is drama in the sc to be expected?
im EXTREMELY frustrated right now, i got fired from a club because 2 girls said i was causing issues with them and bullying.... when in fact i was the one being bullied!! anytime somebody said something mean i would just walk away honestly im scared lol. i didnt speak up because i dont know who these girls are and who they are associated with. >:(>:( should i have brought it up to the manager asap??? is a drama free club too much to ask for... feeling really discouraged from dancing atm ................. i got fired as easily as i got hired. all it took was some gossiping -__-
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Yes.
Anytime women with hormones, mental issues, possible drug addictions all come together to compete over men and their money - yes there will be issues.
Plenty of times I wanted to beat the brakes off a b*tch x 2, but the higher powers stopped me dead in my tracks. And weeks later the one of shit starters was fired. Take that! Karma bitch!!!
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polequeenkat
im EXTREMELY frustrated right now, i got fired from a club because 2 girls said i was causing issues with them and bullying.... when in fact i was the one being bullied!! anytime somebody said something mean i would just walk away honestly im scared lol. i didnt speak up because i dont know who these girls are and who they are associated with. >:(>:( should i have brought it up to the manager asap??? is a drama free club too much to ask for... feeling really discouraged from dancing atm ................. i got fired as easily as i got hired. all it took was some gossiping -__-
I noticed in some clubs the management allows the drama starters to be snitches but will also often suspend them or fire them once they cross the wrong person.
It sucks but people do this at regular jobs too.
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A drama free work environment is yes, sadly too much to ask for. My father and husband were both fired from their jobs over drama w their colleagues so a stripclub is probably gunna be even worse lol. I dint think I've known anyone who hasn't dealt w "office politics". It's not your fault, it happens to the best of people.
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It's office politics basically but we're all so precarious and seen as disposable by managment. Also strip club managers seem to be a breed of their own. Sorry to hear about this but live and learn. It gets easier to avoid these things with experience.
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I want to tell you no, it's not to be expected. That would be a lie or sometype of wishful thinking on my part. Unfortunately it is part of the life; the best you can hope for is to keep out of the drama.
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The smaller the club the bigger the drama is my general experience.
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tempest666
The smaller the club the bigger the drama is my general experience.
Word. This happened in a small club with too many girls. Like 40-50 girls in a small room wtf? Also tiny ass DR.. recipe 4 disaster
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Yes. Drama is to be expected. Girls get jealous and talk shit. I'm dealing with that now actually. I just ignore and make my money. That's all you can do.
To be honest, I don't really talk to anyone much at my club. Unless it's about superficial stuff. But I won't let them in emotionally. Too many people are backstabbers.
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^ I also ignore and am mostly a loner at work. I've been sucked into drama in the past, and now I am very hesitant to get close to other dancers. Works for me.
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Any human organization with 3 or more persons will be spiced in some way by politics/drama. Please also add that lots of our colleagues (and ourselves) have short fuses and you will have a very volatile working environment.
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After 20 years of dealing with crazy people both in & out of the bar business I've discovered someone's desire for attention + lack of self-awareness equals a potential pit of unwanted drama. As soon as you identify that in certain people, avoid them.
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^ I also ignore and am mostly a loner at work. I've been sucked into drama in the past, and now I am very hesitant to get close to other dancers. Works for me.
It sucks, but it's best to be a loner. Some people just can't be trusted.
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one thing I've noticed since working in the adult industry is that unfortunately many of the people in this business (customers included) have cluster B personality disorders. ^^^ sadly I agree, it is most beneficial to be a loner.
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The biggest drama was always with management and staff. Most of them are awful with a few rare nice ones. Yes be a loner but polite to everyone....that's the best way. The girls who actually were nice I would help them out in little ways at work, ohh and never loan out things to other girls like outfits bc I've lost so much shit from that!
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SnuffleUffleGrass
After 20 years of dealing with crazy people both in & out of the bar business I've discovered someone's desire for attention + lack of self-awareness equals a potential pit of unwanted drama. As soon as you identify that in certain people, avoid them.
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OHITSRIRI
one thing I've noticed since working in the adult industry is that unfortunately many of the people in this business (customers included) have cluster B personality disorders. ^^^ sadly I agree, it is most beneficial to be a loner.
No. Lies. Told. I would add that instead of being a loner, I would recommend being strategically friendly with management (but not too cozy or reliable that they begin to use you). Be friendly with enough co-workers that you don't look like an easy target. They operate like bullies and they target the people who never have witnesses or backup. Be chatty to a select few who don't make trouble BUT take no mess. Perfect combination to ward off opportunistic scum like bullies.
I had a housemom who had it in for me and she tried to goad me into a fight or drive me away from the club. I started coming in with a buddy every shift and made my schedule less predictable so she couldn't work up a plan. Finally she thought she cornered me and started screaming at me. I closed my locker and she saw my friend was behind the door and heard everything. She started smiling and back pedaling and using her sugary sweet voice. My feisty friend started popping off as I knew she would! Last time that bitch ever came at me.
Play chess with these fuckers. Don't isolate. Plan your social moves once you see how they like to attack. The physical ones are easy to get rid of. Report them, then beat the crap out of them. Management will see them as the problem and get them out. Rumor mongers should get to see your posse especially if you know a big mouth girl! They're the best at talking smack aggressively and makes the opportunist think twice about screwing with you and your crew. OAN if it's a few club workers giving you a hard time, you can divide and conquer. Single well placed ones out for great tips and they will protect you from any random bs like firing sweeps. You can buy people's loyalty or at least their neutrality. I learned this in Vegas. Club workers aren't always swayed by how good a worker you are or how loyal you are over the years BUT the will back up their good tippers.
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Hell yeah it's expected. This is a super cut throat business. I've personally have had more drama with shady pimp hosts than girls.
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OHITSRIRI
one thing I've noticed since working in the adult industry is that unfortunately many of the people in this business (customers included) have cluster B personality disorders. ^^^ sadly I agree, it is most beneficial to be a loner.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zAQWQCdttac
This covers the basics of how to handle people with personality disorders.
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It's partially avoidable. Don't get ready in the dressing room. Be ready when you get there, as much is possible. Don't hang out in the dressing room. There's no money back there.
If you are doing well, don't flash your money around, and don't brag. Count your money discreetly, possibly even in the bathroom.
At a regulars dependent club, ask a customer if he is waiting for someone before you sit with him. Don't approach a guy right after the dancer he was sitting with goes on stage (at a small club, this will be easy to keep track of, generally). Don't hustle a guy if he's already sitting with someone. This will make you "enemies" faster than anything else.
If you do all this and there is still drama, consider working at another club if it's possible.
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Optimist
oh I've had lot's of experience with narcissists throughout my life. I didn't even know about narcissism as a personality disorder until last year when someone pointed out that my boyfriend at the time possessed many of the traits.. once I did my research it was most definitely a life changing moment for me. because finally I could put a name to it. patience is most definitely key. the funny thing about it is you don't have to exact revenge on these people. all you have to do is sit back & watch them self destruct. that is the story of their life, self destruction & self sabotage.
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polequeenkat
im EXTREMELY frustrated right now, i got fired from a club because 2 girls said i was causing issues with them and bullying.... when in fact i was the one being bullied!! anytime somebody said something mean i would just walk away honestly im scared lol. i didnt speak up because i dont know who these girls are and who they are associated with. >:(>:( should i have brought it up to the manager asap??? is a drama free club too much to ask for... feeling really discouraged from dancing atm ................. i got fired as easily as i got hired. all it took was some gossiping -__-
I don't talk or even look at other girls. I never had "drama" or anything I would consider drama. I've had girls whisper about me or say things but again I don't talk or even look at them...I don't know any of my coworkers names. Just make your money and get out. Don't try to make friends.
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I'll say right now, I'm an idoit. I did not heat the warnings but I did it. .
I try to be miss friendly and got fuck over.
Just dont, if they nice to you, becarful because the ones who's nice are alot of times up to no good.