Only my husband and my sister know I'm camming. What should I tell everyone that I don't want to know what I really do? What do you tell people your job is?
Thanks in advance for any replies :)
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Only my husband and my sister know I'm camming. What should I tell everyone that I don't want to know what I really do? What do you tell people your job is?
Thanks in advance for any replies :)
Freelancer copyright writer, transcriptionist, or customer service rep. All doable careers from home. All mindnumbing as hell so no one asks further questions :P
I tell people I'm a webcam model if I'm ok with them knowing. If I'm not ok with them knowing I either change the subject or flat out tell them I don't want to discuss my employment
I just tell everyone I still work at my vanilla job.....fast food cashier...
My boyfriend, his mom, one of my friends(who is a stripper) and her bf, and then a couple of their friends who I drunkenly told at a party know (but they don't care or even know my full name....) know...other than that to everyone I am just a cashier....but most of my friends are probably scratching their heads because I just bought an iPhone, new laptop and car within a two month period plus I never have to work when they want to hang out....
Honestly I'm thinking about just telling friends I trust I'm a stripper...It's not exactly a lie...and its not that I don't trust them but i don't want them searching for me online(I would if i found out someone I knew was a camgirl....).
I know a lot of people say they are an online customer service rep or have another legit online job but I know that everyone I know would ask to many questions about that...
I write blogs for money! haha. =P
Agreed- I tell my family that I still work at the last vanilla job I had before camming. And, to explain the flexible schedule, I tell them that my job lets me switch to part time whenever I want. I just do this to explain for the fact that I'm ALWAYS available on holidays/weekends when they wanna hang out with me.
When they ask about my job, I'm still kinda reduced to "Oh, yah, it's going fine, still the same ole same old". If they ask for any further details, I make something up and then quickly change the subject. Changing the subject to them tends to get them talking about themselves and they quickly forget about the fact that I answered their question so shadily.
Only my husband knows what I do. Everyone else thinks I work at home for 1800 Flowers.
Hahaha nice!! ^
I personally don't tell because very few people are proven worthy of knowing so.
My bf and roomies know what I do. As for other people... I have a couple of small projects on the side. They make about 30% of my income. I make them out to sound like 100% of my income. I enjoy having another vanilla job that I can take shifts at as I please. And it makes it easier for me to talk about my job. I'm not telling a lie, I'm just stretching the truth, bb. I don't think people need or care to know about what I do. I don't have to be honest with them in order to feel like I am honest with myself. I prefer not to stir up drama-rama.
Also, having a part time job on the side provides my resume with a bit of continuity in employment. When I decide to leave camming or when an interesting project lands on my lap, I can take it and say "See... I've been working all along!"
For about four hours I had a job at home setting up appts for sales reps to come to ppls homes and tell them abiut getting solar panels put up. I tell em that lol.
Only my 2 best friends and my boyfriend know what I do. And I told my boyfriend from the very beginning so there wouldn't be any surprises later on. I don't really have a story for everyone else. But I live in my city alone so my family believes whatever I tell them. They don't know that I hardly ever leave the house so it's not necessary for me to really make up anything. They still think i'm a bartender. But I can't use the bartender story with my friends here or they'll want to come see me. So for those guys, I say I'm a contributor to an online publication which is actually true. But it's not really a job, more like a hobby. And it's definitely is not enough for me to pay my bills. I do need to get a better story together because I have told a few people a few different things and they might actually talk to each other one day and realize my stories aren't consistent. But I guess overall I don't care that much. I mean there are certain people that I prefer not to know (grandparents, parents) but I wouldn't be devastated if they found out. And they would never disown me so I guess that's why I never took the time to develop a good story.
Only my best friend, mother, SO and roommates know my night job. The rest of my family/friends/coworkers have no CLUE what I do.
To everyone else I'm transcriptionist- oh you know, typing up business minutes and sometimes court cases and other random things- I can't really talk much about it, I'm under NDA.
I just recently got part-time counseling position that I DO NOT get paid for (to allow me to keep my resume in check, gain hours towards another professional credential I want and offer extreme flexibility). I just haven't told anyone that I'm not getting paid for this position and that I'm really not working that many hours. Oh, and that I am a freelance writer on the side to supplement my income (which I have done in the past).
My friends know. I feel it filters wheat from chaff, if people judge me for it then fuck 'em. My boyfriend is supportive as are my (few!) close friends.
My Mum knows I cam, but doesn't really know what it means. My Dad (who I have never gotten along with well)doesn't know, though he knows I'm a dancer but turns a blind eye to what type.
My theory is, it's none of anybody's business unless they're close to me-and if they're close to me, they understand me and what I do.
A lot of people I went to school with and such know what I do. My family members think I do mystery shopping and my landlord thinks I do online customer service/ tech support.
I worked at McDonald's as a cover job and I got soooo fed up with the mistreatment there.
Other than my grandparents, everyone I know, knows what I do. But for the fam and random people who don't need to know, I'm a web marketing consultant. Which isn't exactly a lie, because most of what I do IS web marketing. LOL
I also use internet consulting on tax returns.
Word to the wise: Unless you want this info to appear on your credit reports and such, you should NEVER, and I mean NEVER, put anything about "adult entertainment" or camming etc on any rental application or credit application form of ANY kind. Nor should you put it on any document that goes to the government, or any job application (duh), or really any document at all. "Consultant" works and can be explained in any number of ways, though I'm very tightlipped when it comes to creditors and the like asking about my business. I say just enough to answer the question then immediately offer up my tax returns or bank statements and redirect the conversation away from discussing details of my work and back to my financial status. It is completely unnecessary to explain job details to credit bitches. They get the basic info and the financial stuff, and that's it.
I don't tell anyone, my bf, of course knows. I do have a day job, which helps. I tell some people that I do editing at night. And on my taxes, the part about my 1099, I say I am a model and take the deductions for my toys and most outfits.
That age old question again. Was asked this only yesterday by the workman who came to do some odd jobs. He didn't expect me to be in so I just cleared my throat and showed him the jobs he needed to do so I could get on and do some catch up on soaps.
I couldn't do the fast food thing as a cover job once I started camming either...
People would get bitchy with me and I would get bitchy back...whereas I never did before I started camming...I always just took it because I needed the job.
But after camming I got to the point of "what are the gonna do....fire me? I can go home and make more in 20 minutes than I made in my whole 8 hour shift"...
I never realized before I started camming how badly I was being treated there....Cam customers treated me better than fast food customers...and I'm not as nice to cam customers as I was to the fast food ones.
I need to think of a cover FAST! I haven't worked a vanilla job in almost a year and am making over 2k/month camming part time already. Really need to tell my mom and grandma something that won't break their hearts and that also pays well from home! Seriously just looked up 1800FLOWERS but they don't offer jobs in my state! Was thinking maybe affiliate marketing? It that even the correct term? LOL
Hi everyone! This is my first post, I usually just linger. I wanted to put in my 2 cents...my boyfriend (and his friends that he randomly tells lol) is the only one that knows what I do. I don't plan on keeping it a secret from everyone (mostly just family), but I just say I do website work...editing, generating content...no one ever asks many details so I just keep it simple with explaining it. I'm actually pretty shocked how little anyone really cares about how I make my money lol.
The truth!
I know that it doesn't directly answer your post, because you asked about what to tell people that you don't want to know, but it does answer the title...I just tell people what I do.
However, I should add that I don't tend to talk about it that often - I don't feel that "what do you do" is really that fascinating a question, and I tend to avoid it anyway, so half the time, it doesn't even come up with the people I meet. For similar reasons, I tend to brush past it quickly without actually being dishonest - I will say "I work from home" or "I work online", and only tell them the details of it if they really push. It's not from being ashamed or not wanting to be outed, but because I find that working in the sex industry can just completely de-rail a conversation. Suddenly, people have all kinds of questions, they just find it fascinating...and I don't. I find my work fun and pleasant, but I don't want to explain it to vanilla workers over and over again. Just shoot me. I talk about work enough on here!!
On the rare occasions where I feel that someone may not be accepting, or may be offended - for example, I volunteer with a couple of LOVELY ladies who are in their 60s, and are very conservative. They are absolute darlings, but I think it may make them uncomfortable, and I don't want to do that, so I say that I work online, and when pressed, I say "oh, it brings in the money, but really I want to be a writer". It is 100% true, and then they start talking about writing.