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Miss_ShaSha
^^Nita, that can still happen. Listen, she's hurting and she's taking it out on your daughter. While it seems hard to mention this, if you don't then your daughter suffers. Not fair to either children.
And what you can do in the future is catch them being "good". Every single instance of good behavior gets highlighted.
You have time yet to save this. You love your BF and his daughter. This is a must to preserve the health of the relationships. It's ok. It'll be ok. You just gotta do it.
It'll go well as long as you emphasis behavior and your emotions.
I feel _______ when she does _______; please have a talk with her so she can do ________ instead.
And cry. Fuck...UGLY CRY it'll release oxytocin. You need that.
This is good advice. Accept I wouldn't bring it up to him directly, just yet. I would try the positive reinforcement first. Tell them that it makes you happy to see them being so sweet to one another, even if she's not being sweet at all. I'm not sure if you're a hugger but that may warm her up. Hugs feel good and she's gonna want more of those, therefore in order to get them she's gonna play nice. Your boyfriend may appreciate that more than anything else. If that doesn't work then I would gently point it out. She's just a kid.
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I took my chubby cat to the vet this morning because I was afraid she had an illness. It turns out she's suppose to be this big. She's a ragdoll cat! I'd never heard of those before. I got her about a year ago for my husband's bday and that lady said she was a Siamese mix. A year later and she doesn't look one bit Siamese. This cat can throw her weight on doors to pop them open. But she's really sweet.
Im thinking about getting Vietnamese food again today? I'm obsessed with those grilled pork sandwiches and spring wraps. After I make this gorey custom video I'm gonna pig out and watch horror movies. I think I might even keep my scary make-up on all day too.
Update: My vampire fangs won't come off.
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The longer I am in the sex industry, the more of a feminist I'm becoming.
It was unthinkable in the beginning to me but now it turned out this way. Oh I also became a big man hater. Not all men are shit per say, but I have unfortunately met enough men who turned me more and more homosexual. I was abused, forced into shit, raped, scammed and lied to too many fucking times. Now I'm totally embrassing my homosexual side instead to hide it and I love it. I don't need a man when I can have all my girls LOL
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
I took my chubby cat to the vet this morning because I was afraid she had an illness. It turns out she's suppose to be this big. She's a ragdoll cat! I'd never heard of those before. I got her about a year ago for my husband's bday and that lady said she was a Siamese mix. A year later and she doesn't look one bit Siamese. This cat can throw her weight on doors to pop them open. But she's really sweet.
OMG! I love ragdoll cats. Yeah, they get quite big. But so sweet and calm. I had a ragdoll male cat, I loved him so much and he was so loving too. He died at 3 yo unfortunately, cerebral edema. I still miss him although it been like 12 years since I lost him. After losing him I looked for another ragdoll, I couldn't afford pure breed and for months I was hoping to adopt one like him. I ended up with a norwegian forest cat. They're huge. And mine is fat too, I have a norwegian monster lol. I'm not into buying pets, I adopted and some are straight from the street and I can't get any more cats now but if I could, I think I would buy a ragdoll, identical with my beloved Diesel.
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What's on my mind.....Bank tellers that won't shut up!
I know I've mentioned it before.
I avoid going into the bank at all costs, but sometimes I need quarters, if the ATM is out of order, etc.
Yesterday was one of those days.
Same story. Bank tellers are all female. They start telling me all of their problems, which I don't care about.
Remember the teller who asked me what I did for a Living? Then asked if I could get her niece a job?
Bitch, you don't know me like that!
I had a check to deposit. Pay ATTENTION!!!
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It's getting pretty chilly.
I don't like cold weather and a dirty house. Well, I don't like a dirty house, period, but I REALLY don't like it when it's cold; frigid temperatures are for wrapping up in a blanket on the couch with carmel tea. I need to clean up if I'm to enjoy my day.
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Welcome to the CLUB!.. except I can't bring myself to be a lesbian..lol.... it's just eww to me.. unfortunate for me...lol
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The longer I am in the sex industry, the more of a feminist I'm becoming.
It was unthinkable in the beginning to me but now it turned out this way. Oh I also became a big man hater. Not all men are shit per say, but I have unfortunately met enough men who turned me more and more homosexual. I was abused, forced into shit, raped, scammed and lied to too many fucking times. Now I'm totally embrassing my homosexual side instead to hide it and I love it. I don't need a man when I can have all my girls LOL
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I think you either like women or you don't. You can't force that. I can say certain women are beautiful, sexy etc but I am not sexually turned on by women. I was told everyone is bi to a certain degree and I highly disagree with that.
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Welcome to the CLUB!.. except I can't bring myself to be a lesbian..lol.... it's just eww to me.. unfortunate for me...lol
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Marina Starr
I think you either like women or you don't. You can't force that. I can say certain women are beautiful, sexy etc but I am not sexually turned on by women. I was told everyone is bi to a certain degree and I highly disagree with that.
I agree. My first handful of crushes were on the girls at my private christian school. I got caught at school during my first gay experience and my step dad whooped the skin off of my ass. But trying to 'force' liking boys was rough. Either you like pussy or you don't.
Oddly enough, actually being with a girl ruined it for me. I doubt she is indicative of what to expect from women but her um..hygiene wasn't the best down there and I was immediately offended by it. so now I'm completely turned off to girls. Like you said, Marina, I can say that women are beautiful, sexy etc but I am not sexually turned on by them. Not anymore.
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LOL, I'm sorry she was fishy down there. Reading what you wrote cracked me up.
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I agree. My first handful of crushes were on the girls at my private christian school. I got caught at school during my first gay experience and my step dad whooped the skin off of my ass. But trying to 'force' liking boys was rough. Either you like pussy or you don't.
Oddly enough, actually being with a girl ruined it for me. I doubt she is indicative of what to expect from women but her um..hygiene wasn't the best down there and I was immediately offended by it. so now I'm completely turned off to girls. Like you said, Marina, I can say that women are beautiful, sexy etc but I am not sexually turned on by them. Not anymore.
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^if anybody is sorry IT'S ME bih lmao.
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Same.. I think women are beautiful and hubba hubba yum yum.. but yucko if you think I am licking vagina haha
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Marina Starr
I think you either like women or you don't. You can't force that. I can say certain women are beautiful, sexy etc but I am not sexually turned on by women. I was told everyone is bi to a certain degree and I highly disagree with that.
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seicento
OMG! I love ragdoll cats. Yeah, they get quite big. But so sweet and calm. I had a ragdoll male cat, I loved him so much and he was so loving too. He died at 3 yo unfortunately, cerebral edema. I still miss him although it been like 12 years since I lost him. After losing him I looked for another ragdoll, I couldn't afford pure breed and for months I was hoping to adopt one like him. I ended up with a norwegian forest cat. They're huge. And mine is fat too, I have a norwegian monster lol. I'm not into buying pets, I adopted and some are straight from the street and I can't get any more cats now but if I could, I think I would buy a ragdoll, identical with my beloved Diesel.
I'm so sorry you lost your ragdoll cat. Norwegian forest cats are gorgeous. I have a 15 year old Maine Coon mix. He's the smartest cat I have ever known and very high maintenance. He expects attention 24/7. LOL
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I'm so sorry you lost your ragdoll cat. Norwegian forest cats are gorgeous. I have a 15 year old Maine Coon mix. He's the smartest cat I have ever known and very high maintenance. He expects attention 24/7. LOL
I love Maine Coon too, they're gorgeous. Well, I love all cats lol, crazy cat lady here, obviously :D He's the age of my Birman, I hope he's healthy, my 15 y o has a lot of issues lately. One of my european shorthair is like that, wants non stop attention, he even sleeps in my arms all night. I only had 2 male cats, the ragdoll I lost and this stray but I tend to believe that male cats are like that, needy and more loving. The females come to me only when they want and ignore me completely otherwise.
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seicento
I love Maine Coon too, they're gorgeous. Well, I love all cats lol, crazy cat lady here, obviously :D He's the age of my Birman, I hope he's healthy, my 15 y o has a lot of issues lately. One of my european shorthair is like that, wants non stop attention, he even sleeps in my arms all night. I only had 2 male cats, the ragdoll I lost and this stray but I tend to believe that male cats are like that, needy and more loving. The females come to me only when they want and ignore me completely otherwise.
I love all cats too. I hope your Birman feels better!
I'm lucky that my cat is pretty healthy for an old guy. I think you are right about male cats being more needy and loving. I have had 5 cats, 3 males and 2 females. I had 2 Persians who passed away relatively young. Persians are wonderful but have a lot of kidney and bladder issues.
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~Carmen~
I love all cats too. I hope your Birman feels better!
I'm lucky that my cat is pretty healthy for an old guy. I think you are right about male cats being more needy and loving. I have had 5 cats, 3 males and 2 females. I had 2 Persians who passed away relatively young. Persians are wonderful but have a lot of kidney and bladder issues.
I'm glad he's healthy and I hope he'll have a long life with you! Yes, persians are known for the kidney disease. I'm sorry you lost them. I lost a cat 2 years ago due to CKD. Sucks.
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I talked to my bf about the relationship between my daughter and his and he was really patient and understanding about it. Ironically, his daughter did something maybe 30 minutes before we had the conversation, right in front of him this time. He had to pull her to the side and reprimand her. So it was a perfect example of the type of thing that happens constantly when she comes over - just somehow outside of his view.
I feel so much better. His reaction was everything I hoped for and his promise to address it really validated my feelings. Immediately afterward he seemed more observant of the girls' interactions with each other and in making sure his daughter didn't treat mine differently. He's never taken an issue I've had lightly but I'm just extra appreciative that he didn't brush me off.
I'm honestly glad to have talked to him about it.
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Attachment 52207 Has anyone else watched the commercial for these?
All I have to say, is if there's blood coming out of my man's ass or penis, we have a problem.:O:-\
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NitaBaby
I talked to my bf about the relationship between my daughter and his and he was really patient and understanding about it. Ironically, his daughter did something maybe 30 minutes before we had the conversation, right in front of him this time. He had to pull her to the side and reprimand her. So it was a perfect example of the type of thing that happens constantly when she comes over - just somehow outside of his view.
I feel so much better. His reaction was everything I hoped for and his promise to address it really validated my feelings. Immediately afterward he seemed more observant of the girls' interactions with each other and in making sure his daughter didn't treat mine differently. He's never taken an issue I've had lightly but I'm just extra appreciative that he didn't brush me off.
I'm honestly glad to have talked to him about it.
I'm really glad it went well. And now you can catch them being good. Reinforce good behavior.
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Miss_ShaSha
I'm really glad it went well. And now you can catch them being good. Reinforce good behavior.
yesssss. I kinda wish I'd kept the whole back story on one thread instead of spread out amongst three because as it stands I know it looks like I'm bitching over kids being kids. but what the hell ever. my daughter has a speech delay and is constantly being mistreated by kids so to see that under my own roof was just... no.
I'm glad it worked out, too. Load off my back.
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NitaBaby
yesssss. I kinda wish I'd kept the whole back story on one thread instead of spread out amongst three because as it stands I know it looks like I'm bitching over kids being kids. but what the hell ever. my daughter has a speech delay and is constantly being mistreated by kids so to see that under my own roof was just... no.
I'm glad it worked out, too. Load off my back.
Nah, doesn't look like that at all. You're ok. It's ok :)
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Im new here and its a delicate issue, but i would posit that the little girl would benefit from some one on one daddy daughter outings, even if its just to the park for half and hour, your baby was just an easy target for those children who get to be with daddy all the time now. The time she spends with dad will help put her mind at ease and come to terms with the changes. I hope i have not overstepped my boundaries, just love children and feel for them, trying to make sense of the world around them.
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samuimoon
Im new here and its a delicate issue, but i would posit that the little girl would benefit from some one on one daddy daughter outings, even if its just to the park for half and hour, your baby was just an easy target for those children who get to be with daddy all the time now. The time she spends with dad will help put her mind at ease and come to terms with the changes. I hope i have not overstepped my boundaries, just love children and feel for them, trying to make sense of the world around them.
Are you suggesting that my daughter spend more time with her dad? You're not overstepping anything. It's fine.
Her dad had to be begged and harassed to call them on their birthdays (i have three). So no, a day at the park isn't happening. Especially not now after he let his mom throw a car seat at my daughter. He'll be lucky if he can explain himself when she turns 18.
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No, no, your boyfriends daughter, was possibly bullying your youngest, because your baby is very openhearted and the littlest, but the bullying may be a symptom of your bfs daughter finding it hard to come to terms with her dad having a new family, as she might perceive it. Sorry i wasnt clearer. Sorry to hear you have to cope with a dysfunctional ex. Been there done that, for tooo long. Youre a beautiful protective Momma Bear and i cant believe you have one let alone three. Your children are very lucky.