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For all the dommes
So how did you get not being a domme? I really want this to be a big part of my camming and would really like to learn some skills first hand, I have tried to find some dungeons where I can try my hand and work but can't find anywhere in the uk, any suggestions?
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Re: For all the dommes
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Fetlife may be a good place for starters if you aren't looking in there already. While they don't always take kindly to working people, you can look and lurk and find out indirectly where there may be dungeons. I have UK friends and cam clients who use Fetlife regularly. I've also seen UK dungeons who tweet prolifically so that may be a way to narrow down searches.
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If your in the UK then I can give you the names of quite a few dungeons.
If your looking to only domme via cam then you will find it very different to any real life domme/sub play. I'm a professional domme that does both real time and online sessions and I find them completly different.
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I haven't done much online with this, but I'm still finding where I stand. IRL I explored JOI years ago while a friend was away in another state. When he came back we kind of switched roles. I later ended up in a shibari class and learned that tying people up and taking power away from them will "flip my switch" and I can go into top mode.
In my experience it is a state of mind. Taking control of someone for your own pleasure, but you are still giving a lot to the bottom. The bottom has to sit there and take it, but you have to deal it. I'm not up to date, but I highly recommend Sunstone on deviant art.
Also something I don't think enough Doms do, at least in my IRL experience, is aftercare. Learn a little about that. Online it can be as simple as a note telling your sub how good he/she has been. Even if you are just playing a role, it can be intense for the other person. ^_^
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I think people make the D/s thing way too complicated. Really, it's just about finding out limits. One is more dominant then the other and you do it so each person experiences the right amount of pleasure. The right dynamic makes the session very symbiotic.
As an online Dom, you assess your sub and communicate well enough with them that you can form that right dynamic whether it is humiliation, pain, etc.
You'll find that the majority of guys are not really that extreme when it comes to being dominated but when you do find an extreme one it's quite entertaining.
I love SPH and JOI and I think that's pretty much the bread and butter of online BDSM.