There's something for everyone...not every guy likes the cookie-cutter look. I will say that it does pay to look fit, but I have a big ol ass and a tiny waist and guys love that its big...so much so that reducing it would be suicide for my career.
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I'm a proportionate BBW and I have no problem getting clients now. The guys I see currently either don't care about my chub or love every inch of it. BBW is a huge fetish. My goal is, of course, to get hotter which DOES include getting fit though. I'm realistic in knowing that skinny girls make more, and I don't want to be limited by ANYTHING, especially if I can change it. Not only in sex work, but in every aspect of my life really.
If it's ok to get personal, I agree with what she said earlier, you have banging eyes so maybe your bangs are too low/heavy ;)
Getting personal is cool. I appreciate the help.
I got the bangs re-cut recently, with framed long layers around my face. I keep them right below my brows now. Any shorter and I'd look like one of the Beatles.
I forgot to add: An education. My second biggest money-maker after thinness is being educated. No one cared about my education when I worked in the strip club, and it may have hindered my money in all honesty, but in escorting it is ESSENTIAL. Men only want to pay high hourly rates for someone who seems too good to be true. These men love that I'm highly educated and have a successful day job because they feel like I'm not escorting out of necessity, but because I actually like it. In my area, they want the smartest, most ambitious, most beautiful, tiny woman who comes off like she's regal. If you don't come off this way, you won't be able to pull high hourlies and multi-hours.
Due to my education, I am fluent in 3 languages (almost 4 but not quite!) also, which DEFINITELY helps with money making! Major cities are pinnacles for heavy hitters from foreign countries!
Its strange because women in sexwork seem to try and put me down passive aggressively or bully me due to my education and mentioning that I do well because I'm thin. In the vanilla world though, no one cares. So clearly, both of those things are a huge money maker and a big threat to other sexworking women. The two compliments I get the most from men who pay me (and even men who don't!) are being tiny and being educated.
This all depends on what sector in adult you work in. I work as an escort, so this only pertains to escorting and also living in a major city. When I was a dancer, I worked all week to make what I make in 1 multi-hour appointment with escorting, so I don't even take the compliments while I was dancing seriously because many men were timewasters or cheap. I bypass them completely as an escort.
Point being, its not just looks that make you hot!
(My third money maker is appearing more than one race since I'm happa. I have an asian persona, a happa persona, a spoiled white persona (I'm blonde so white works easily), and a nerdy white persona. Between those 4, I could have bookings all week every week if I wanted. Instead, I raised my rates higher and only take multi-hour. I know I'm really lucky with my mix because both white and asian are very in demand in my area.)
There's no magic program or diet that offers sustainable weight loss. If you lose weight quickly you're going to gain it back just as fast. Stay away from high carbs, high sugar and high fat and drink water, water and more water. It's a life change done in steps. The plan is to lose excess pounds and increase flexibility and joint mobility. I would look for a light cardiovascular exercise program that includes by some stretching. Youtube will have sometime you will like.
If you do slip, do let it get to you. Just go right back to your plan like it never happened. Soon it becomes habit and then you become one those people no one likes to be around because you don't eat anything that make you gain weight. I'm not talking about me. I mean that's what I've heard.
^^ Yes, there's always more ways to drop body fat. Cutting sugar/carbs/cals or upping your workouts. This doesn't mean you'll lose your butt or boobs. Humans are designed so that unwanted fat melts first. If you end up losing the curves you want, you'll still be making more money and you can buy back your curves with implants.
Also, never underestimate the power of tan skin. Being tan and having a healthy glow makes you look beautiful and radiant and hides all your imperfections (cellulite, stretch marks, flab, etc). I go spray tanning to achieve a healthy glow and use moisturizing body lotion to add some extra sheen to my skin. Having a really toned body makes you look sexy too, regardless of your body type. I've seen girls go from average to super vixens just from looking more tan and toned. So if you can, spend some extra time at the gym and maybe invest in a personal trainer. And definitely go spray tanning (or bed tanning if you prefer) to get some more color.
^^^If you go to the tanning bed, prepare to look ugly as time goes by.
I seriously don't understand why women who care so much about looking good decide to tan. It's like, don't you want to look good in your 40s? It's really shortsighted.
And, you know, skin cancer.
I was blessed with an olive complexion, so tanning isn't necessary. During the summer I'm outside to much that by August I'm the color of a UPS truck... lol.
At my lowest weight I still had 36DD boobs, so I'm not worried about losing those. I'm at a 40F now. Even if they do shrink, they'll at least be proportionate to my body size.
As for education, I thankfully had enough sense to learn well while I had the chance to. My degree is in biotechnology which seems to fascinate my clients, especially when I go on a tiny, excited blurp about the latest developments in the field. Knowledge is power, even if ignorance is bliss! I DO want to learn more though, about different cultures, languages, ideas, etc. A trip to the bookstore is already planned for this evening!
I'll say that I'm not a complete disaster. Many genetic blessings have fallen into my lap and I'm so so so grateful. It would be MUCH worse... at least I have something to work with!
Do people even go to tanning beds anymore?
If I tan, I use an all-natural organic spray mist. I'm scared of all those nasty chemicals that adhere to your skin. I'd rather use as natural of ones as I can get.
This is probably why I tend to stay lighter. Too lazy lol. My clients LOVE my skin white though. In a lot of the non-western countries, they tend to want your skin as fair as possible. I know this to be true being partially asian. Its all my mother ever tries to drill into my head other than eating healthy and education.
My tan was built in ;) And I will look 30 at age 40, lol.
It is true, tanning beds cause age spots. Still once in a while is ok for some people.....
If you want the tanning bed look without the cancer/aging get St Tropez tanning mousse. Seriously, I love it. I'm half black (so like Kort, I know we'll age daaaaaamn well) but I use it to give me a golden glow. You can find it at Sephora or Ulta.
Also, I look hot as fuck even with my rolls so.. *eye roll* you don't have to be a size 2 to be a bomb shell. Guys like variety anyway. Who wants to be around the same type of girl all the time? Meh.
Annnnyway. What I do to transform myself from a sexy 10 to a holy god damn ethereal 10 is I love: long, shiny thick hair. Get those hair extensions! Opt for a clear gloss when you get your hair (I hope professionally, don't fuck with boxed) color to add that extra shine. Curl your hair, get those huge effortless curls. Long, thick eyelashes. I personally love lilly ghalichi 3D mink eyelashes. CONTOUR YOUR FACE, get a becca highlighter to just make your skin glow. Also, thinner eyebrows are so 90s and tend to age you. Grow them out and shape them up. Whiten your teeth! Basically, you just want to look like you stepped out the heavens. Hydrate hydrate hydrate, and moisturize so your skin just glows.
What I've been doing to shape up and make my skin glow is I eat a mostly raw diet. I cut out meat, soda, unnessescary sugar, alcohol, high sodium, etc. I don't like to cook so maybe it's not for you but I eat a TON of fresh veggies, fruits and nuts. It's done wonders for my complexion.
LOL One of my friends is over 300 pounds & over 50 she has 3 billionaires at her beck and call.
Long thick hair is another thing that I feel like allllll men respond positively to. Even if guys like short hair on women, they won't be turned off by long hair. Whereas guys actually can be turned off by short hair. If you're not that hot, having your hair as long and thick as possible really ups your game IMO.
If only I was one of the humans designed to lose unwanted bodyfat first. My butt and boobs are the first to go! I'll go from curvy and borderline voluptuous to sort of a pudgy rectangle immediately. And then, of course, I'll plateau and that's the worst. But what's interesting is that older guys seem to like me better thick while younger guys want the skinny girl look. Even out here in Hollywood land. But I do want to be healthy and fit, albeit with womanly curves. And I agree that intelligence/ education is extremely important in escort work. Looks draw them in and then education/intellect/charm keeps their attention.
I believe her. She's not a curious guest like yourself, is a successful BBW herself and really has no reason to lie about such things.
BBW is often looked at as a fetish though, so a guy who is into bigger women is frequently REALLY into bigger women. Having more money does not make you less into your fetish. If anything, it means you're more likely to pay for your fetish-fueled sex cause you need to be off the radar for such things.
My experience says different. I took off big time when I hit 40. 44 now & doing better than ever.
People will like youngsters; people will like those who have a more mature outlook - in all ways.
This particular post is a good example of why that could be.
Bless.
For those bashing the posts where a few of us suggested tanning:if you go through and read, I think you'll find most of US suggested spraytans. Ideally, at a salon, but some home brands just as well. I haven't gone in a tanning bed in YEARS and am the darkest I've ever been, mostly through an over the counter brand I've discovered through trial and error. There's nothing wrong with an artificial tan, it DOES make you look healthier and thinner.