Getting bf to play video games with me?
Hey soo, not sure if you guys enjoy video games or even RPG but, I'm feeling a bit left out. I've have always expressed to my bf how much I love playing, he has plenty of time alone and has not played with me in over a year. (Regardless of my asking, I get this impression he thinks I'm just N64 girl, when I like SC, D3, LOL..hell Smash Bros?) I love him, but sometimes I can't help picking up the controller and wanting to challenge my him. Recently he has bought several new games and there is little time to play any myself, so I am just focusing on the branching the business.. I do like having someone who can play with me, why does he avoid it? I've even suggested new things and mention a game, but he just acts not interested. I am completely fair and a fast learning..then after a bit he just stops and moves onto another.. (I am a pretty good gamer and whenever we go to parties, I pick up quick on controller/free movement/Street Fighter style/SC..so I'm confident I can keep up.) Do I keep trying or quit asking? It just pisses me off that he has time for his friends but, not with me.. :(
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Keep asking. IMHO, if you are willing to play he should be playing with you first. I'm totally a gamer girl. That's how me and my ex-bf first connected was by playing video games together. Diablo is a good 2 player game. So are the Legos games. Game with the constant split screen like Borderlands 2 can be fun too, but are a pain to play after a while.
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You should straight-up ask him, "Why do you play games with your friends, but not me?"
I hope he plays with you, because he is missing out otherwise! What kind of guy doesn't want a badass gamer girl to play with?!?! Seriously!!! My bf WISHES I would play games with him, but I only like the classic Super Nintendo games. He only likes the modern PC games. Oh well. lol
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This is gonna sound extreme but I might want to think about getting a new boyfriend if that were me, but I'm older and don't have any patience with being with a man who won't do things with me I enjoy. gotta be more than sex there for me to keep my interest up.
I'd get to the bottom of it soon because why be with someone who isn't going to enjoy activities with you?
I feel like there may be a deeper issue here.
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I am going to suggest we play games again, but I'm not sure if its right that I go out of my way to make that happen. (I don't think that is fair) Talking, listening and having time to do things together is slightly difficult..eventually as I get myself up from this financial position it will come down to whether or not we're happy. Till then, I keep telling myself to just enjoy it while it lasts as there is no guarantee that either of us will enjoy living this way for the next 5 additional years. (which I imagine might be possibly worse) The other issue is that, he wants a family and to settle down making it slightly awkward as I feel its impossible for me to provide him with that..even though having a family would be nice, there is a lot of health issues I have to take care of first. He is literally the foot between landing back into abuse and being a tremendous support for my situation.. Not a terrible guy, always understanding, caring and a good shoulder to lean on when times sink but, as for our future together..it feels like he was a big part in my transition out of utter dog shit. Plus, why wouldn't he want a woman who has family to share and a good financial back bone? There is no way I can see myself having kids when taking care of myself is already a challenge. We have had several talks about it, but its a wait and see kinda thing since we both are not going anywhere by living together. Thanks for the advice everyone and I will be talking to him about it again..
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Wow 10 years ago a hot gamer girl was the score of the century - I guess times have changed. Have you reminded him how lucky he is? I suppose maybe he needs something he can call his own. Also some guys really don't like to be beaten at things by their gf, even if he says he is cool with it.
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laurielegs
This is gonna sound extreme but I might want to think about getting a new boyfriend if that were me, but I'm older and don't have any patience with being with a man who won't do things with me I enjoy. gotta be more than sex there for me to keep my interest up.
I'd get to the bottom of it soon because why be with someone who isn't going to enjoy activities with you?
I feel like there may be a deeper issue here.
I so agree. There needs to be some give and take. If someone loves you they will want to spend time with you...even if they don't particularly enjoy what you're into. If he's really into something that he wants you to join and you don't care for it, than remind him to play games with you.