The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
Advice on how to ask for a dance ( I know this topic comes up again and again)
how is do you deal with rejection if you are sitting with a customer making small talk and you go in for the would you like a dance after a few minutes and you are rejected.. Do you just say I'll check back with you later?
i don't like to look lazy so I feel it's important to walk around and talk to customers
advice besides wanna dance and doing the small talk for a few minutes
how to deal with rejection! I hate NO
Re: The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
Accept the fact that not every customer is going to go for a dance, regardless of what you do. Also remember to never take it personally- the customer is rejecting the DANCE, not YOU.
Never ASK for a dance. Don't give them an opportunity to say no. Use something like, "You should take me for dances" "Well, I'm sure you're ready to get me naked!" etc.
If they decline I'll push their excuse a little-
"I just got here" - "There's no better way to start your night!"
"I'd like to see you on stage first" - "It'd be more fun for you if we do a private show right on your lap"
"I'm not into dances"- "Well you've never had a dance from me before"
If they still aren't down I'll politely excuse myself- something like, "It was great chatting with you but I have to keep on moving. I'll come back and say hi again in a bit if I'm available." Always add something at the end like that, implying that there's some urgency- someone else might buy you out and then they'll miss their chance to spend time with you!
I don't do small talk. I try to keep my sales under two minutes, and if they try to conversate, keep steering it back to dances. If they want to chat, suggest VIP. You can hang out uninterrupted for X time.
If you've done a lap and everyone has said no, disappear for a few minutes before you do another. Even if the club is dead and you didn't get any dances, THEY don't know that. Always appear in demand and act like your time is valuable, because it is!
Good stuff in these threads:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...sk-for-a-dance
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...Selling-Dances
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...at-first-dance
Re: The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
Remember how little of it is personal. To paraphrase Dita, you could be the ripest, juiciest peach, and you'll still come across people who don't like peaches. It isn't rejection in the personal sense. It's just a "no."
Customers in strip clubs are like customers in restaurants. I only get upset when I find a customer who isn't spending money on ANY of the girls. Because it's unthinkable to walk into a restaurant and not buy any food. But if I offer a customer salmon and he's in the mood for steak, it doesn't really bother me anymore. It's my job to *offer* it, and it's my right to use some strategies to try to close the sale. But anything beyond that is up to the person paying for the service. I get no's all of the time. Your ability to handle those no's graciously, bounce back, and find someone who wants to buy your product is what sets top earners apart from the rest. This is the hardest part of the job, IMO. I've only recently become unshakable when it comes to no's.
Re: The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
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A lot of guys say no. Your business comes from those who say yes. While converting furniture is admirable, figure out how much you make from those who say yes. If you're happy with the amount, don't worry about the ones who turn you down. Sex work attracts a ton of guys who've been turned down in real life constantly. This is their way of getting revenge.
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If one won't somebody else WILL!
Dancing is a sales and numbers game. Don't get stuck on one dude who says no. Keep offering dances and eventually someone will say yes. Say you offer vip/dances to ten guys. Out of those guys at least 3 will say yes. These are average numbers. If you're getting bogged down by one no keep going and talk to more people.
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Wowwwww I never thought of it that way yes they get off on saying no Bc they get turned down! Wow smart
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In Think & Grow Rich he says something like 'every failure plants a seed for an equal success' or something. I like to look at rejections in that aspect. You might have been turned down by a customer but maybe that's because another customer is coming later who wants to spend all his money on you in VIP the rest of the night. Whenever I stay positive like that I generally do well.
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I try to be super positive whenever I get rejected. I put on a smile and say "okay, have a great night!" Wishing them well makes me forget that I was just rejected and having a smile on my face allows me to move on to the next guy seamlessly.
If I've had a really great convo with someone and they don't want a dance with me, I'll ask if there is a particular dancer they might enjoy more. You'd be surprised how many times I've tried to help a guy find a different girl and then they realize how fucking awesome I am and take me to a VIP or do multiple dances with me on the floor. I'll only do this if it's slow in the club, but it's much be like some reverse psychology voodoo or something.
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Originally Posted by
22lligm
In Think & Grow Rich he says something like 'every failure plants a seed for an equal success' or something. I like to look at rejections in that aspect. You might have been turned down by a customer but maybe that's because another customer is coming later who wants to spend all his money on you in VIP the rest of the night. Whenever I stay positive like that I generally do well.
Yeah! I tell myself this when I'm having a difficult time! "Well, I'm getting no's right now because the universe doesn't want me to be busy when the guy who is going to spend lots of time with me in VIP comes in."
Re: The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
Coming from someone who has been a dancer for 12 years now...
DON'T take it personally. I've had days when everyone said no. Then I've had days when everyone said yes. Don't ever be hostile if they say no. Just say "It's okay baby, maybe we can do some later!" It pays to be cool about it. I've had some guys say no only to change their minds on the spot just because I handled the rejection well.
Also, try to make them laugh! Sometimes the sexy act works, sometimes it doesn't. But I find that if I am funny and make them laugh, not only will they like me, but laughter relaxes them and a relaxed happy customer also spends money.
Remember that rejection is part of the biz. Everyone gets rejected at times. Just keep going. You'll wind up with a big spender if you just let it roll off your back and keep going.
Remember..it's better to ask and get a no then not ask at all. And if you get too many no's, go to the dressing room, fix yourself up, then meditate for a few minutes and visualize money flowing your way. Imagine yourself leaving work with a huge wad of 20s, 50s,and 100s. Law of Attraction, baby. It always works.
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fionatulip
Yeah! I tell myself this when I'm having a difficult time! "Well, I'm getting no's right now because the universe doesn't want me to be busy when the guy who is going to spend lots of time with me in VIP comes in."
I do this too! And guess what? I always find that guy.
Re: The pain of being told NO dance REJECTION
Don't talk to them for too long.
Don't ask for dances, suggest he's ready for some. Say, "alright, you look like your ready to see me naked....let's do some dances."
Don't forget the power of eye contact.
If not, keep it moving on to the next guy.
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Sometimes the money is just not there and they didn't come in to spend in the club. The last club I worked in was not my kind of club and a small yokel club where guys do not come in to customarily spend money. You could take into consideration your club's location. When I drive further away from the yokel clubs instead of being told no, I get "yes" and a lot of requests.