A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
1. I changed my hair from 26 inch extensions back to my real hair which is a little longer than my shoulders. With extensions or any hair i wear a middle part. But today i went and got my hair done and had her do a deep side part with swooped bang over my eye. My hair is SUPER thick but healthy and i had tons of volume. I looked 20x better wth this hair and it gavr my tons of confidence. Guy also complimented me on my naturally sexy look.
2. I have been being TOOOOO nice to customers. I just realized that after sitting down a couple days ago and digging deepa about to issues that i have. I have some acceptance/abandonment issues steming from childhood. This had led me to be overly nice/empathetic in hopes of pleasing ppl. Ive recently got into affirmations, prayer (i believe in god), thinking about the good in my life and writing down my goals/dreams. Im still realizing that you cant control rejection/what ppl think/etc but u can control you and how u see urself is most important.
3. Being assertive and AGGRESIVE. Stating what i want, being upfront with customers instead of beating around the bush. Urban clubs i see u can be mean and bank. So now thats what im gonna test out
These 3 things helped me
But i could have made $500 extra dollars. I went on stage and a big spender came in and i happen to be on stage hanging from the 20 ft ceiling. He threw 100 dollars at me. I was so sweaty after my stage set that i went to change. When i came back out there were two girls that swooped down on him and was standing in a pile of over $1000. That shouldve been mex but me trying to be cute and over thinking stuff wanted to change, now look what happened
Re: A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
No need to feel bad! You said yourself how sweaty you were,I wouldn't want to be all nasty anyways! It happens to all of us a few times,don't let that very small thing eat you up!
Re: A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
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No need to feel bad! You said yourself how sweaty you were,I wouldn't want to be all nasty anyways! It happens to all of us a few times,don't let that very small thing eat you up!
Thanks, ur right. I was like f*&$*$#*#*÷>ck!!!!!!!
Lol
Re: A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
Point 4. I DO NOT talk to dancers at all. That shit is distracting for me. I MAY be different than other dancers. I can only focus on one thing and thats money. If i make acquaintaces i literally gonna want to just talk and i dont want that. It may sound wierd but i literally have tunnel vision.
Re: A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
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1. I changed my hair from 26 inch extensions back to my real hair which is a little longer than my shoulders. With extensions or any hair i wear a middle part. But today i went and got my hair done and had her do a deep side part with swooped bang over my eye. My hair is SUPER thick but healthy and i had tons of volume. I looked 20x better wth this hair and it gavr my tons of confidence. Guy also complimented me on my naturally sexy look.
2. I have been being TOOOOO nice to customers. I just realized that after sitting down a couple days ago and digging deepa about to issues that i have. I have some acceptance/abandonment issues steming from childhood. This had led me to be overly nice/empathetic in hopes of pleasing ppl. Ive recently got into affirmations, prayer (i believe in god), thinking about the good in my life and writing down my goals/dreams. Im still realizing that you cant control rejection/what ppl think/etc but u can control you and how u see urself is most important.
3. Being assertive and AGGRESIVE. Stating what i want, being upfront with customers instead of beating around the bush. Urban clubs i see u can be mean and bank. So now thats what im gonna test out
These 3 things helped me
But i could have made $500 extra dollars. I went on stage and a big spender came in and i happen to be on stage hanging from the 20 ft ceiling. He threw 100 dollars at me. I was so sweaty after my stage set that i went to change. When i came back out there were two girls that swooped down on him and was standing in a pile of over $1000. That shouldve been mex but me trying to be cute and over thinking stuff wanted to change, now look what happened
That sounds painful... like you walk away from a "good" stock, and then you realize your stock went berserk. Stock market I mean.
Re: A couple things that helped my hustle today ... advice plz
The other good side effect of banking is it attracts the right stripper friends. They want to make money too & are less apt to scheme behind your back if you help them out sometimes.
Yeah definitely being "too nice" can backfire because socially awkward guys get stuck on that "nice" level & are afraid to get sexual. (Energy wise.) My bread & butter is that awkward guy. I'm still learning how to prevent these customers from getting too intimidated to go to VIP.