Customers asking sexual questions
OK I really haven't danced much so maybe I just "don't get it". If you are talking to somebody the first time with intention of trying to sell a lapdance or VIP room session to them and they start asking all types of sexual questions.... How do you handle it? Is this when you walk away or can those still be OK customers? So far I have been walking away, but I am wondering if it's possible to turn it around and still make a sale without them getting weird in the private dance area.
Also what do you do when customers keep trying to get very handsy when you are doing lapdances... Are you just supposed to wave their hands away the whole time or get a bouncer? Do you walk out?
Re: Customers asking sexual questions
The strip club is a sexually charged environment, so it's certainly not unusual for customers to want to talk about sex with a dancer. Some of them may have no intention of spending, but you should definitely at least try and translate your time into a sale before walking away. "It sounds like you're ready to have some sexy fun with me." "All this sex talk makes me want to get naked in your lap." "Let's move this to the VIP so I can tell you all about [whatever sexual topic he brought up]." etc. etc.
With handsy customers it depends. I dance very defensively so that way their handsiness is mostly annoying but never gets anywhere. Before swatting their hands away, I'll try redirecting their hands somewhere acceptable and say something about how much I love being touched there. Some handsy customers do it from a misguided attempt to make you feel good, so they'll happily grope your hips if you say that's what gets you going. If they persist, I'll move their hands away every time they try, and they'll usually stop getting dances once they realize they're not going to get to touch what they want. Some don't, and if they're harmless enough (ie. it's just annoying to keep pushing their hands away but they aren't being aggressive), then we'll keep playing octopus until they're sick of spending money.
I've ended dances a handful of times with customers who were just too much, though I've (luckily) never had to get a bouncer involved. If a customer is being very aggressive or you feel unsafe, don't be afraid to end the dance and/or get a bouncer. That's what they're there for. No amount of money is worth feeling uncomfortable.
Re: Customers asking sexual questions
Do you mean asking for extras or just bringing up sexy/sexually charged topics?? Cause I bring up the latter myself, it's the sex industry, getting these guys thinking w their little head is how I make my money off dances...
And it depends how handy. At first I'll be cute "aw you're bad! You're gunna get me in trouble and I want to keep dancing for you!" Then I'll get more stern and move those hands with a "no, you can't do that here hon" and finally three strikes and you're out ..and you have to pay.
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I am talking about the guys that want to talk about sex with you-not the ones asking for extras. I guess to me it makes me think, " well if one of the first things they talk about is eating pussy is that what they want in private/vip?" And I just kinda get scared off and move on to the next person. Maybe I am doing it wrong I don't know! I also have no idea how to handle guys that are like "what do I get to touch in private? Blahblahblah I work all day to make $$$ that u make in such a short time!" Uhhh I just walk away there too...Before I start cussing someone out.
I have to say though I find it a lot easier to have a great attitude with dancing than camming- I don't know what it is. So I know I am making the right transition.
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Depends. Sex talk can either be the dude just trying to get more excitement or he could be looking for extras.
The difference is talking about fantasies/masturbation/etc vs. guy saying what he wants to do to you. The latter is the men I walk away from cause most likely they're into extras. However I may still hustle them but they're only good for a couple dances before they realize you're not fucking nor are you giving a contact info so they can try to arrange to fuck.
So basically I don't mind talking about sex (ex sex with myself or other fantasies) to get their blood rising and wallet opening but I never talk about me wanting sex with them.
Handsy men are annoying. You basically either have to get them to prepay (like a 30 min VIP room or just agree to x number of dances and get the money first) so you have leverage to walk away if a dude starts harassing you AND still keep your money or you have to dance defensively like always be moving, never get close to them, never bend over or turn your backto them so you can always see what they're doing.
Also tell the managers/security and don't take shit from these unsavory men. If you tell a man no - then no means no cotdamn it and I'd say it just like that.
Some of these men have zero home training/intoxicated/psychopaths and think cause they waltzed into a strip club and paid you money that anything goes. Um no sir. You still have rules, boundaries, consequences so don't even go there.
Once i I told a handsy dude "you better watch out....." He was like what? watch out? And was on shook the rest of the time cause I guess the thought a bouncer was going to come out of nowhere and kick his ass. Lol.
Doesn't matter if you're in a sexually charged environment. You have boundaries and men have to respect that or they can leave.
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I am talking about the guys that want to talk about sex with you-not the ones asking for extras. I guess to me it makes me think, " well if one of the first things they talk about is eating pussy is that what they want in private/vip?" And I just kinda get scared off and move on to the next person. Maybe I am doing it wrong I don't know! I also have no idea how to handle guys that are like "what do I get to touch in private? Blahblahblah I work all day to make $$$ that u make in such a short time!" Uhhh I just walk away there too...Before I start cussing someone out.
I have to say though I find it a lot easier to have a great attitude with dancing than camming- I don't know what it is. So I know I am making the right transition.
I hate when they ask that dumb ass question. If they are talking like that they most likely are trying to see how far they can go/how far you will go. So they don't pay for VIP and be disappointed after they get back there.
I'm always sexy but vague. I never agree to any specific acts. A lot of guys ask about touching which I'm okay with as long as it's respectful (caressing only where I say is okay and no grabbing, no pinching, no poking, etc)
Some guys You will be better off getting all their money from stage show where they can only look and can't touch you. If they can't handle going in private where they'd most likely try to grope you up then public show is all they get.
Go with your gut which sounds like you are and avoid men who you think will hassle you as they aren't worth your time or energy.
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You tell them before you begin the dance and after they pay that there's no touching or you will end the dance. If you are comfortable with it, you can upsell boob or waist touching dances by telling them 'it's $xxx for the naughty/ VIP/ exclusive/ special dance with touching, that's my most popular dance and $xx for no touching'. Switch it up to fit you. And then after you get their money, tell them your rules.
Play along w customers when they try to talk sexy, but don't give too much away. When they talk sexy, immediately close the sale. "I'd love to get naughty with you, come with me." Don't waste your time trying to sell a customer who is only talking dirty and not buying, he's trying to get a free story/ show. Once you're in VIP/ the dance area, then you start to talk really dirty and get them riled up so they spend more.