A "Sir" giving me advice on Skype
I'm new to camming, but not to the sex industry or general kink. I was about to log off of my third ever SM show, when a Lady soandso came in. She was asking why I was not more dom with these little pigs. and offered advice. She said she new a great "Sir" and I should talk to him when I logged off. (she was careful not to actually say Skype, but I got the point)
So, I was cautiously curious and Skyped this guy, and he did actually just talk and give some advice. I'm still not sure what the fuck that was all about, though. Guys pay me to just talk sometimes, you know? I was wondering if anyone ever had something like this happen. People wanting to give seemingly free advice. He did not appear to be secretly wanking, as I could see his hands. Is there someway I am being taken advantage of that I'm missing?
TIA
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Rule number 1: Never talk to someone for free. Doesn't matter if they're wanking or not.
Your attention should cost them money. Even if they are "helping".
Also, if he wants to be a "Sir", then it's likely he is a Dominant and will probably try to get you to do stuff for free after gently easing you in.
Don't waste your time with these kind of people.
If people want your attention, they should pay for a show, or talk or whatever.
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GeezLouise
Rule number 1: Never talk to someone for free. Doesn't matter if they're wanking or not.
Your attention should cost them money. Even if they are "helping".
Also, if he wants to be a "Sir", then it's likely he is a Dominant and will probably try to get you to do stuff for free after gently easing you in.
Don't waste your time with these kind of people.
If people want your attention, they should pay for a show, or talk or whatever.
I guess I needed someone to re-iterate that for me. I'm pretty sure Lady soandso in my room was probably this same guy. Their cadence was similar. I told him if he wants to talk more take me exclusive on SM, Monday. GOD DAMN IT I LET THIS ASSHOLE TALK TO ME FOR FREE
:banghead:
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Lesson learned. We've all been there x
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Originally Posted by
freyasnecklace
I guess I needed someone to re-iterate that for me. I'm pretty sure Lady soandso in my room was probably this same guy. Their cadence was similar. I told him if he wants to talk more take me exclusive on SM, Monday. GOD DAMN IT I LET THIS ASSHOLE TALK TO ME FOR FREE
:banghead:
Dont really worry, we all made this mistake with exeptions. My first ever reg also loved "mentoring" me on skype of how to cam (only talk but he WAS wanking I am sure) for free. I did not learn anything useful from him, but oh well. I made this wrong decision once. I am a human. When I stopped talking to him (even msg on skype) huge rant happened and he cut me off (which I wanted). I have chatters but nowdays they pay me money.
If you want extra info on how to domme go to kindle and buy books from mistresses and such, it will cost less for you.
But I would say there is no way to learn how to cam while talking to someone/reading (it is just a little extra help), only being on cam is the best teacher.
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audritwo
Thanks!
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That "Sir" sounds like a class-A freeloading pimp. He even got his ho to do the pickup on you.
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KatyBoleyn
That "Sir" sounds like a class-A freeloading pimp. He even got his ho to do the pickup on you.
If he himself wasn't the Ho-dominatrix >.>
<.<
Never again
Re: A "Sir" giving me advice on Skype
Don't worry there are some great maledoms who love paying for their female subs :) He was just using being a "Dom" as an excuse to be cheap ass.
Re: A "Sir" giving me advice on Skype
Don't talk to anyone on Skype for free. Don't even let it get that far.
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Guys are always coming up with some method of getting a girl on cam for free. I'm impressed with this methodology...but definitely, lesson learned. Just remember these couple of rules:
Am I'm making money when I turn on my cam? If not, then he is a freeloader. I don't even allow free previews...even when a guy says he got fucked over. I tell him he can wait and watch me on my live stream link to verify who I am.
#2, if you're not getting on cam and Skype chatting/text messaging, is it leading to a paid cam session with in 2-4 statements? If not, he is a free loader. What is he gaining from helping you cam better? A free wank!
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Guys love Newbies. Love to pretend to haave insiders advice on how to make money at this... unless they cam on the site & bank....then their advise is bullshit.
SM tos is against skype shows, use it as an out.
Realize, other cam girls are NOT going to visit your room so their DOM or guy can tell you how to make money on cam via a skype show...
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He sounds like a guy I met on Cams.com. He insisted on being called sir. He begged me to meet him on skype, and when that didn't work he said he would pay me 1000 a week for an hour a day camming on skype for him. When that didn't work he said I need to meet his regular sub woman. The similarities are uncanny. I don't call anyone sir in free chat. He had no money on his account. (I might call them honey or sweetie, for tips and stuff).
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Originally Posted by
freyasnecklace
I'm new to camming, but not to the sex industry or general kink. I was about to log off of my third ever SM show, when a Lady soandso came in. She was asking why I was not more dom with these little pigs. and offered advice. She said she new a great "Sir" and I should talk to him when I logged off. (she was careful not to actually say Skype, but I got the point)
So, I was cautiously curious and Skyped this guy, and he did actually just talk and give some advice. I'm still not sure what the fuck that was all about, though. Guys pay me to just talk sometimes, you know? I was wondering if anyone ever had something like this happen. People wanting to give seemingly free advice. He did not appear to be secretly wanking, as I could see his hands. Is there someway I am being taken advantage of that I'm missing?
TIA
When I was camming on MFC, one thing I couldn't stand was some other cam girl coming in my room questioning me on how I deal with my members, or trying to give me advice right there in front of other members. I find that shit completely disrespectful to me, and I do not appreciate it. If you have advice, you can come here to StripperWeb/Camming Connection because we've got your back. You do not need to be Skyping for free with some guy and this Lady whoever.
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TheBrownFox
When I was camming on MFC, one thing I couldn't stand was some other cam girl coming in my room questioning me on how I deal with my members, or trying to give me advice right there in front of other members. I find that shit completely disrespectful to me, and I do not appreciate it. If you have advice, you can come here to StripperWeb/Camming Connection because we've got your back. You do not need to be Skyping for free with some guy and this Lady whoever.
I came to the conclusion he is just a talker who was taking advantage of me. Probably gets off to tricking newbies into thinking that he's their confidant. Anyway, I'm doing just fine without his stupid advice. I just come here and spend three hours using advanced search.
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yeah, theyre the same person. Been there done that. They'll try to gain your trust and act like theyre helping you when really theyre just on a manipulative power trip. Except for the awesome chicks on this site, I am always suspicious when a female comes int my room and announces herself. If she wants to be a customer then fine by me, but dont talk to me otherwise (again, you gals are totally cool and arent included in that). Any loser who wants to get you to talk outside the site unpaid, especially giving "advice" is trying to pull a fast one.
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LOL, this person has been around for years!!!! Same name too, they (cough, cough) tried that on me about 8 yrs ago. Flipping sickos getting off on a power trip.