Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
As much as it sucks, this is exactly why I don't date anymore. I'd venture to say most guys can't handle it, and the ones who can are either very comfortable in and around the adult industry, along within themselves. It's good that he left before you two got serious, as the passive aggressive shit seems to come out when they've had time to stew in their jealousy.
What bothers me more than the bf situation is how your friends reacted. That's AWFUL advice and a complete lack of support on their end! why the heck wouldn't they want you to succeed in your dreams (ie pay off your debt) and instead get into more debt by quitting your job for some schmuck?! I mean, did your friends offer to pay off your debt, help you move, and support you financially while you live with the ex? I doubt it.
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
Where are u gipsylove, u ok? You did not post since the original message, hope u not in trouble there.... pls let us know u ok?!?
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
I was wondering where she is too. Should someone pm her to see if she's OK? I'm very new here, and I try not post useless stuff. If I have a question that I think is answered in another thread before posting a new thread, I'll search for an answer. So, I don't know the protocol for something like this. I am a bit concerned about her though.
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
I think a lot of men think they can handle their ladies working in the adult industry. Some guys handle it well and others just cant handle it. He was honest with you, he just cant handle it. That doesnt make him bad or you a loser. Right now it just hurts and you're sad. You need to eat, get some fresh air and figure things out.
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
Let him stay gone, he could have stepped up to help!
I've been camming 15 yrs. I was in a 10 yr relationship and "the boyfriend" was jealous and couldn't take it. He once kicked in my "cam" bedroom door and grabbed my webcam and threw it while I was online. lol!
We started sleeping in different rooms and leading single lives. I went to model at a Vegas porn convention and met one of the owners of the site I was working on, we talked on the phone for 3 months and I agreed to meet him back in Vegas to see if we would connect. I was so unsure of it all, I made him book a separate/joining room in case it didn't work out.
I returned home and moved out, dated site owner for several years...got married and had 2 kids! The fact that he knew the business helped in our relationship. I still cam to this day.
There's a reason why things happen, and your guy simply can't hang and didn't offer to help out> bottom line is he needs to stay gone. Keep your head up and on track.
Hugs!
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
The fact that he was ok with it ( and all the sex you had) for a year and then running just makes him a user. If he was anything other than a user he would have supported you in your efforts of making the $$$ you need to handle your business. Sorry you had to find out that way. If my man left I think I'd just give up on dating. I get soooooo many creepers and perverts online that I'd be too skeeved to even try to date. Guys think it's great when they first find out that you do sex work b/c now they can get all that sex they were looking for. But the reality at my house is that I could care less about sex anymore.
If you're not jaded like me I wish you the best of luck finding a great guy who will love you and support your efforts to have the best in life.
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
Consider your blessed because you are being spared from something...
Some people don't have the maturity to handle the reality of you which has nothing to do with you! Look at it as lesson because everything and everyone is here to teach us something.
Re: Need Support. Boyfriend left because of cam
It's a shitty feeling situation but I really feel like the best part about dating is realising/narrowing down what you want in a long term partner. It sounds like you're a really smart lady who is paying off your debt and ambitious about what you want out of life. Just because you two weren't a good fit for a bunch of reasons doesn't mean that what you felt for each other wasn't real. You just learned what you needed and the universe has pushed you on to meet your next mate. It sounds like you're very secure in who you are and how you relate to your job and there's no doubt you'll meet someone who understands that and finds it an extremely attractive trait