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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
WendiStarr
I'm giving you guys heads up on a dude named Donnie on there. He clearly thinks that Phrendly is like Tinder, messaged me saying that he hopes I'm in Kansas because he wanted to meet up for sex this evening and got pissed off that I'm not. That was his first message to me. Lol
If it's Donnie B then he knows all about the site not being a dating site. I talked to him on Jul 18 and Jul 20 and he said he had never sexted before that. That's what he chose to do after learning he couldn't meet anyone. He even said hi a couple days later.
He is a truck driver who got divorced because of course his wife cheated on him. LOL (and he's a truck driver!) He drives cows from Nebraska to Iowa, and Kansas is in there too so it's him. Said he'd never done this before but seemed to know what he was doing with the texting. Had a few photos of his dick too! barf His profile has a photo with a grey/white beard and moustache and lying down in frame 2 and 3, it says he is 45 and funny as hell. Is that him?
Don't you hate these guys playing us?
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
Lintilla
I talked to what I assume was him the other day while I was in a shitty mood because literally everyone was just asking me where I lived immediately. His first message to me was asking if I lived in Kansas. I replied that no, I did not, and he didn't respond, just like everyone else that day. So I sent him another message saying that there's a reason profiles don't have locations on them--it's not a dating site or for meeting people, and that going around asking random people if they happen to live near him seems pretty damn inefficient, and besides, no one wants to meet him anyway, good luck lol. Then I blocked him. I see he didn't take any of that information on board, but did figure out at some point to get his message out there right away because replies cost money :P Wonder how that's working out for him.
But more generally, wtf are these guys thinking who just go around and ask every girl if they happen to live nearby? There are 50 states. How often can the answer be yes before they use up their free drink? Even without realizing sips cost money, because none of these guys have any idea what the site is about, how would that ever be a good use of their time? After getting a couple of "no" answers, they should at least realize matching isn't by location, but they're still out there asking days later. Total idiots.
guys tell me they are looking at the time zone you have listed. (And it's in GMT now) So they try to narrow it down from there.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
katydiamond123
guys tell me they are looking at the time zone you have listed. (And it's in GMT now) So they try to narrow it down from there.
We can change our time zone??!
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
So, one of my regulars told me that he was leaving the site (and gave me his telephone number... sigh) because Phrendly wouldn't approve his gif and told him that he had to have one.
I messaged him back to get some more details and took a look at his gif. In it, he's wearing a hat that's pulled down rather low over his face and he has his hand up covering his chin and mouth. So, I guess Phrendly didn't approve the gif because it doesn't show enough of his face. However, what does he mean about them "forcing" him to have a gif? He clearly still had money on his account, as we swapped a few messages back and forth, he clearly wasn't banned from using the site.
Anyway, here are my questions:
1- Does Phrendly have a policy that the guys must have gifs and that they must be approvable gifs?
2- If so, how do they enforce this policy? Like, was this guy prevented from loading more money onto his account or was he given a deadline to upload a new gif or his account would be deactivated?
3- If they have a policy like this, why??? Many of the guys I've had extensive messaging and call sessions with either have no gif or an unapproved one and now I'm wondering if they are all going to get pushed off the site just because they want privacy.
Of course, it's also entirely possible that this is the Phrendly version of "brb someone's at the door" and he just wanted to move on and not receive any further messages from me.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
Spemily
So, one of my regulars told me that he was leaving the site (and gave me his telephone number... sigh) because Phrendly wouldn't approve his gif and told him that he had to have one.
I messaged him back to get some more details and took a look at his gif. In it, he's wearing a hat that's pulled down rather low over his face and he has his hand up covering his chin and mouth. So, I guess Phrendly didn't approve the gif because it doesn't show enough of his face. However, what does he mean about them "forcing" him to have a gif? He clearly still had money on his account, as we swapped a few messages back and forth, he clearly wasn't banned from using the site.
Anyway, here are my questions:
1- Does Phrendly have a policy that the guys must have gifs and that they must be approvable gifs?
2- If so, how do they enforce this policy? Like, was this guy prevented from loading more money onto his account or was he given a deadline to upload a new gif or his account would be deactivated?
3- If they have a policy like this, why??? Many of the guys I've had extensive messaging and call sessions with either have no gif or an unapproved one and now I'm wondering if they are all going to get pushed off the site just because they want privacy.
Of course, it's also entirely possible that this is the Phrendly version of "brb someone's at the door" and he just wanted to move on and not receive any further messages from me.
Of course we don't require any one to go public on the site. Most guys choose to browse & interact privately. If you want your profile public, we do maintain certain requirements for GIFs, of which most of you are familiar (show face, no nudity, must be live, high technical quality, etc)
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
jamma
Of course we don't require any one to go public on the site. Most guys choose to browse & interact privately. If you want your profile public, we do maintain certain requirements for GIFs, of which most of you are familiar (show face, no nudity, must be live, high technical quality, etc)
Well, then I guess that means that he had his heart set on a public profile for some reason or he was bullshitting me in order to avoid future messages. Thanks for the clarification, Jamma.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
ep2002
Ditto here.
I don't understand what this means. How do you work Phrendly? You can't do anything unless a guy starts talking. Unless you are talking about marketing the site for them. Please explain. Thanks :)
Yup, that's my guess, that they all leave once their free $10 is gone.
Hahaaha!! I wish it were $10!!! It's more like $3.50!
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
ChubbyCherub
We can change our time zone??!
Yes it's on your profile page. You just click on the right to change it. :-)
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
How can you tell if a guy blocks you on Phrendly?
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
I had an unusual guy today. We were chatting off and on all day and then he told me that he was going to leave Phrendly because it was costing him too much. He gave me his real number. Of course I didn't contact him on his real number so he came back to Phrendly to chat with me more, lol. Usually the guys get ticked off that I'm not going to message them at their real number and quit chatting. This dude came back lol
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
I blocked two guys today... one who described violently how he wanted to choke me, and another who talked about never wearing condoms and having an impregnation fetish. Um no thanks
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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seashell
I blocked two guys today... one who described violently how he wanted to choke me, and another who talked about never wearing condoms and having an impregnation fetish. Um no thanks
Wonder if the impregnation guy is the same one i had lol.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
Lol! I haven't got him yet or else he'd be blowing up my phone. I deal with a lot of impregnation dudes on one of my pso lines for a pregnant character I play. As for the choking guy, ugh..I would block him too. I don't care for violent fetish dudes.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
I just signed up for Phrendly now after watching this thread for a couple months. I have been sexting (and making an average of 300-400 a week on different platforms) for about 10 years now and I totally get why you guys are venting about all your experiences on this site and shit you have to go through (all the power to you) but when it comes down to it, I kind of wonder why some of you act like bitches to these guys? I guess my style is a bit different.
I typically kill guys with kindness and act totally understanding, I try to make them feel special even if the thought of them makes me vomit. On a GFE type site I would expect to do the same. Unless they are really being a complete ass hole, in that case I will be a bitch to them as I would my "real" bf. I can't really say much about my experiences here yet of course but will update once I do.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
amerie
I just signed up for Phrendly now after watching this thread for a couple months. I have been sexting (and making an average of 300-400 a week on different platforms) for about 10 years now and I totally get why you guys are venting about all your experiences on this site and shit you have to go through (all the power to you) but when it comes down to it, I kind of wonder why some of you act like bitches to these guys? I guess my style is a bit different.
I typically kill guys with kindness and act totally understanding, I try to make them feel special even if the thought of them makes me vomit. On a GFE type site I would expect to do the same. Unless they are really being a complete ass hole, in that case I will be a bitch to them as I would my "real" bf. I can't really say much about my experiences here yet of course but will update once I do.
I can't speak for other girls, but I am always nice when I'm talking to them. If they cross the line severely, then I block them. Some of the worst guys do eventually turn around and send gifts.
I just come here to vent, haha...
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
amerie
I just signed up for Phrendly now after watching this thread for a couple months. I have been sexting (and making an average of 300-400 a week on different platforms) for about 10 years now and I totally get why you guys are venting about all your experiences on this site and shit you have to go through (all the power to you) but when it comes down to it, I kind of wonder why some of you act like bitches to these guys? I guess my style is a bit different.
I typically kill guys with kindness and act totally understanding, I try to make them feel special even if the thought of them makes me vomit. On a GFE type site I would expect to do the same. Unless they are really being a complete ass hole, in that case I will be a bitch to them as I would my "real" bf. I can't really say much about my experiences here yet of course but will update once I do.
You hit it on the head with the hammer, precisely. I see a lot of complaining about a lot of things, especially in the NiteFlirt and TalkToMe threads. And some people wonder why no money is being made. Succinctly stated, too much time off task produces little results. lol But people will complain so what can you do?!!! My style is probably like yours. Its an attitude that is deeply rooted in sales and being a good talker. Some people got it and some people don't. You can literally tell what kind of personality people have in these threads and automatically project if they're going to make money or not.
I see a lot of people complain about the men asking their location. Haha, no worries. I ask them their location right after they hit me up. I create an illusion for them and profit very well off that. Some of them are smart to look at my time zone and know whats up but most of them are dumb. Why complicate things when you're sitting from behind your mobile phone or computer. Just doesn't make any sense to me.
Another thing I see is people complaining that men find this to be a dating site. Who the hell cares what they think it is?!!! I'm not about to waste precious brain cells trying to convince a man (probably horny as hell) that he will never meet me. My sales pitch is to string you along for as long as I can to retrieve the optimal amount of money via texts, calls or video. With that being said, most of my blocking comes if they ask "really" stupid questions at the beginning or I'm on my monthly cycle. lol I use to see these kind of ladies in the club (some beautiful) but they never made anything because they complained too much and their attitude was horrible. haha
There's a reason why some people are better at these roles than other people. And its a reason why some people make $20-$100 a weekly and why some makes $200 plus a week. So with that being said, let them complain. It is what it is.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
JayzGirl
Another thing I see is people complaining that men find this to be a dating site. Who the hell cares what they think it is?!!! I'm not about to waste precious brain cells trying to convince a man (probably horny as hell) that he will never meet me. My sales pitch is to string you along for as long as I can to retrieve the optimal amount of money via texts, calls or video. \
Because some of us feel that isn't ethical. There's a difference between selling someone a fantasy who has consented to pay for a fantasy and another thing entirely to lie to someone and get them to spend money based on false pretenses. I make more than $200 a week and I'm nice to the guys and I don't lie to them. I'm not pretending I'm incredibly successful at being an online sex worker, but I make a decent living and I do it without misleading people.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
Spemily
Because some of us feel that isn't ethical. There's a difference between selling someone a fantasy who has consented to pay for a fantasy and another thing entirely to lie to someone and get them to spend money based on false pretenses. I make more than $200 a week and I'm nice to the guys and I don't lie to them. I'm not pretending I'm incredibly successful at being an online sex worker, but I make a decent living and I do it without misleading people.
Depending on who you ask, online sex worker or a regular one, most will agree that its unethical to some extent. Present that same argument to a panel of regular Americans and they most will say its totally unethical in some shape or form. If you think that you're being "nice" and "ethical" by sending them suggestive texts, pics and video then I rest my case. lol It's all the same to me.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
JayzGirl
If you think that you're being "nice" and "ethical" by sending them suggestive texts, pics and video then I rest my case. lol It's all the same to me.
Are you saying that it's inherently mean (the opposite of "nice") and unethical to be a sex worker?
I am nice to them. I don't bully them, insult them, make them feel stupid or like I'm trying to rob them. And I am ethical. I let them know what services I provide and for what price. When they pay, I provide that service. When a guy comes to me under the impression that Phrendly is a place to meet women to date in real life, I let him know he is mistaken as gently as I can and I don't take advantage of his ignorance to take his money under false pretenses.
I'll make sure to say "lol it's all the same to me" when someone lies to you and takes your money, though.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
Wait, are we really complaining about other girls' complaints on this thread? I thought that's what this forum was for, sharing your ups and downs, trials and tribulations, and strategies?
We have a lot of positivity here on this thread, as well as great sales tactics. I don't know why there's suddenly this image of us being broke and treating customers badly. If we were, I don't think some of us would have been posting here for months on end. Lol
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
Spemily
Are you saying that it's inherently mean (the opposite of "nice") and unethical to be a sex worker?
I am nice to them. I don't bully them, insult them, make them feel stupid or like I'm trying to rob them. And I am ethical. I let them know what services I provide and for what price. When they pay, I provide that service. When a guy comes to me under the impression that Phrendly is a place to meet women to date in real life, I let him know he is mistaken as gently as I can and I don't take advantage of his ignorance to take his money under false pretenses.
I'll make sure to say "lol it's all the same to me" when someone lies to you and takes your money, though.
If that makes you sleep better at night. "tomato, tomayto......"
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
I think it's petty to complain about other girls venting their frustrations. As seashell mentioned, there's positivity in this thread and many other threads. This forum is meant for us to come together to speak about our frustrations in this industry and help each other out. It's not always sunshine and roses. No work place is. And the venting helps a lot of people release unhealthy tension.
So I propose we drop that subject and support each other and understand that not everyone has a good day. I really don't think any of the girls here are hurting anyone by venting a bit. I'm a great talker and I make fantastic money but yes, I will be rude and block someone that's trying to fuck with me. I'm not gonna let some asshole walk all over me for 35 cents a message.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
Hey! Any idea how long they take to approve profiles :) It's taking a sweet minute x
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
gdds
Hey! Any idea how long they take to approve profiles :) It's taking a sweet minute x
For me it's varied from less than a day to three days.
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Re: Phrendly.com, a new GFE option to consider
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Originally Posted by
Spemily
For me it's varied from less than a day to three days.
Thanks :) fingers X it's sooner rather than later xx