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Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
I know this is a long shot, and why would someone use their time to help someone for free.
But I'd be really grateful for a mentor or two, to give me some pointers and guidance, I know there's a lot here, and I try to contribute where I can and regularly read and ask, but I could really use some tips and so forth from someone on a more individual centered approach. I have really bad debt, to the point I cut my food to provide food to my pets, so sometimes I eat once a day or once every two days to save up if I need to use the money for pet food, or I have a packet of noodles for £0.30 to keep me going for the day on a regular basis to afford the transport costs. So I really need to learn as much as I can as fast as I can, as I'm worried I'm wasting valuable time, I get lost with what to charge, the best sites, how to use each site, what is too much or to little, countdowns, games.... I'm dizzy with confusion. Last few weeks I made maybe $9. Seriously need more help. I've always been the one to help others in life, and I'm hoping there's at least one person out there that can kick me in the right direction so I don't waste more money, I'm a dummy in this industry and sadly they don't sell that book.
I'm sorry to waste anyone's time, and I understand if many of you just ignore this message, or think I'm absolutely bonkers, however... when one has nothing more to loose, desperate times call for desperate measures, and when debt starts to pull you down you either try to swim or sink, and I'm desperately trying to swim with a weight attached to me...
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Can you get another job? Why not a part time even if it is minimum wage? Work that job to get steady hours instead of starving while trying to learn a new trade. When you get off from that job hop online and cam. This is not a job to start when you're in the hole. Only people who've done this BEFORE and come back to do it every now and again will make money. Also take a moment to read the threads in my signature to give you some guidance. The camgirl bookmarks link below is amazing. Really important links organized all in one place.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Please read the twitter link too. I just saw yours......
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...ximize+twitter
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Focusing only on your debt will only create more debt, you should never starve yourself to pay debt . the debt will be there when you have money to pay for it.
seek out financial help from someone who can handle consolidation or maybe even bankruptcy. - bankruptcy is not the end of the world,
As for camming you are focusing too much on the how and not enough on just getting online and sticking with one site. your are making too complicated for yourself.
You might also want to look into community programs that provide food some even provide pet food.
Right now your in a scarcity desperate mind set - you need to get out of it.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
Can you get another job? Why not a part time even if it is minimum wage? Work that job to get steady hours instead of starving while trying to learn a new trade. When you get off from that job hop online and cam. This is not a job to start when you're in the hole. Only people who've done this BEFORE and come back to do it every now and again will make money. Also take a moment to read the threads in my signature to give you some guidance. The camgirl bookmarks link below is amazing. Really important links organized all in one place.
Full time student, had 2 part-times, but left one to do more hours in the other but then got dismissed from it, been hard to find something since then, have 1 part time on the weekends, and been applying every day for others but no luck. Last job I was interviewed for asked if I'd do unpaid work till I leave my studies in July. It's a 2 year course, on my last year, last course year I did 3 part times and between studies and work had no day off, tried to let one go this year due to exhaustion, then left the other to do more hours in the last one, let off and looked for work for months, now only have 8h a week, over £6000 in debt... tried debt advice that advised £1 a month to whom I owe but not all accept it, and I don't even have the £1 to spare which them themselves admitted... so in a hole that seems to be caving in...
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
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minniesoporno
Focusing only on your debt will only create more debt, you should never starve yourself to pay debt . the debt will be there when you have money to pay for it.
seek out financial help from someone who can handle consolidation or maybe even bankruptcy. - bankruptcy is not the end of the world,
As for camming you are focusing too much on the how and not enough on just getting online and sticking with one site. your are making too complicated for yourself.
You might also want to look into community programs that provide food some even provide pet food.
Right now your in a scarcity desperate mind set - you need to get out of it.
Been trying, debt management said I'm not a candidate for bankruptcy, said I should pay debtors an amount of £1 which even they admitted I don't have...., due to being with a non European citizen am unable to claim any benefits (married a non European so for x years can't claim any government help), basically fallen into a bad type of loophole where nobody seems to be able to help.
Problem is I don't know what site to stick to and what amounts to ask, so could be literally asking for pennies and not know, it's all so confusing. Was thinking of trying to stick to chsterbt as has the games and apps but don't know what rates to put for what and if I must leave settings prices as is... I'm really really confused atm. Last time I tried and thought I was doing well but after over 5hours I made $9
I've been through a lot since a kid, always trying to be positive, make things work.... but I'm kinda running at a brick wall at this point...
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
You need a debt management company if you want them to take £1 a month.
However they have a fee for taking on your case. do you have the tech. Decent pc. Decent Internet?
I found the advice of all the girls here priceless. There is decades of experience that I have been greatful for. Do you rock twitter when on cam. I use chrome for camming and Firefox for twitter. I cant help with the what to do side of it as has been pointed out to me that every damn customer is different. But I can maybe get you some help on the tech side. ( depends on the spec to how much I can get hubbie to unlock cpu power for you)
And just be you babe. you can flow as yourself you cant pretending to be someone else.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Take a deep breath. This shit is scary I know. I saw that you said you signed up for MFC? Not the best idea for a brand new camgirl. Contact a local food pantry to see if they can help with meals. No shame in that at all. Because surely when you get back on your feet you'll pay it forward, right? I sent you a DM
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
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Selenasecret
You need a debt management company if you want them to take £1 a month.
However they have a fee for taking on your case. do you have the tech. Decent pc. Decent Internet?
I found the advice of all the girls here priceless. There is decades of experience that I have been greatful for. Do you rock twitter when on cam. I use chrome for camming and Firefox for twitter. I cant help with the what to do side of it as has been pointed out to me that every damn customer is different. But I can maybe get you some help on the tech side. ( depends on the spec to how much I can get hubbie to unlock cpu power for you)
And just be you babe. you can flow as yourself you cant pretending to be someone else.
I was using a free debt management company, can't afford a paid one, have been paying things in £0.02 and £0.01 and £0.05 after breaking the piggie bank, to pay for things, so cashiers get very angry as if it isn't money which doesn't help. One lady shouted at me saying I shouldn't be paying like that, she has a lot of customers behind me, I felt so bad, but it's what I could find in my flat, I lowered my head and said it's all I had, she scoffed at me and proceeded upset to count it.
I'll try to find out about the food bank, but I think you need benefits proof to get anything here and I'm not eligible for benefits.
Thanks for everyone support, advice and help so far
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
Take a deep breath. This shit is scary I know. I saw that you said you signed up for MFC? Not the best idea for a brand new camgirl. Contact a local food pantry to see if they can help with meals. No shame in that at all. Because surely when you get back on your feet you'll pay it forward, right? I sent you a DM
I registered to so many sites I lost count, as I have no clue where is best, I got the $9 on bonga, MFC had nobody maybe made a few cents, also registered to IMlive, 9pending) read they have payment issues though, mfc, chasturbate, stremate(pending), naked, clips4sale......
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
First of all, go to your GP and tell them you can't afford food. They should refer you to a food bank. Your place of study should have arrangements for students in a crisis; talk to them, tell them your graduation is in jeopardy because of your financial situation. If nothing else, they may be in touch with charities that may help.
Hang in there, sweetie xx
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
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DancesWithSloths
First of all, go to your GP and tell them you can't afford food. They should refer you to a food bank. Your place of study should have arrangements for students in a crisis; talk to them, tell them your graduation is in jeopardy because of your financial situation. If nothing else, they may be in touch with charities that may help.
Hang in there, sweetie xx
Thanks, spoke to college already, they gave me a grant, but its only 3 months out of the full year, feb, jan and may I think that I get a little extra, helps a bit. They said they would see if they might be able to get a little something extra but it might take time, and it's been months since they said it. Will def try the GP, if I can get some food somehow will help a lot, some days I get dizzy spells every so many minutes it scares me, a few weeks ago had to go to ER cause every breath was hurting, though they couldn't figure out what was wrong, thankfully it went away as suddenly as it came. Been going through this since September 2015, only started cams recently, roughly when I signed up here
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Oh yeah! If there's a Sikh temple near where you live, you'll be able to get some free vegetarian food there. (It's a religious obligation.) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_o...United_Kingdom
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Disclaimer: ymmv
If you can cam, you can make content. If you can make content, you can advertise yourself, you can sell the content, and you can remix the content to continually be making money from various combinations/amounts of the same content.
Schedule your content to upload while you're out looking for a job, or recyclables, or mustard packets. If you don't have dependents, you have all of the hours in your day.
Dumpster dive behind bakeries, groceries, pet stores.
Consider giving your pets up to a loving home and not getting another pet until you can feed yourself and them.
Make a sign and sit down by the road- don't let yourself go hungry.
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RedMeg
Disclaimer: ymmv
If you can cam, you can make content. If you can make content, you can advertise yourself, you can sell the content, and you can remix the content to continually be making money from various combinations/amounts of the same content.
Schedule your content to upload while you're out looking for a job, or recyclables, or mustard packets. If you don't have dependents, you have all of the hours in your day.
Dumpster dive behind bakeries, groceries, pet stores.
Consider giving your pets up to a loving home and not getting another pet until you can feed yourself and them.
Make a sign and sit down by the road- don't let yourself go hungry.
Already gave away my exotic pets I had for years, bearded dragon and royal python. Tried the sign but kept getting harassed by people telling me to get a job or creepy guys trying to hit on me in a pervy way, like sit next to me and try to touch me. One guy followed me home once, I was so scared. So many crazy people out there :( gave up trying that from fear.
Dumpster diving, I'd be to scared to catch something, I've seen all sorts in bins, blood, needles, slimy spit, poo... and seen people stopped by police for doing it.
I have anxiety issues, to much fear sets me into panic, been to psychologist but not helped much...
Will keep trying though. Thanks everybody...
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Starting out in the adult field with out having a rainy day fund (and while most may not). My rule with this field is make the money do not let it make you and Being to the point where you can not eat or any other necessitates may have you questioning your limits and you may end up surpassing them which is never good.
So piggy backing on most Find any type of legal pt job you can, look online as well outside of the adult field. I am not sure of your experiences but odesk, freelancer and fiverr are great platforms to find side online work from writing, social media work, customer service etc.
Do you have any childcare experience tons of babysitting sites online as well you may have to pay for your own bg check for some.
Pet sitting, dog walking perhaps as well??
Until you find a job charities as mentioned, food banks, do you all have welfare ebt etc etc you have no income should be some state/country something to get a little bit of supplement.
Sell as much as you can online CL,ebay yahoo groups, also see if there are freecycle groups in your country they offer things up for free sometimes pantry food and pet food items.
Also check to see if there is a charity/nonprofit which may offer free or very inexpensive pet food, items, services etc.
and the note on dumpster diving now i once wanted to be a freegan ( do not ask i go through whims sometimes i think to far outside the box) and while you should always be wary of dumpster diving look online for freegan groups as they have it down to a pact where they know the days grocery stores get there deliveries and when extra, bruised, barely damaged food gets discarded. That also goes in the line with bartering try to find some bartering groups where you can offer some skill for maybe a meal or something you may really need or can not afford.
When you have the time study/work camming, Everyone develops at their own pace and have to find their niche, I briefly cammed years back and just this year returned ( I like working for myself have multiple hustles/business in and outside of the adult work and more time to dedicate to it to actually make it worth my time) .
I am going to assume you do not want to dance as this may be a hard limit for you.
It will all work out try your best to keep your sanity and to lessen some shame shop non busy hour with change. As nice of a person as I am im not sure how my mouth would have reacted to the store clerk's comments.
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Everyone is giving some super good advice, but for your own sake, you need to compartmentalize - divide and conquer, or else all of these different concerns are going to be unmanageable. Create some kind of schedule and devote a certain amount of time to deal with certain problems, and then a block of time when you will just cam and only cam (if that is what you decide to do)
I agree with what Minnie said - it sounds like you are trying too much all at once. You aren't going to be a super pro cam girl with games and raffles and specials that work for you overnight. Right now, just focus on getting your foot out there and putting in the time and ENJOY IT. If you are logging on with all this stress and desperate for tips, it is going to effect you and make you lose money. It doesn't matter what you learn or the tips and tricks you try to use, at the core of this job, you have to be able to put on a good show and be enjoyable and entertaining. The fundamentals of being a cam girl is being someone that people enjoy and feel uplifted by, build that cam personality FIRST. Then, little by little, add in more tricks of the trade. But for now, just breathe and start with the basics: Choose a site that you are familiar with, that you seem to like the most, and build your personality THERE. Log in, and commit to a certain amount of time and just relax and be entertaining. If you really are being pressured by all these other factors, and you need to make money NOW, it isn't going to work, your audience will be aware of your mood and desperation.
Have you thought about stripping? If you are interested in sex work already, stripping definitely is better for those that need cold hard cash right away. Trying to get a new job takes time, but if you can get yourself to a strip club and get hired, you'll at least come home with some money that same night.
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You're in UK right? Next to SW, make this AMAZING forum your bible... it's called www.moneysavingexpert.com!!! Read the boost your income and debt sections (heck, read ALL the sections) cover to cover. Follow the blog of agirlcalledjack for seriously miraculous money saving food ideas http://cookingonabootstrap.com/
Then www.zooplus.com for pet food.
And are you a cam model? Quickest way to make money imo is to join dailypay and get camming!!!
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I understand what you are going through. First things first, pick one site to cam on and stick to it. Since you need money fast, you need to know the site and its culture inside and out. Consistency is key. Make sure you can dedicate a minimum of 3 hours every day, at the same time to allow repeat customers to find you. Don't lower your rates out of desperation. 3 takers at $5/min is more than 10 takers at 1/min. Ask for what you want--whether that is tips, ratings, favorites etc. Good luck getting out of this trying time.
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Do you have a GoFundMe Account. Im sure some of us Camgirls would offer some money assistance.I remember when I first started camming.. If it wasn't for Lustly Laken I would not be where I am today. I wasn't tech savvy at all. I was using the encoder on Sm but had all the incorrect settings. She took like an hour away from her cam time to help me. I would love to pay it forward to you. And im sure others would as well.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Pick one site. If you made money on Bonga already then make it Bonga but I would suggest you hook up with Boleyn Models so you can get paid daily rather then weekly or bi weekly but I believe they dont do Bonga so then do Chaterbate. If you would prefer a non token site go with ImLive or LJ if you dont yet have SM. As so many others said log on that one site and that site only. If you dont understand it dont worry you will learn it all and figure it all out and in the mean time you will be making money. If you not there you not making money.
Focus your attention on your room. Dont watch videos or read SW while you on cam! Give those guys your attention!
Imagine men spending money on you. Look at yourself in a mirror and tell yourself that men love you and want to spend money on you. I dunno why but that shit works. Do it everyday!
If you have ever considered porn I could put you in touch with some people. If you absolutely would not do porn then just do what I said above. However, I do know one porn company that is really great. You could make about 1500 euros, maybe its 2500. They do only solo vids of you and/or vids with another girl. Its all soft core and you dont have to do anything your not comfortable with. They mostly only have female producers and they do offer you one shooting with your BF if you want to do that as well. Its some quick cash and its a very safe environment. If its something your interested in you can PM me and I will give you the name and who you need to contact to do the interview with them. The interview is done over Skype with a woman and they do not ask you to get naked or do anything sexual its just to explain you what they shoot, what they pay for each shoot and to answer any questions.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Camming is not what you need to be doing right now if you can't even eat. You need something that pays you cash immediately such as stripping, babysitting, or at the last resort, escorting. I say at the last resort because it's one of those things that you want to have your head on straight. Post some ads on craigslist for babysitting/nannying, cleaning homes, and other odd or end jobs. You go and get cash in hand at the end of the day. When you are fed and not at a job, cam for a few hours.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
You sound like you're slowly starving to death. Shortness of breath and dizzy spells- I've been there. That is actual starvation.
You need to get some food FIRST. That is number one priority because you can't even think straight without it. Ask for donations for food. Set up a gofundme. Why isn't your husband making sure you have food? Do you have any friends or family to help get food to you? Starving is literally the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Oh god, I feel for you. Eating cheap noodles won't sustain you either. You need real food. Beans & rice, veggies, orange juice, etc. I'll PM you.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
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ScarletKitten
You sound like you're slowly starving to death. Shortness of breath and dizzy spells- I've been there. That is actual starvation.
You need to get some food FIRST. That is number one priority because you can't even think straight without it. Ask for donations for food. Set up a gofundme. Why isn't your husband making sure you have food? Do you have any friends or family to help get food to you? Starving is literally the most painful thing I've ever experienced. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Oh god, I feel for you. Eating cheap noodles won't sustain you either. You need real food. Beans & rice, veggies, orange juice, etc. I'll PM you.
^^^ This especially the highlighted in red question. Reading ur original message & the following few i had the impression u single but then i read u married?! and u starving to death trying to raise money for living & paying debts? What that prick near u is doing pls, watch u starve to death? Is he eating or starving together there?! I just get angry reading the pain u going thru in order to survive WHILE BEING MARRIED?!?
This is not all on u sweets, this is a couple matter & situation, i dont know ur actual marriage situation so cant really comment on why and how with the man next to u but just know u need to look for urself 1st of all, u need to eat and live, use all resources the ladies provided in this thread & think of ur health 1st, no matter what u do make sure u provide for urself.
There were moments in my life when i had no job & no food, i know exactly what it means to be there, me and my 8 yo son at that time were eating dry bread soaked in water and dipped in sugar for dinner, eating & crying, i never want to get back there, never again!
Good luck & look after urself first of all & if that guy u married with cant make ur life better then leave him, he should take care of you 1st of all, do u realize this?! No matter who he is, what nationality or what job he has there or no job, i dont care, he is supposed to take care of you. Stay safe & be well xxx
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
Be VERY careful of debt management companies, most are scams. You need someone official to advise you - there are links at the bottom of this page
https://www.gov.uk/bankruptcy/overview
I don't know why you cannot apply for bankruptcy/DRO, your debt is high enough...if your debt due to a student loan? I would also recommend this site as you're in the UK http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/.
For camsites, Adultwork is a site where earnings tend to be higher for new girls. You may also want sign up to Daily Pay.
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Re: Long shot but any mentors? I need some one-to-one help.
1. You need to go to a food pantry and get some food. I would say that instant noodles will make you sick. Stock up on some beans,rice ,breads, vegetables, fruits, and maybe can protein like tuna or even beef stew.
2.You should try stripping along with camming to make some fast money. Maybe you could even do some phone sex work on the side? Or you could take up Deep Thought's offer of doing some porn. Also look into some vanilla jobs such as freelance writing or even babysitting.
3. Pick one site like Bonga and stay with that for awhile.
4. Talk to your university and maybe they can help you with a food grant.