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How to Get Ridiculously Hot
While I was born with enough to get me by, my goal for this year is to get as hot as I can possibly get. I'm ready to take my escorting game up a few notches and just "pretty" isn't cutting it for me anymore...
Aside from plastic surgery (nothing against it, just not my thing), what are some suggestions for a girl who really has no fucking clue?
I'm not asking for a personal critique, so let's try to keep the suggestions somewhat fluid. I can't be the only one with this problem!
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Makeup artistry (especially lashes), hair (extensions for length or volume, professional styling), teeth whitening, improving your wardrobe, and toning your body are all examples of things that can enhance your current look.
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Working out a lot. Also makeup tricks.
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Grooming is huge, there are a lot of mediocre women who become real beauties beause they have great habits... Some of that takes money. Finding a great stylist and spending more on a haircut for instance. Some people can't tell the difference, but when your stylist is training constantly and a true artist, your cuts just lay nicer, move better. Keeping your nails done, and in the trendy shape and color (if your getting square tips now you may as well do them at home). It's great to get makeup tips online, but going to a Shoppe with an artist that can show you things on your face is the best. Also, remember that few men like the heavy makeup look.
IMO it's about taking all of this and doing the very french just slightly dicheveled look, like you always look like this, it's natural and so easy for you... You totally didn't spend 3 hours in the mirror.
I'll be following for every one else's tips!
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I've found that I don't need to spend as much time in the mirror learning make up tricks when I take good care of my skin. I give myself regular facials and drink plenty of water everyday.
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Slight threadjack- I have a look that was more common in the 1970s (hourglass figure, long hair) so I am constantly looking for unique retro things to accentuate that. Sometimes I do heavier makeup b/c it was popular for parts of that era (think Pricilla Presley.)
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Here's what's worked for me.
If you're a BBW/Plus Sized, etc. LOSE THE WEIGHT. I know, it hurts that you can't be accepted for 'who you are' but let's cut the crap. We're in the business of physical attraction and women in shape have more money making oppertunites. If you want to be hot, get down to a normal size, get in the gym, drink water, eat clean, organic, healthy. Period. I've tested this so it's tried and true. My money has gone wayyyy up and so have the compliments from customers and new clients and I'm not even halfway to goal. Men at large are attracted to women who take care of their bodies. Sure, there are lots of BBW admirers and such but universally 'hot' women aren't fat and you want MORE than BBW admirers booking you.
Grow your hair out or weave/wig it up. Men tend to just love long luscious locks but certainly if your hair is short, you can still be hot.
Clear skin. See a dermatologist or make an appointment for chemical peels and botox if you age badly or have acne scarring. Water and organic foods will do the rest. For those that like a glow, a tan should do and it hides a lot of imperfections I've been told.
Flawless make up. Go high end. Drug store brands are fine but treat yourself to some Sephora for the base items. I just picked up concealer a beauty blender, and stick foundation all for under $200 and there's absolutely a difference.
Dress the part. It feels much better to slump around in a cute hoodie and athletic spandex but outside of the gym; keep it cute or put it on mute. A woman with style catches every eye in the room and you deserve the attention. You are a walking talking brand. You don't have to splurge on a ton of expensive things but dressing for your body type with clean, beautiful clothing can really raise your stock.
Nails and toes. Self explanatory.
Imperfections with your teeth? Get them straight, and whitened. Your smile and having fresh breath is super important to your 'hot' factor. This is a big investment (It's costing me $5k for the rest of my orthodontic work, plus $60k to complete my jaw surgery but well worth it) What's a pretty pout if the teeth behind it are jacked?
Hotness is an attitude but can definitely be faked.
Brush up on your intellect. Learn a new language or four, read a few books. Men love intelligent women as well.
Last but not least...learn to love yourself. A person that loves themselves has no problem making sure they take care of themselves. Treat yourself well, and in kind your body will take care of itself and love you right back.
If you need someone to help encourage you, feel free to shoot me a message. I'm currently on my journey to getting hot and these steps are working really well for me.
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Thanks, ladies!
I've been on this journey for a while now. I've lost 70 pounds, going from a size 26 to a small 18. I've changed up my style, got a haircut, maintained my hygiene exquisitely. My skin has always been fantastic as I've been on a strict facial beauty regimen since I was 16. Being a former makeup artist, I know my way around a brush and only use high end products.
Despite all of this, the daily compliments and what have you, I still have a long way to go I feel. I'm far from fucking sexy. I feel like a country bumpkin playing dress up.
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BombshellBelle
Thanks, ladies!
I've been on this journey for a while now. I've lost 70 pounds, going from a size 26 to a small 18. I've changed up my style, got a haircut, maintained my hygiene exquisitely. My skin has always been fantastic as I've been on a strict facial beauty regimen since I was 16. Being a former makeup artist, I know my way around a brush and only use high end products.
Despite all of this, the daily compliments and what have you, I still have a long way to go I feel. I'm far from fucking sexy. I feel like a country bumpkin playing dress up.
Thankfully we can fake it until we make it, eh? Keep going down in dress sizes and you'll see the difference, I promise!
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I love this thread. I agree that beautiful hair, skin, teeth and nails will take anyone a long way. You could be the prettiest girl in the world but if you have bad skin or or bad teeth a lot of guys will instantly be turned off from you because of it. Also dressing in ways that flatter your figure is huge and so is doing your makeup in ways that enhance your face, not just putting it on for the hell of it. Actually use the makeup to make your face and features look better and not so you just look like you have makeup on. Also I think keeping up with your beauty routines is very important, don't wait till your nails look like they desperately need to be redone before you make your next appointment, do it way before they get to that point. Don't wait until your blonde is super brassy and in extreme need of being toned before you go back in for your color touch up. Regularly schedule your maintenance.
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LilLadyLux
Grooming is huge, there are a lot of mediocre women who become real beauties beause they have great habits... Some of that takes money. Finding a great stylist and spending more on a haircut for instance. Some people can't tell the difference, but when your stylist is training constantly and a true artist, your cuts just lay nicer, move better. Keeping your nails done, and in the trendy shape and color (if your getting square tips now you may as well do them at home). It's great to get makeup tips online, but going to a Shoppe with an artist that can show you things on your face is the best. Also, remember that few men like the heavy makeup look.
IMO it's about taking all of this and doing the very french just slightly dicheveled look, like you always look like this, it's natural and so easy for you... You totally didn't spend 3 hours in the mirror.
I'll be following for every one else's tips!
Do you have any makeup tutorials for this look? I'm experimenting with just using eyeliner (upper lid only), fake eyelashes, foundation, and contouring at work to create a more 'naturally beautiful' look. But I'm pretty new to makeup (aside from the basics), so a tutorial would be super helpful! It's hard to find the balance between so-natural-that-no-one-in-the-club-can-see-your-eyes and trying-too-hard-overly-glam.
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I'm not saying I'm ridiculously hot by any means (still got a way to go weight wise), but there are a few things I did to elevate myself looks wise.
1) f you want crazy coloured hair, go for it. I dyed my hair electric blue and my money on cam has doubled. I now resemble one of those alt girls and even though that's not my lifestyle at all, for some reason the colour just goes with me so well and has made me look extraordinary.
2) Face care. There was a time I didn't give a shit about this, luckily my skin has always been very good. Throw in a specialized face care routine, a couple of masks and a no-touch policy (I don't touch my face with my hands unless I HAVE to or when cleansing it) and my skin is flawless now. Way more than I thought it would be. Also, use only high end makeup. I know this is a huge ask, but seriously, do it. Not only does it actually do what its supposed to and make you look amazing (even with minimal makeup skills), but it doesn't destroy your skin like drugstore stuff does. I went from having breakouts every day to having maybe one small pimple once or twice a month.
3) Dress for your size and figure. No matter where you are in your weight loss journey, wearing ill fitting clothes takes your hotness level down. Wear stuff that fits well and doesn't look cheap. You'll instantly look hotter. Also when you work, wear amazing lingerie that fits too.
4) Become witty and worldly wise. If you have a banging personality, this will elevate you a lot too. Read up on current events, develop an understanding and opinion, read books that changed society, become a deep, critical thinker. Lots of times, men just want to talk. if your makeup and clothing is on point and so is your brain, best believe it will take a wrench to pry them away from you.
5) To echo what's been said about body stuff, get in shape. I am not where I want to be yet, but I am getting there. Also, if you can, fake it. While my stomach fat is still there, I tend to stretch out a lot, pull my stomach in on cam, make my ribs visible etc, that way its less noticeable that I have this huge lump in the middle of my stomach. If you can use angles, exploit them. Also eat healthy regardless of whether or not you are losing weight. Your skin will clear and your disposition will often be better due to you having more energy and time for men and their nonsense.
As I said, I am by no means ridiculously hot, gotta get the body stuff on lock, but I do use these all the time and have noticed a marked difference in my appearance.
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So much good advice...I'm salivating!
Now that I'm not at work and have more time to respond properly:
KortneyKay, I've had a bit of a girl crush on you since we first interacted in the camming forum last year. I adore your confidence and always thought you were banging, not matter what size! I remember reading about your desire to get in shape and always wondered how it was going for you. Wanted to PM you the other day and ask... now I might so look out!
But, can you enlighten me a bit more on how to fake it till I make it? Its the strangest thing... back when I was at my highest weight was when I felt the best about myself. I had the confidence to wear a red wrap dress, leopard heels, and a fur jacket during the day without worrying about it being "too much". Seriously. I wore this exact outfit the other day and felt so self-conscious that I wanted to change! THAT is not me. I don't know where the fuck that bitch came from but we need to abolish her. NOW. lol!
As for everything else:
*I buy fabulous clothes but find that after a month, I'm over the style or they are too big and no longer fit.
*No matter WHAT I do with my hair, by the time I leave a cutsie or leave my day job, I look like Albert Einstein.
*I'm a basic makeup pro. I definitely need to look into tutorials for more advanced looks.
*I workout like a motherfucker but I have the diet of a nine year old. I don't eat much, but what I do eat, I probably shouldn't. I imagine that if I ate better, my weight loss will skyrocket. So, yesterday I started drinking only water, had a salad with my dinner, and resisted those white chocolate Reese Eggs at the gas station (Right next to the fucking register, mind you. Those bastards know what they're doing!)
So, yeah. Maybe I need to relocate to somewhere that flows better with my style instead of cramping it in this small town. But damn y'all... the cost of living is so cheap and its QUIET! *lol*
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Hair matters a LOT. Trust me. Any money invested into making your hair thicker, fuller, longer, etc....It's money well spent.
Also good posture. I catch myself slouching a lot & just the act of correcting your posture makes you more likely to keep it right.
& This sounds weird but don't frown. No matter how pretty you are if you look like you are angry/wanting to kill someone, it makes people avoid you.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OYpwAtnywTk
Okay this video is just for lawls, but honestly when I went blonde and learned to do make up I swear I made more $$ in the club and got so many 'looks' from guys in public staring up and down that my husband started getting pissed off everywhere we went.
It cracked me up because I didn't look that different (in my mind.) I was just blonde and suddenly "super hot." :p
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BombshellBelle
So much good advice...I'm salivating!
Now that I'm not at work and have more time to respond properly:
KortneyKay, I've had a bit of a girl crush on you since we first interacted in the camming forum last year. I adore your confidence and always thought you were banging, not matter what size! I remember reading about your desire to get in shape and always wondered how it was going for you. Wanted to PM you the other day and ask... now I might so look out!
But, can you enlighten me a bit more on how to fake it till I make it? Its the strangest thing... back when I was at my highest weight was when I felt the best about myself. I had the confidence to wear a red wrap dress, leopard heels, and a fur jacket during the day without worrying about it being "too much". Seriously. I wore this exact outfit the other day and felt so self-conscious that I wanted to change! THAT is not me. I don't know where the fuck that bitch came from but we need to abolish her. NOW. lol!
Awww, thanks, babes! I always thought you had the most beautiful eyes! My journey is still going strong, thankfully. I'd love to chat with ya. Let's just say come summer, a bi$h will LIVE, honey! ;)
The faking it 'til you make it is just a mind change, bb. That's really all it is. That naughty little voice in your head told you you couldn't wear it, etc. All you gotta do is shush her and keep thinking you're the shit, because you are and no one can't tell you you're not fabulous when they know you are. I think when you lose a lot of weight you tend to be more visible to others, so in turn they can make you feel a bit self-conscious and insecure because you have more eyeballing you. And sometimes certain styles might not flatter you as much but instead of allowing the thoughts of "Ugh, I look like shit in this!" to "Fuck, I'm gorgeous! Though, red looks great on me so I'll swap this out for the red dress." or something along those lines. No more victim speak of "I can't...". You CAN wear anything you want, but a woman always has choices and some choices look 20x better than the first :D
I suggest when you wake up to pee every day look straight in the mirror, disheveled, slobber down the cheek and all, and tell her how beautiful she is and that today is going to be a great day. I think we have so many thoughts as humans going through our minds that it's hard to catch ourselves when we start thinking negatively. Being mindful and self-aware of your thoughts and bouncing or exchanging negative thoughts for positive thoughts is super important. Self-awareness is the DNA of transformation :D
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Also good posture. I catch myself slouching a lot & just the act of correcting your posture makes you more likely to keep it right.
Posture is huge.
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This all subjective. I make the most money when I have the least amount of makeup on. Different men are attracted to different things.
The thing I universally notice is that the smaller your body frame, the more money you make overall. Or at least that has been true with me. Men associate that with youthfulness, which they are very attracted to. My sister is short and curvy and men LOVE that because she has a tiny frame. Then there's me whose tall and lanky and I also attract a lot of men who compliment me on how "small" (thin) I am even though I'm tall. I think being "small" is the biggest factor in my money making. It subconsciously makes the other party feel more masculine. So diet diet diet gym gym gym if you are overweight or have a bulky or bigger frame.
For me personally, I feel ridiculously hot with clothing I feel comfortable in and that's about all there is to it for me.
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(RE: sexy french disheveled look tutorial) I don't and I'm not the sort to have the patience to figure out how to record a nice one. Doing really on point hair and makeup is fun, and maybe somedays that will be what brings in the dough, maybe somedays its about experimenting with the natural look makeup (flawless foundation, with light blush or bronzer, great brows, natural false lashes or just mascara and a nude lip or lots of gloss) and having your hair perfectly done, and then you mess it up a little.
A friend of mine was having a birthday and we were all going club hopping downtown. I was having the worst day. My hair was curled up but my car broke down and I got caught in the rain, I ran into a store, and bought this pretty cute dress in my size, and put on foundation and mascara at MAC before I left with a gaggle of top notch looking girls. I felt like the ugly ducking but actually I was killin' it all night. I realized maybe women like the makeup more then men.:-*
Attachment 44332Who me? Just woke up flaw-fucking-less.Attachment 44333
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If on a budget:
Go to a beauty school for your hair needs. Yes, the work is done by students, but is checked over by an instructor. Supposed to be, anyways, lol. Have hair color and styles flattering to your coloring and face shape. While on hair, straight>curly and long>short. No offense to anyone with curly and/or short hair, just my observation of who earns more money, as well as personal preference.
-Get a self tanner. Do your research, get the ones with the best reviews that turns you brown, not orange. Keep working out, but know that your body type is perfect for tons of guys in your current shape. Act like it and charge accordingly.
-Contacts over glasses. I get colored contacts just for the color change and make way more with them in then when I give my eyes a break and go with my brown eyes. Something about different eyes, or at least the enhanced color contacts, makes girls look more exotic.
-For clothes-it's easy to go broke buying new clothes when you're losing weight. Buy the most flattering-again-shades for your coloring and styles for your shape. Heavier legs-like mine, don't jump down my throat-look great on cam with dark thigh highs and fishnets, and corsets-with zippers, don't snap and unsnap constantly-make curvy bodies look great.
-If money isn't a factor, all of the above, with the following differences:
-Invest in high quality, pricier make up. Half the battle in make up is getting it to do what you want. Cheaper make up doesn't always help.
-Get body wraps. I've been getting them for six years, they do a great job in accentuating any figure.
-Go to the best hair dresser possible. Again with longer hair, if you need extensions, get the best quality you can afford.
You're GORGEOUS, but I hope my advice and that of the other ladies makes you feel and look your absolute best :)
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Also, OP-you have such gorgeous eyes! It seems like your bangs are hiding them. I think you'd look much more stunning with sideswept and/or thinner bangs.
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Well, here are some of my tips that helped me make more money.
1. A proper diet can do wonders for your body. (I have a ways to go but at least I drop a few dress sizes)
2. Exercising
3. Fix hair and teeth: I start growing out my hair and fixing my teeth. I also had my teeth whiten and capped last year.
4. Getting facials, body wraps, and drinking lot of water.
5. Mud baths, total body scrubs, total hair removal,milk baths, and corset training.( I did a bit of corset training)
6. Proper makeup.
But I feel hotter when I take milk baths and get 24 karat gold body treatments. :)
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My forehead looks like a flat screen TV, so bangs are 100% necessary... LOL! I did have her thin them out this last time though. (And thank you! I've always loved my eyes!)
Unfortunately, red.velvet, being small has never been an option for me. Even at my thinnest, I still have a similar build to Angelica Houston... Tall and strong. Thank fuck for my big tits and hourglass figure because otherwise I'd look like my sister, who at 6', is broad shouldered and has no ass, resembles a linebacker in lingerie. My goal is to get as thin as I can though so I can keep up with Kortney.Kay this summer!
I love my corsets! They help my posture, stop me from overeating, and increase my self-esteem by 10 fold. I feel sooo sexy in them!
Yesterday and the day before, I've been drinking nothing but water and avoiding crappy foods. I miss my diet soda, but I'm sure I'll find that the bank I make from slandering up will replace any hard feelings. Ha!
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Skinny. That does it for me. How can you be in this industry with rolls? Baffles my mind. And a youthful
Appearance. Youth always wins.