letter to your newbie self
So it has been about 2 months since I've danced last and I am going back next week...had to take some time off to find myself again. But as I look back I can't help back smack myself in the head sometimes at some of the shit I did and also applaud myself for other things I did. So, if you could write a letter to YOURSELF as a new stripper, not anyone else, what would you say? I'll start....
Dear self one year ago,
DON'T GET IN THE HABIT OF DRINKING HALF YOUR BODY WEIGHT IN ALCOHOL AT WORK!! And the excuse "I'll use work as exercise for today" is shit. Keep your regular work out times because they are vital to keeping you sane. Plus no one likes a jiggley, fat, bloated stripper (lots of alcohol + lack of exercise = how you gained 15 lbs. thank god for good body structure it didn't look like I gained that much weight). Remember this: you are the greatest actress in the world....which means don't go mixing your two roles. Stripper persona stays inside the club...actually work on your stripper persona its too much like your regular self. which isnt so bad, but when you are meeting people OTC and giving out your real number...these people don't want to be friends. Don't be so gullible!! Learn to read a lie, and learn to perfect your own for work. Speak only when spoken to since you have a habit of talking a lot about boring topics and/or you start talking to yourself...its not very cute at the club lol. Learn some basic topics and become a lil more book smart so you can hold a conversation longer. You are loved for your respect so keep that up. But keep your ground too. You will be put in situations where catty girls and rude men will pull one over you so keep the bitch inside tamed but know she will need to be brought out. You have always had a good handle on not letting fights get out of control. And last but not least, you are a poor person no matter how much money you have until you have reached your ultimate goal. No wasting money on food or stupid little bullshit you think you "need"...at least buy clothes it lasts longer!! Once you put those heels on you will become someone else, but that someone else still isnt far from who you are. you both deserve respect and dignity. Always keep that in the back of your head.
And no drunk pole dancing. Or remember how your hands work so you don't fall off the pole again lol
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best advice I would give myself? don't be too nice!! BIG newbie mistake! yes, you'll get too drunk and yes you'll lose out on a sale sometimes cause you're not on your toes. but in the end, respect yourself and don't try to make a customer like you to get $$.
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I 100% agree with you on that one
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Dear Newbie Me,
There's a lot of life lessons this line of work can teach you-- not all are good, not all are bad either. Keep your head on your shoulders and don't be overly friendly with other people, you can meet your best friends in this line of work but remember not everyone is going to be your friend for good intentions. Keep a guard and don't get caught up in the drama of the club. Stay positive even if every girl is being so negative even if there are only 30 minutes left in your shift and you haven't made your goal yet, keep your spirits up. SAVE YOUR MONEY. SAVE. Don't spend $75 to $200 in a day and say Oh I will make it back tonight because that doesn't always happen. Listen to your surroundings but don't take it all to heart. Treat your body good, drink A LOT OF WATER. Watch your alcohol intake, WATCH YOUR DRINK, don't leave it with a customer, because even though you may trust that customer, they could slip you something and if you're lucky, youll spend your night vomiting in the back and passing out in the dressing room instead of them taking you to the CR or wherever in the club and taking advantage of you.
Yeah, I wish I could have had a visit from my future self when I started haha
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Work out more & don't pick fights with the craziest dancers in the club
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Don't compromise on your boundaries just because you're working in an extras club and you think you won't make money otherwise. Switch clubs instead.
Don't do private parties with a chick who's constantly high on Xanax.
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When you meet your first dj and he tells you that there is a mandatory bikini hair line check and he needs to see your vagina, it's really bullshit. Lmao I was such a dumb ass when I first started... also, never try painkillers! Have a side job to not get burnt out. Don't loan anyone money, you'll never get that back. Watch the bartender make your drink if you're underage and he's giving it to you in secret, he can slip a roof in quick. Don't ride with strangers because you got too drunk. I think that's it :)
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Not a stripper but....
Dear newbie self,
FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. I know grandma said to give people the benefit of the doubt but she doesnt live a high risk lifestyle. She is not a sw. Alternatively, do not block you blessings. (Example being: Whenever I man would approach I would immediately say 'Im not looking for a relationship' DO NOT. Just turn them into a trick instead.
Ps do not tell any of your friends about your lifestyle. They may say theyre down but theyre not...this is smoke, mirrors, and entertainment. Also dont be afraid to cut out toxic people...family or not
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I do not want to repeat your previous comments, still I would say this one to myself: do not spend months in a horrible topless club just because you think a thong is your safety blanket, go nude, you will love it.
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Dear newbie self,
Stop wasting so much time! Your time and attention is a luxury, if he isn't spending after a couple songs move along. You don't need to make every guy there happy, just the ones who help pay your bills.
Don't leave work early. When you get upset, go downstairs, mess with your makeup or read or do something to take your mind off of it and then try again. Just because there's no customers at 11 doesn't mean there won't be any at 1.
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No one cares how smart you are. Talking about grad school isn't sexy.
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Don't punch a guy in fornt of everyone.
May loose sales or better yet kick out