During "Business Communication" with Custies
So, during the time where you're emailing back and forth to set up the specifics of a show, a custom clip, etc.... When you're asking, "So what specific fetish? POV? And you want me to say what name, do this, do that, etc?" All the nonsense that takes place before hand... IF you are not on cam at the time, so, just via email, typing, etc. Are you in character or not at this point? My gut tells me to be in character but then when I'm kind of a bitch (I'm a Dom), they always seem off-put by it, even if that's the kind of clip/show etc they're wanting from me. Does this mean I'm coming on too strong? Does this mean that I should be more business-like during this time? What are your opinions on the best approach? For some, I imagine this is easy, but with a Dom viewpoint, it's instinctive for me to be a little demanding and sarcastic and I think I may be putting some people off in that way, so just wondering if anyone else had any thoughts.
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Personal input only here.
When I'm arranging a sale, it's 100% business. I'm not in any character at all. For example, on indy shows, it's a quick 'hey there, what kind of show do you want specifically? How long do you want it to be? When do you want to do it? Anything else not already covered here?' They answer, I quote price, they pay, and then I get into character for the video/show/chat/whatever.
The thing is that the potential for freeloaders who are just looking for free dirty talk is very high with this sort of thing, so being 'in character' is just giving a freeloader an easy way to draw out the conversation, waste your time, and get off without paying. Pass, thanks. A dude who's going to pay will do so just as readily with a polite, all business type lady as he will with a lady who's 'in character.' Actually, I'd argue that a dude with cash will pay the former type more readily than the later because, again, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? When it comes to a broke dude, well, they'll very clearly evade answering you and try to stall for time and free shit. Block and move on.
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Yeah, I'm 100% business, too, and I have no problem being bitchy when it's obvious they're trying to get some free sexting from me. 90% of customers do it in some way or another, and I cut them off, redirect the conversation in the way I want it to go, and don't let them have shit from me until their money is in my wallet.
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Yep straight to the point and 100% business, but always polite. My cam persona doesn't turn on until I'm getting paid.
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Thank you all for the responses. Your reasoning is very good -- My problem lies within when they're testing me to the point of "Well, Mistress, what will you do in the clip if I __________?" And the Mistress in me just wants to smack them and tell them to sit down and stfu, but that's not polite, but then when I answer polite, I'm not sure if I'm going against their experience, but I'm definitely going to cut it all down to business as well. what about on cam, in free chat, before an excl/pvt -- If you're a dom, do you act a little dom-my in free chat, or act sweet/polite, normal and however until we get to the paid session? (IE: When they ask for something, do you say, yeah, of course, and when they say something polite, should I be thanking them or acting snooty and distant as is what being a Dom entitles? I'm naturally inclined both ways, so I'm always torn between which direction to go, the customer service part of me that says always be polite! Or the dom part of me that says OBLITERATE THEM!)
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You're applying the advice incorrectly if those problems are coming up with clips. The fuckers going 'well, yeah, but what if (x scenario)?' is just another way of trying to coax free dirty talk out of you. If what they're looking for is directions from a dominatrix, tell them to give you a scenario and that you will include the directions in their paid video. End of conversation. You're not driving away sales by doing this--you're weeding out freeloaders. You hit the nail on the head when you said they were 'testing' you. Testing is a nice way of saying 'seeing what they can get for free before you dump their ass as a lost cause.'
On cam is a very similar game. You need to keep subs out of sub-space until they're paying. The best advice I've received for this is to respond to all attempts at free dirty talk/entry into dom-sub space with 'go private to prove you're worth my time at all first' and then just ignoring them because it forces them to either follow the direction to enter sub space or leave empty handed. Your persona in free chat isn't the issue at all. Do what works best for you in terms of comfort and natural behavior without giving anything away. Your persona and your hustle are intertwined, but still very separate things. The contents of your show are for private and your hustle/persona should hint to what type of dom you are just the same as you sitting in free chat for a vanilla show gives the average customer an idea of what kind of model they'll be paying to play with. Pulling out your dom skills in free chat is about on par with pulling out your pussy in free--i.e. not earning you any fucking money. You learn where that line is with practice.
Don't mistake politeness for business savy or bluntness for a turn off. A real customer (dom, sub, vanilla, whatever) will pay a business woman who gets down to it. A freeloader will evade every time. 'Experience' isn't the issue here.
Again--full disclaimer: this is my personal opinion.
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If they as the what would I do questions, I'll ask for a tip, take me to private, or purchase a clip to find out. Depends on medium of the site. If they give you a hard time, tease them with "guess you'll never find out, shame." Then ignore them until they pay.
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When it comes to custom content I require a script. If they ask "what will you do in the clip"? My response is "whatever you put into your script". If they choose not to provide a script I tell them that I want it to be a surprise but I promise it won't disappoint. I'm very friendly and I always act like I can't wait to make their video or photo set or do their indy show (whatever they are asking about) but I never talk dirty and I'm not really "in character". It's more like "Oh John, I can't wait to make this for you it sounds like sooo much fun! How would you like to pay for that? (and then I lay out my payment options which of course depend on how the customer found me).