'll consider this my deposit and it will give us a chance to get more comfortable with eachother."
Most guys won't explicitly ask for sex straight away unless they are foreign or just really stupid. Most of the time they will say something along the lines of "how much would i have to pay for you to meet me out side of here." So as long as they ask like that without asking anything explicit and as long as you just say you will "meet them" and not agree to an explicit act, I think you'd be ok.
Is this method deceitful? technically yes. But as dancers the name of the game is to get the most money without doing anything illegal. Customers are grown men and should know that we tell them what they want to here for a price. By doing this deal we are simply playing into their "meet up fantasy" for a price. If they weren't willing to gamble with their money they should have hired a professional escort to begin with.
I also work at a club where basically every customer is on vacation and very intoxicated. So therefore I rarely see the same customer twice and if I do see them again, they were usually really drunk the night before and don't remember anything.
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I just lie and tell them I am taxiing for one or two other girls who are prone to getting wasted and I can't leave them hanging. That way the customer might be more inclined to either come back in the future and spend more money or spend more money at that time anyway (and probably whining the whole time about how it sucks that you're driving others that night). It's worked for me a handful of times.
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My answer to this is always just a very blunt " No " with a sweet smile. If they ever ask why, I normally say "because I dont want to " with a look on my face that seems like ive never been asked about going home with anyone. Somewhat confused, some what shocked face.
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There's levels to this shit. If they want to take me home, they can take me to the private room first and stay until 4 and then we can talk about it..that's what I tell them.
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Lately I tell them I have to work at my day job in the morning, or that I have class (even though I graduated from college in 2004, lol). If that doesn't work I tell them they should get dances so I can get to know them better. If I know the money isn't going to happen I tell them my husband wouldn't like it just to fuck with them. Bti should start telling them yes, and my home is in VIP.
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"I'm sorry. We don't offer take-out service..."
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I say something like well were already right at "home" and as a matter of fact we can get real comfortable on the couch in VIP.
If they keep pestering and don't give me any money then I make up an excuse to leave......then I move onto greener pastures.
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miss.a.p1600
I say something like well were already right at "home" and as a matter of fact we can get real comfortable on the couch in VIP.
If they keep pestering and don't give me any money then I make up an excuse to leave......then I move onto greener pastures.
when I say that they always say 'no i don't like it back there/ it's uncomfortabe/ dirty/ whatever' (which it really isn't). I never know what to tell them or if I should just leave
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crystalize
when I say that they always say 'no i don't like it back there/ it's uncomfortabe/ dirty/ whatever' (which it really isn't). I never know what to tell them or if I should just leave
They're probably just making excuses and being cheap but if you want to give them benefit of the doubt, one sales technique is to address their objections like say "what do you mean by that" and explore their response or say "that's what my last customer thought before he went back with me and realized how comfortable and clean it really is" or something to this affect.
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"Im not chinese food, you can't take me out."
or if its slow and seems like it might work "lets start with a lap dance" and i intentionally dont answer their question. Usually, i have no patience for this shit, and would rather jsut bluntly tell them its not on the menu and go on to the next customer.
just remember, even if you dont meet customers after work, even agreeing to is illegal. So if you are going to agree to do it (and follow through or not) just be aware it could potentially land you in trouble with management or cops.
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I usually just laugh and say, "I am very expensive to keep."
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I say " sorry I only party in here!"
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"Only if you have long hair and listen to metal." ::) (99.9% of the time they don't )
Or I make up sn impossible question for them to answer.
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Joke in a sexy way. Humor usually defuses these verbal ultimatums
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SnuffleUffleGrass
Joke in a sexy way. Humor usually defuses these verbal ultimatums
Depends on my mood. I just realize i've never said the "i've just met you line" but i have said, "I know nothing about you, you haven't even gotten a dance from me and i'm supposed to just agree to go home with you? That's dirty!" Or sometimes I'll even say, "baby steps, honey. You gotta do something for me before I just agree to do something for you." Or if i'm not with it, I'll just say,"This is a strip club you have back page for that." and then I walk away. I have no problem walking away from people. especially if its busy I don't need to waste time trying to convince you about why you should spend money on me inside the club. I just move on to someone who "gets it" and is trying to have fun not take a girl home.
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Ugh I need to read this thread every day!! I have about a guy an hour asking to meet outside the club and I need to have these lines up my sleeve as to try to at least get some sales out of them before I ditch these losers
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My club is filled with these dumbasses. If they're already paying for dances, sometimes I'll play along and not give a straightforward answer, like "I don't know, but you're sooo cute..." I feel zero guilt leading on these guys to get some extra $ when they're asking for illegal activities at my job. If they're not buying, then I tell them no, because this is a nice club and girls here don't do that.