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Disabled clients...
I had a situation recently that left me really unsettled-
At my club it's pretty common to do 3 dances, then ask for payment, then keep going if they like...
So there was a maybe late 20's early 30's guy with cerebral palsy I think. We chatted a moment, asked him if he would like a dance and he said yes. He wanted me to keep going and then after 3 I asked him for 60. He was saying something I couldn't really understand and I told him I can show him to the ATM if he doesn't have enough cash. So he grabs his coat (?) and starts walking and I grab a bouncer and tell them he owes me 60. So they make him pull out his wallet, nothing. They tried his card for dance dollars, and had him try his ATM, nothing, he has no money. After a while, he starts crying, they just tell him to go.
Never had a problem like this before. Should I have done something differently with him? I figure, treating everyone the same way is the kindest thing to do, but I kinda wavered between feeling taken advantage of and feeling bad for the guy. WTF?
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Re: Disabled clients...
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There's the possibility that he was confused and thought the cover charge included dances. I'm reaching hear, but I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, since he was crying. Sounds like he was embarrassed. I don't think he would have put himself in a position to be that vulnerable in front of people intentionally. Doesn't sound mean spirited.
I think you handled it appropriately. Maybe you legit got taken advantage of, but it happens. Like water off a duck. I had a guy freak out in the middle of a really great bed dance one time and just bolt. He owed me $60 as well, now that I think of it. He just said "I shouldn't be here" and went pale, and walked right out. He was having relationship issues and felt guilty.
Shit happens.
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Aw poor guy. I don't think you were taken advantage of. At least it was just $60 and not like hundreds of dollars. At least you know if you ever dance for another person who seems disabled like that then you know to ask for the money up front.
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What I don't understand is why it's common to do dances and then ask for a payment. That's just asking for trouble, in my opinion.
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That sucks but at least your club bouncers /managers literally forced him to open his wallet to make him pay but sadly he had no money?!?
In theory, and what the club here suggests (because they don't want to be responsible for getting your money), is to agree on a dance or number of dances, get money for said dances, then and only then do you start dancing. This is the safest way but it has some downsides. First guys get offended (don't ask me why but they do - there's a thread about upfront payment and men's reactions). Also it kinda limits you because say you got $60 upfront well most guys will be like okay I'm done after that sixty is spent. Whereas if you don't ask for money upfront you can string the dances easier.
What I do is I ask for money upfront for high risk customers (anybody intoxicated, don't speak English well, etc)
It happens every now and then but sounds like you all handled it well.
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That makes perfect sense. I have such a hard time getting to decide whether it's wrong or really smart to profile my custs. To treat them differently based on my initial impressions.... I suppose it's good salesmanship.
I was unable to walk without a cane and a heavy limp for a while and I wanted to choke anyone that thought I was unable to think properly because of my physical condition. You get really tired of people speaking slowly to you.