Yeah, see, there's one of my boundary lines, right there.
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I've heard horror stories that we shouldn't say Daddy on SM - but most of the guys who want it just want it in the context of dirty talk, not any kind of ageplay or incest play. It's such a mainstream thing to say during sex it feels sort of crippling not to be able to.
Pretending to be a minor or talking about minors is not happening for me. I'm OK (where it's allowed) with consensual incest role-playing, as long as it's not daddy/daughter. I just don't like masturbating while picturing my father, yuk. Just can't bring myself to call them that.
It really grosses me out to hear a woman call her partner "Daddy". I've played school girl but have never done it as a daughter/father scenario...because of my age, I'm usually Aunty or Mummy. I don't have a son or a nephew, so it's easy enough...I don't think I could say "Daddy" without thinking of my own father and imagining having sex with my father is not a place I want to go!
Nope. I just picture that someone is trying it out on cam first and then moving on to the real thing. I think as women we can all relate to being little girls, and I would never encourage anyone to even fantasize about children- boys or girls. It's an illness and they need help. Like a bullet in the head.
I can't do the "Daddy" thing cos I am not at all submissive and the couple of times I've tried it I just cringe, cos it feels so wrong for bossy-old-me to be grovelling to a man (who is often YOUNGER than me) whether or not I call him "Daddy" (heck, I even boss my own father around! Obviously not sexually, lol). I can do some subby play (like spanking myself etc) but really can't be submissive as in bowing down to a man. Being "Mummy/Mommy" just comes naturally, as I have a mothering (smothering lol) side to my personality, and it feels very much like the guy just wants me to take the lead so he can regress to a younger part of himself, where work and mortgages and family demands just weren't things he had to worry about.
Most people who are into this sort of play don't have daddy issues, have fine relationships with their fathers, and can take care of themselves...thanks.
I find many comments in this thread pretty offensive. Speak about what grosses YOU out, but please don't make assumptions about a kink you don't understand.
I don't have a problem with this type of roleplay. It's just an act. In fact, much of our "morality" comes from social constructs. In other cultures, it is perfectly acceptable to get married at a very young age. Some cultures accept huge age differences and in others incest is actually encouraged to keep the bloodlines pure. Where does it say anywhere that such behavior is truly wrong? I suppose the scientific explanation is that we need to spread our gene pool and lessen the chance of genetic abnormalities occurring but, even so, why does "incest" occur in nature among animals? Are they disgusting beings with no moral code?
I'm not going to go out and marry my father or anything, and I'm sure as hell not sexually attracted to him. I don't encourage it either probably because social pressure has influenced me and I would feel uncomfortable if I saw it really happen in front of my eyes. BUT, I have no problem acting out the fantasy because that's all it is and all it ever will be and I charge BIG money to do so.
I used to work with a very young looking model. More than half of requests included the age and father/daughter roleplay.
Requests, accepted and declined, included:
- call me daddy, darling
- you remind me of my daughter so much...
- when did you start masturbate? When did you begin having period? Can you say the number with your voice?
- call me your dad and suck my cock
- hm, you say you are 18... Can you pretend 13 for me?
- I am your father, you are 14 and you want money. Convince me.
- masturbate for me and keep screaming you are only 11 years old
I did justify myself that as long as these creepos pay for private with her, they don't go and rape an actual minor.
I have never done a daddy/daughter fetish before and I really don't think I'd be able to. My father was in fact attracted to his daughter and I feel like acting this out would be a huge trigger for me. Also I have a daughter and to EVER think about her father going on streamate and asking a model to act out a daughter fantasy...getting hot flashes even typing this. Just a big fat no for me.
For Latin culture (Romanian included), calling your partner daddy isn't that big of a deal, especially when you have kids. Lots of Latino-americans refer to people by "Papi" and "Mami", and to me its no different really. He calls me "ma" and I use "daddy" or "daddy-o" without even thinking about too deeply. My own father and father-in-law became "Grandpa" (or the translation). Its more of a shortcut for communication and keeps everyone straight during family gatherings.
That being said, it did become a trick to figure out the sexual context for it when I started camming. It was "normal" to me so I didn't even pick up on it when custies used these terms, and I think a few actually liked that I did it naturally - they probably thought I was playing along and I thought it was just a term of endearment. So long as they didn't delve into creepy "when did you get your boobies little girl?" territory, then everything was cool.
I just don't like the ones who clearly want ageplay and try to force it on people who don't advertise it. There are a ton of people who market themselves with terms like barely legal,teen, lolli,lolita etc but they won't go to them. Instead they come to an account with an older person who specializes in femdom or whatever. Those are the twats that piss me off and I feel are the ones who may actually go out and do it for real. They want to make you uncomfortable and push you beyond your boundaries. If you cater to these sort of fantasies then great. It's money to be made on the darkside. I just get annoyed with the sneaky ones. Mainly I get them during phone sex calls.
Call starts out with hey you sound young how old are you? Me:Im 31 how old are you.
Him well Ineed a naughty little girl to play with Daddy tonight.
Me:Well Im 31 and experienced
This is when they should hang up and move on to a barely legal chick. But no. It goes on
Him:So when was the first time you masturbated?
Me: I was a late bloomer and didn't discover my pussy til college.
Clearly I don't like the topic but they will continue to push it.
Him: Have you ever seen your Daddy masturbate? Your brother? Did they ever touch you?
Me: Dude you do realize that you're paying me right now to waste your time?
I don't like these guys. Go hit up the chick with braces and pigtails.
Can you report people to the site?
I guess I'm just surprised at how divisive this fetish is. Like Ramona said, it's pretty easy to tell who gets off on the taboo/age differential aspect of the kink and who is an actual sicko who wants to fuck his daughter or whatever. As long as you have boundaries and are willing to enforce them it's a relatively tame deal.
But what do I know? Clearly I am a broken woman with tons of father issues who is incapable of making responsible decisions as to what to do with my body/mind. So I'll shut up now and go back to racking up my dirty Daddy money, because there is a FUCKLOAD of it out there.
I posted above that I feel as though I know who the sickos are vs the ones who are just in it for the kinks. But really none of us really know unless it's a real time partner. I just go by an instinct that could be entirely wrong. Child Molesters are extremely manipulative. Conniving and Intelligent. They may end the session with "You know Im not really like that,right? It's just a fantasy." Many of them do that. I used to cater to this fetish but I've gotten to a point in my career that I don't have to provide everything. It's okay to turn some stuff down.
Was in no way addressing you Phat, you have in my opinion provided one of the more respectful and well thought-out responses in opposition of this stuff. Your points are totally valid and I get it. I think we're more so responding to the immediate, judgmental condemnation that anyone who even calls a dude "Daddy" is fucked in the head and catering exclusively to pedophiles.
Awe girl I didnt think you were addressing me at all. Nope not one iota. Hugs and Kisses. I think its great when we can have discussions about taboo topics and not fall into complete hysteria. We're all grown here and have to respect different perspectives. So no offense taken at all.
I ban anyone who comes into my room with "Daddy" in their name if I manage to catch them. I'm not saying two consenting adults playing pretend in the bedroom are fucked in the head or whatever, but to me someone getting abused by their dad is one of the most horrible things I can imagine and just thinking about it makes me never want to look at a man ever again. I want that shit far away from my sexual work. Anyway, I doubt any "daddies" would be interested in the domination services I provide. Also - someone coming into my room and going "hey little girl daddys here" is NOT consensual. I didn't ask to be part of a fantasy that disgusts me.
That said I don't find incest play with other dynamics as horrifying and I can understand that people see a sexual appeal in taboo, innocence, lack of responsibility... But literally pretending to be a child is different.
And I don't believe the argument that someone jacking off to someone pretending to be a child online is less likely to offend children IRL because they get a release. If anything having your sexual desires normalized... I don't know. I'm pretty sure I've read that watching actual child porn makes people more likely to act on their impulses but I can't bring up any sources and I'm not too keen to google this very deeply. I'm not saying that viewing child porn is gonna make someone who doesn't have that kind of desire in the first place into a pedophile, but rather that constantly indulging and going deeper and deeper into your desires doesn't make them go away.
Nope, its a no from me every time. And I ban them. Disgusting fetish, they are all sickos imo.
I agree with this for the most part. In my experience, the ones whom I've discovered to be pedophiles have been more into the idea of me molesting children WITH them. Pedophiles frequently have wives, and in my experience on cam they've wanted me to be into it too, in order to normalize it, because they can't discuss it with their wives. Of course, that's an immediate ban and report for me.
Let's also not forget that pedophilia only refers to prepubescent kids. So being attracted to a teen does not make one a pedophile.