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How do you fight loneliness?
Hello ladies :) I think camming is gonna be my career for now since I don't really have other options in my country and this thought about how lonely really this job is is constantly in my head... I don't have much friends in the city I live in, don't go to school or have any other activity outside besides gym and it gets lonely. Sometimes it looks like I'm the only one in the world. I never told anyone about camming, I'm lying I have normal job... I just say to myself it's better to be alone, that leaves you more time to work and get more cash, but I'm not that kind of person who can just work, work, work... Do you ever feel like this? Do you tell your friends\boyfriends\family about your work? Is this feeling goes away? I really hope it does, because my ultimate goal is to be happy in my own company.
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Re: How do you fight loneliness?
I thought this way for a while.The allure of a lonely life wears off quite quickly, and camming will always feel solitary. Keep going to the gym, go to new laces and kee going to the ones you like - do the things you enjoy and you'll make friends.
I basically lived alone for 3-4 months and HATED IT. IT made working really easy but every day felt the same. Now I live in a 2-3bed tiny flat with 6 friends and it's great. They respect my work and I can always socialise and chat while I'm waiting for privates.
I'd suggest living with friends or at least going to see some new apartments. It's quite hard to find a camming 'holy grail' living situation but it will vastly improve the quality of your life if you don't feel like your living a lonlely life.
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Also, if you havent already, maybe try myfreecams, chatting to the guys on there is different to other camsites, I never feel like I'm alone in my room when I'm on there.
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I think we all get lonely sometimes. It's part of being human. No matter what kind of job or how many people you are around. I keep camming private because no one has to know. No one has to be okay with what I do because I'm okay with it. If your goal is to be happy in your own company then work on that because no one can make you happy and you can't make other people happy. I guess you are still pretty young?
I'm asking that because the older I get, I enjoy the company of less people and absolutely love spending time with myself, by myself.
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I'm 24, not too young but not too experienced also. I think that if you can accept solitude it can be very productive and you could achieve more, so that's why I like it this way, but it seems I'm just weak to handle it without being pathetic and sad -.- I need to work more on my mental strength and focus.. Also, I don't have BF but I have this guy, fuck boy hehehe (who's a lot younger than me) for a year now, it started as casual sex, we smoke weed, hang out... and now it seems whole my world is about him, when will I see him, what we did, I just daydream about him, I mean he is fantastic but I don't want to obsess over a boy when I have other stuff to do :D and I really do want to learn how to be SOLO in all aspects of my life including love and relationship... ahh I'm just complaining about everything,,, Thanks ladies for listening,..
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CharlieTen
Also, if you havent already, maybe try myfreecams, chatting to the guys on there is different to other camsites, I never feel like I'm alone in my room when I'm on there.
I tried for like 2 days, I wasn't doing very good there. Maybe I try it again since I still have profile there.
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Marina Starr
I think we all get lonely sometimes. It's part of being human. No matter what kind of job or how many people you are around. I keep camming private because no one has to know. No one has to be okay with what I do because I'm okay with it. If your goal is to be happy in your own company then work on that because no one can make you happy and you can't make other people happy. I guess you are still pretty young?
I'm asking that because the older I get, I enjoy the company of less people and absolutely love spending time with myself, by myself.
I agree with this. It's easy to feel alone and isolated when you're with people if you cannot connect with the, and it's easy to feel satisfied, loved and happy when you're alone if you enjoy your own company and feel fulfilled in your life.
I am totally open with everyone in my life about my job. I'm a crappy liar and don't feel comfortable with duality, so I'm open and it does help as when my job isolates me (and this job is isolating, no two ways about it), I feel I can reach out to people.
I used to live alone but working alone, then being alone all day ground me down so I have a flatmate now, who is great. I also do a lot of adult learning courses to get me out the house and let me meet people and keep my brain busy. I reach out to my friends when I struggle and I have a few cam girls on Skype to chat with during the day. Twitter is a social playground for sex workers as a lot of sex workers struggle with being alone and cut off from other people due to the solitary nature of the job, as well as perceived social stigma.
I find being open and honest with other people is a great way of connecting me with other people but if that isn't something you want, then I tentatively suggest you find more things to do outside of work other than the gym. My gym is my haven when I feel lonely and low, but if I couldn't talk to my friends, or go to school my head would be the worst place in the world.
xx
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I feel kinda same, as u.
I dont really fight, but what helps for me: good food, workout, take care of myself on every way i can.
sleep a lot, watch movies, working on my home to look better and better.
Oh and i have a dog. lol.
was always lonely anyway since i was a small child. Never felt that anyone is close to me.
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Getting a pet is an awesome option. sure, they can't talk to you... but they also can't mouth off to you, judge you for your job, pay bills late, or blame their personal short comings on you. they also include endless hours of amusement. I'm personally a fan of dogs because the're such social little beings. I take mine to the park daily for a nice long walk and twice a week i either do a small dog meet up, go to the local small dog park, or have a puppy play date with my neighbor.
Finding friends who also cam or strip is a plus. It's nice to have them there as a support group.
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Re: How do you fight loneliness?
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Marina Starr
I think we all get lonely sometimes. It's part of being human. No matter what kind of job or how many people you are around. I keep camming private because no one has to know. No one has to be okay with what I do because I'm okay with it. If your goal is to be happy in your own company then work on that because no one can make you happy and you can't make other people happy. I guess you are still pretty young?
I'm asking that because the older I get, I enjoy the company of less people and absolutely love spending time with myself, by myself.
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I LOVE this Quote, & I love Marina Star!!!!
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I was lonely, so I got a dog. Then I felt bad for not spending time with my dog while working and got him a friend. I've moved in with one of my parents since then and we're both total hermits (with dogs). We keep each other company and the puppies keep me sane.
The quote from Robin Williams sums up my life. I tried new people, but outside of the small handful I've known for years and really vetted I haven't been expanding my social circle. The new peeps just didn't accept what I did and who I was, so they can fuck on along because I have never felt worse about myself than sitting in a room full of people I felt wouldn't mind if I totally vanished altogether. I'd rather be alone than lonely.
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I saw schedule time off for friends and loved ones. I also suggest adding a trusted cam bb friend on skype or messenger to keep each other company and offer encouragement. It can be lonely but it's less lonely when someone across the world (or in your state!) is going through the same work/life you are. Plan a weekly night out and make some new friends.
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Thank you, ladies! You inspire me and help me a lot <3
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I second the pet, however I prefer cats as they are a little more independent but harder to keep off cam (my cat is super affectionate like a dog as I type this is trying to crawl into my lap while I'm on cam haha.
I also second the idea that the older you get the more you like to be alone... I'm 28 years old and I would NEVER choose to live with a roommate again however I'm extremely anti-social and have several mental illnesses lol.
Either way -- If you want a social life, I suggest keeping it outside of your HOME as long as possible. Other than that, make friends here -- When I'm lonely, I always find a thread to comment on here and it really does help to have the sense of a little "cam family" here. <3 Best of luck to you!
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Having a pet is a great way to deal with loneliness. I also find going to the gym and adult education classes is a great way to meet other people. Classes expand your knowledge and also helps with finding new things to talk about and gives me extra energy when I learn. Some of my cam custies like to hear about the new things I am learning too. Keeps things fresh and interesting.
I think that the less people I let into my life, the less drama I have to deal with. I have a couple of close friends and that is all I seem to really need. If you have even one TRUE friend in this world, consider yourself lucky. They are hard to find.
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Re: How do you fight loneliness?
Volunteer!
Join groups for online entrepreneurs ( you can say you are just starting or do other type of online sales ).
Hobbies ( for me, I became involved in gardening / food growing which offset my work from home alone thing , it's hard to grow a lot solo and always works better as a group). The starting point of most of my friendships are shared productive projects ( I find it hard to invite people out " cold ") .
Its a constant struggle to take my own advice because I really like solo projects but then I'll occasionally find myself in a rabbit hole of no interaction for a week or two sometimes. Like another poster mentioned , committing to a weekly thing can be good to keep it up.
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Steam.
Really, gaming kinda helps me coping with stuff most of the times. And the PC gaming community is rather nice, especially on reddit.
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Loneliness? What's that?
Cure for it is live with 3 random strangers who you can't stand, and that don't have to work.
Make sure they're the kind of people that never let you alone...not even for a second.
Who talk to you CONSTANTLY ever time you want to....get a glass of water, make something to eat, sit out in the garden, try to get to the mailbox first,.try to sleep.
I can't wait to move and live alone again!
I would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
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It's really hard. It's not like you can hang out with someone and then drop the I cam bomb on them. Especially if they're "normal". I have pets too and I highly recommend them if you're inclined. You're young so whatever you do make sure you like yourself. I think a lot of people don't like their own company. It's a long life. Once you can be by yourself then you will be fine with or without people. Solve the craving by going and hanging out in public for awhile. You'll soon feel happy all by your lonesome again. LOL
Other than that just be the one to see someone you want to meet and say Hi. Do things you like to do and talk to others that do the same. Me , I gave up awhile ago. I seem to be a magnet for the kinds of people I don't want to hang out with. You know- the ones that seem normal at first glance and then turn into giant pains in the asses.
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I fight loneliness by having a social life and stay focus in my career. I did several vanilla internships in my vanilla field and got to meet some vanilla people. In addition, I have many different mini vacations to keep myself from burning out. Honestly, I do not think about being loneliness anymore because I think about paying off everything that I need. But that started after being homeless because I was crawling to get out of that. That mentality just stay with me....I just think about paying my bills, saving money, and having a social life. Also I recommend pets as well:)
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Originally Posted by
Semyonovna
Hello ladies :) I think camming is gonna be my career for now since I don't really have other options in my country and this thought about how lonely really this job is is constantly in my head... I don't have much friends in the city I live in, don't go to school or have any other activity outside besides gym and it gets lonely. Sometimes it looks like I'm the only one in the world. I never told anyone about camming, I'm lying I have normal job... I just say to myself it's better to be alone, that leaves you more time to work and get more cash, but I'm not that kind of person who can just work, work, work... Do you ever feel like this? Do you tell your friends\boyfriends\family about your work? Is this feeling goes away? I really hope it does, because my ultimate goal is to be happy in my own company.
If you think camming is going to be your career for any length of time, You basically have to set up your mindset and create a certain type of armor. Being Self-employed can be lonely if you let it. the only way to fight loneliness is to have a life, Sure we spend a lot of time on cam and sometimes we do marathons, but you also need to balance your life or you will go insane and it's not even a joke about that.
You say you don't have much friends so that means you basically limit your social interaction to the customers and any webcam community you are a part of. that is not enough you are going to miss the actual human interaction it doesn't even have to be someone who knows about your work you actually need to bound with another human being. I use to constantly watch TV in fear I would lose how to talk verbally. When I cam I don't use a mic and I lost interest in doing phone sex.
It's not better to be alone we are sociable creatures we need to be around other people and it doesn't even have to be about work, you can connect with other people in some activity you enjoy. pick up knitting , knitting in coffee shops meet people. take a class learn something, If the meetup websites is available in your city use it. recreation centers, parks go out there and be around other people you don't even have to talk to them.
The other thing you need to have or create the mindset that camming is a real job and stop feeding into the bull shit because you work from home you don't have a real job. These days there are 1,000s of ways to earn a living and majority of them are becoming work from home careers. If it's possible for someone to make $100,000 from youtube videos then of course being a cam girl is a real job.
Your an adult you've decided to become a cam model, you can also decide who and when you tell people about your career. You can pretty much decide on anything you want to do in life.
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Wow ,such great ideas ladies. Loneliness and not having too many girlfriends is something im dealing with right now since moving to a new city.I find ,going out to pamper myself such as manis and pedis.Window shopping at the mall (dont need any clothes since i have way to much clothes and not enough places to wear them lol), .going out to a bar in the downtown area helps.
Maybe you can join an online group such as meetup.com and find people around your area that has the same likes, interest and hobbies as you.Now a days i keep myself so busy with work that i dont have time to be lonely because im too soar from working a lot.Plus i have a 6 year old that takes up all my free time .But i really wanna be around girls with the same likes and interest as me.I used to have a social life when i was in college .so its hard to be a loner now.
During the summer im gonna start taking mini 4 day vacations once a month (even if its by myself).Im gonna cut down on working so much and take my own advice and go meet people at meetup.com and network .Hell, im ready to retire from camming in the next 2 years. Hopefully ill meet some business minded folks that will help me start up my business.
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To be honest, I think my loneliness won't be issue if I continue to make $ like I did past few days :) It's just loneliness and depression.. worst combination ever!!! It appears I have to find new flat next month so I had to just stop bitching about it and work hard if I don't want to be left on the street. I really hope I make all of my goals so I can enjoy in new beautiful flat I found. I also was thinking about learning german and hungarian. I need to activate my brain with deeper stuff. Also, my friend suggested me yesterday to go to a mountain, few hours road trip, and rent a house in woods there for 3 days. We'll bring magic mushrooms. I don't know if you heard about it, but it's something very special and magical, not like other drugs. People with anxiety and depression also get treated with mushrooms. I instantly got happy, because I know after that experience my head will be clear, I'll be filled with energy and positive solutions :) So, yes it's all in my head!!! I pray for this good flow to continue.
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I listen to music while I work.. it perks me up and I try to remember the nice things I want to do with the money Im getting from this job...
Off work I go out shopping sometimes I spend little, sometimes alot, it helps.. shopping therapy lol
I also try to help my family with money when I can or buy them some things, it makes me feel good.
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Social activities. Join a dance class, sign up for gym, volunteer at a shelter...those are the things that keep me from feeling too isolated.