Re: Cam Shyness, hold back
Tip #1: stop judging yourself!
Re: Cam Shyness, hold back
Just remember it's an act and you are getting into character x
Re: Cam Shyness, hold back
Just try to build up the time you spend online, like at first try to make it to 15 minutes 'on', then click BROADCAST, smile and try to appear active on cam; answer chats, look for music to listen to, goof a little on your monitor, try to find your game face and keep it on no matter what! set your timer and build it up! I used to be so paralyzed too, you can do it!
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Awesome I am definitely going to try the timer trick even if its only for 20min or an hour, thank you so much for the great tip and encouragement!
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I listen to this when I'm having anxiety about getting on cam (and procrastinating as a result):
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkCFHKFCYGA
puts my ass in gear instantly.
Re: Cam Shyness, hold back
To be honest I used to feel that way too, but I just recently realized I actually make more when I just log on in my regular clothes, less makeup, and just brushed not done hair. Lots of guys like the regular girl look, and also if you feel more like yourself and more comfortable that might make you less shy. I think the reason I make more like that is because one I seem more obtainable and two I feel and act happier. After being a camgirl for about 3-4 years I still feel shy everytime I log on and don't really want to talk and be all bubbly, but after I go private and start making a little money I relax right after and am good to go for the rest of the night.
I never do anything but brush my hair, and put on blush, mascara, and lipgloss that's it. Sometimes I will dress up in something sexy but for the most part I just wear leggings and a cute top that I feel comfortable in. Seems like the more I have on the more privates I get because guys want to know what's underneath rather than I'm already showing everything.
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Just get online and do it. The endless compliments, looks, and appreciation shown by these guys will blow you away. Seriously, doesn't matter if you get on one day with a bag over your head and boils on your tits, some guys will say you're the most gorgeous creature they ever set eyes on :D Plus seeing the $$ come rolling in helps ha!
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It takes time, when I first started I had no sound at all, one cause I was shy and didn't like my voice and 2 i lived with my parents lol, next I started playing music a lot more than talking, just miming to songs and saying as little as possible, then I got into a character used a fake accent, more americanised, made me feel more porn starish and less like my awkward self and now thats what i do and im comfortable with that, only people who know where im really from say 'talk in your natural voice' and im like 'i dont think i can' lol thats my barrier now, i feel confident in an act... i put my wig on, make up, always in lingerie and looking the part, fake accent and learn lots of dirty talk so i always have something naughty i can say if general chit chat gets awkward but as time goes on im more and more comfortable so that recently im fine just sitting and chatting shit whereas before it would be constant 'game mode'
If i feel nervous too i have a glass of wine... always helps!!
So thats my tips coming for someone socially awkward haha i do pretty well though tbh get goldspot top shows frequently and pretty busy so it seems to be working. Just take your time, do whatever you need to, to feel more relaxed and in control and don't compare to others cause you dont know how long they have been doing it, if your gonna compare at least watch some that are worse too lol some have been doing it 12 years or so and are so rubbish its like gosh if i had been doing it that long id be top of my game on everything, settings, toys, roleplays, dirty talk, outfits some just dont seem to want to develop
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Playing background music with little talking is pretty much where I'm at..so gaining that confidence to openly talk in chat is a goal I'll keep mind. There are times where I will catch myself slipping from being bubbly and smiling to mellow and silent, its really easy to slip into when sitting for long periods. Since joining I've felt like prior to getting online causes all sorts of "what if" type thoughts, but after broadcasting it ends up being less dramatic than worked up to be. Thanks for the advice and tips its been useful reading back on certain things posted for motivation and camming tips! Have the timer setup to go when broadcasting tomorrow, things clean and a plan to be more firm in getting the fuck on, otherwise it takes hours of getting ready and I'm tired of being in this crap scenario every month.
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KatieJJJ
...... some have been doing it 12 years or so and are so rubbish its like gosh if i had been doing it that long id be top of my game on everything, settings, toys, roleplays, dirty talk, outfits some just dont seem to want to develop
Poor u, let's talk after 12 years in here again, see how it feels after u cammed that long, if u resist til then haha.
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BambiCutie
I'm starting to drive myself nuts about being so shy upon streaming and I have no problem showing myself, but everytime I've taken the time to do my hair, makeup and everything else I completely shut down. Does anyone know how to prevent this from happening or tips on making it less stressful?
Visualize your reality differently. It sounds cray but it works. Essentially, you repeat that you are great in front of the cam and you picture yourself fearless, outgoing and having a great time. You can do it front of a mirror and/or write it out in a journal.
Remember, you create your reality, the only obstacle really is you. It has been proven over and over again that our thoughts create matter at the subatomic level and that means that everything exists because of our thoughts. Negativity begets negativity. Things that make you feel good and happy attract abundance, success, and dreams.