Am I going to suck forever? Does anybody have video recommendations? Please help!
Hi everyone!!
I've lurked for a while and I finally decided to make an account.
About me:
Stage name : Foxy
Appearance: Blue eyes, fair skin (some acne but I feel like the lights and the fact that it's under my jawline and healing makes it hardly noticeable), long brown hair, pretty cute, athletic/slender but a little bit of tummy fat (working to get rid of that last little bit) and very, very long legs.
Height: 5 5
Location: Middle of Bum fuck nowhere but it's the only club for 250 miles so maybe that's a good thing?
My first night was a week ago (saturday night) and I made about $260 after tip out which is pretty great considering I can barely walk in heels haha. One girl helped me sell a 15 min VIP and I sold 2 other lap dances on my own
Last night (black friday), the club was COMPLETELY dead until around 1am when a bunch of people showed up. My former personal trainer was even there and he was really sweet but it made me a little bit nervous. His friend (not sitting next to him) put money down (but not all the way down) his pants for my to retrieve and I kind of plucked it out haha... his girlfriend did the same and I was a lot more into that (She was super hot and I'm bi so I was down) and kind of grabbed those ones in a sweeping motion up her tummy. I thought it was sexy considering my experience level but he was apparently unimpressed and told me to step up my shit (at the very end of my set so I just got off stage) which really hurt my feelings (his girlfriend told him to not be so mean). I feel like I was kind of confident before last night and now I just feel shot down.
Does anybody have any advice for videos to watch to get better at lap dancing & stage dancing?
I have a pole in my bedroom so I can start practicing at home but I feel like everything comes really slowly for me :(
Is this just not for me? Am I going to suck forever?
I really don't know what to do on stage because I can't twerk (maybe down the road I can learn but that's not happening anytime soon) so I pretty much just sexily walk around the pole, do figure 8s occasionally, fireman spin, the flyer (except both arms are grabbing the pole), and a pirouette like thing. My transitions aren't the greatest (yet?)
The other dancers said I improved a lot since my first night which is sweet because I feel pretty horrible as of right now
I ended up leaving with only $5 or something after tip out
It was really depressing
I'm considering tipping the DJ $20 so I don't have to do any stage dancing tonight and I can just walk around a try to sell dances (anybody have any tips for cutting a conversation short with someone who isn't buying a dance? or tips on how to say no to giving someone my number/going home with them but still be nice about it)
Video ideas for lap and pole tricks?
PLEASE HELP
I have a dream and I want to make this work but I need to start making money...
Thank you!!
Re: Am I going to suck forever? Does anybody have video recommendations? Please help!
That guy was just an asshole. Don't pay any mind to him.
As for lap dancing, look at your co-workers. Learn by looking at the experienced girls. That's how I learned.
Re: Am I going to suck forever? Does anybody have video recommendations? Please help!
Firstly, don't take money out of people's genitals. Keep going on stage, that's the only way you're going to get better. Don't worry so much about pole tricks at the club. You will look super clumsy if they are not perfected so keep practicing at home until you get more comfortable (unless it's super dead).
Tell them you need to get to know them better before you give them your number, IE VIP.
Watch & Learn. HUSTLE HUT is your friend.
Re: Am I going to suck forever? Does anybody have video recommendations? Please help!
First of all, don't assume you suck just because some asshole told you to step up your game. In general, customers are not to be trusted. There are plenty of guys who will try to make you feel bad just to get more from you.
Next - not sure how your stage is, but with the exception of Friday/Saturday night crowds, I'd say floor work is more important than pole tricks. Definitely watch Youtube videos (StripXpertease is my favorite) and practice to improve your stage performance. I've found that most guys with money prefer sensual movement on stage over crazy tricks.
I wouldn't necessarily skip stage, especially if it's going to cost you another 20. Just think of it as advertising yourself. In a slow club, it gives you a chance to make sure all the customers see you, and you have a chance to kind of flirt with all of them to see who will bite. Just project confidence in whatever you do, and you'll rock it :)
Re: Am I going to suck forever? Does anybody have video recommendations? Please help!
The best advice I got about stage dancing was to Dance like you're dancing for your crush/dream guy and seducing him. You can just move around sensually...No need to do crazy tricks or pole tricks. Agree about not taking money out of people's crotches...It's just tacky and makes you look cheap IMO. I wear a garter and hold it out for them to slip $ in. You need to be assertive and control the customers at your rail or tell them you'll call security if they don't behave. Don't accept rude behavior from them. If a customer acts like that to me I tell him to keep his $2 and ignore him.