Connecting with customers you dislike
I guess the title's pretty self-explanatory, but how do you guys do it? I'm sure some girls prefer not to connect at all with their customers in the club, but that's tough for me. I just dread approaching older customers because I feel like I have to be so fake while talking to them, but those guys are usually the ones with money. So how do you connect with them (or get over it)?
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I just think $$$$ signs lol. It's lil different because in my club usually it's just you grab a guy and give him a lap dance for a song or two then it's over. So if you dislike a guy you gotta be around him more. But I just try and either see other guys or think of a hot guy in my head while I'm with the current one.
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The older ones are the easiest for me. We could trade places lol! But for real though just try to do less talking and more dancing. And that's exactly what I'd tell them to get them in VIP.
And sometimes you do have to be 'fake'. You're in your stripper persona not the real you.
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just have an attitude its all about their enjoyment, all about them in exchange for $ for you..but sometimes we wont get any $ or $ not worth it, thats the downside of that job
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I dislike 99% of the customers in the club, so they're really all the same to me, I just put on my stripper persona and compartmentalize away that part of my personality until the end of the night. There are some customer show I don't fuck w like club furniture regulars and guys who are just straight up assholes or cheap, but other than that every customer is money to me.
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i wasn't aware that there were a whole lot of "likable" customers there anyways haha..although if i TRULY dislike somebody for good reasons or just a gut feeling, i wont hustle them and i'll move onto the next. not worth the cortisol. this job has a very fair amount of acting that goes into it though. when I'm dancing for the 90 year old diaper-clad man i still pretend i'm dancing for chris hemsworth (or whatever your preference) and just go with it. these men come in here to feel wanted because they can't get that in real life.
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i genuinely dislike most men i used to meet at the club. older ones were easy coz they were all suits [upscale club] and suits usually have extravagant hobbies they love telling everyone about so just focusing on that will keep the conversation going and make it seem like youre genuinely interested in them. like leading with a question of what are u guys up to/ hows your weekend/any plans etc and they usually reveal whether theyre fans of travelling, wine, boating, skiing, sports etc.
the more alike guys you talk to, usually they have these hobbies in common [they did at my club anyway] so your conversational skills will be pretty brushed up on topics these older customers like coz youre basically having the same convo every night with different guys.
i have a reg ive been trying to get rid of [more on that here https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...7#post2824717] and basically since i discovered we have the same taste in music so ive always been reading up on band bios, tours and new songs, requesting songs i knew hed like from the dj etc coz i genuinely dislike him and had to be absolutely shitfaced inorder to pretend to like him the very least
all in all, tailor questions to reach into the core of people as quickly as possible, find out what they like, what motivates them and become the person that suits that the most.
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or get really shitfaced, i found that also works lol
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I'm sorry I don't want to jack the thread but...diaper clad???
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AlwaysAutumn
I'm sorry I don't want to jack the thread but...diaper clad???
yeah haha, sorry if that came out bad.."adult pad-clad" i guess you could say,..danced for at least 3 guys i can think of who had incontinence problems
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or get really shitfaced, i found that also works lol
Haha my problem is that this is my solution^ and I'm trying to drink less.
But really, thanks for all the great responses! I'm still fairly new and working on my acting. One of the problems I have is when I act like I'm really into a guy (like Chris Hemsworth ;) ), I don't have a good reason to tell him I won't do extras. Maybe I'm just in a high mileage area, but it seems like if I pretend to be especially into a guy, he instantly asks me to go OTC or do extras right there. (And I've already been acting like I'm super into him.) I'll keep working on it. Is there anything special you guys do to keep your mood up/stay motivated at work? That would help too :)
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OP- read 'Charisma on Command' by Charlie Houpert. Excellent ideas for developing magnetism so that you can connect with anyone, anywhere. Also great for learning how to have a magnetism that makes people instantly like you and want to hand over their wallets ;) Best of luck!!
PS Simone you are too funny!
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I go into my "I have 12 functioning brain cells" acting mode and think only of the money. If this job were 100% about connecting with customers you like, it wouldn't be work. Ya feel? :)
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I'll definitely check out Charisma on Command. Sounds like it could have great tips. Yes, Charlie, I need to adopt your attitude! I'll get my butt in the club and go for it.
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Older guys have stuff to talk about usually (except for the really dirty old men, you know the kind). Poke around until you get him started talking about his hobby or his job and pretend you don't know aaaaaanything but are reaaaaaallllly interested. Maybe you 'need their help'. Etc. A lot like to feel like they're wiser than you so give them the ego boost.
"You write mortgages for the bank? Oooh I was thinking of buying a house. Isn't it hard to get approved?" --> usually they get all eager to give advice and go White Knight on you
"Blackjack is your hobby huh? I don't know anything about it. Is it hard? Maybe you can teach me." --> easily gets him started explaining the rules
Now you've made him feel that you're interested but not necessarily in like, the idea of dating him or something, but that he is an interesting guy, if that makes sense.
Then, insert cute line about dances tailored to the topic. Bam!
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^ That's exactly what I was thinking. I don't necessarily 'like' the older customers but they almost always have way more things to talk about. A lot of them have had pretty interesting lives so just asking them questions about their experiences can lead to a good convo before they start spending money. I met this old man customer who looked like my grandpa but he had travelled all over the world so I asked him about his favorite places. You can have pretty interesting conversations with these older customers compared to the shit these young guys say lol.
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I will be talking to them more for sure. I guess it's just going into it with a bad additude that gets me down. I love talking about travel so I'll try to bring it up with these guys and hope they've gone somewhere,
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Talking about travel actually works really well for me! And gets them in the frame of mind to travel to the back for dances. I also think about money. Money really turns me on so that works for me. I honestly hate young customers. Im in my thirties and have a terrible time being interested in what they have to say because in real life I don't go for guys under 40, lol. But yeah, get them talking but make sure you're still keeping them on track with your goals. I always ask about their experiences at other strip clubs, which keeps them in the right frame of mind and is also useful and interesting to me. And always pay attention to your body language. Mine does most of my work for me!!