Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
Personally, I've always done best at dancing when I do it part-time with a vanilla job. It tended to keep burn out at bay, put me in a better mood while at the club (which had a positive effect on my money), made me a bit more scarce to my regulars (thus consolidating their visits to 2 shifts, making each shift better on average than when working more shifts), and had the added bonus of not resulting in any resume gaps.
Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
It can definitely help w mood and attitude! You don't feel like you *have* to go in to make money, which is s a huge part of it IMO. I just can't stand having a boss, and I can't handle vanilla jobs that require bosses so I like to torture myself with the uncertain income of self employment instead.
Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
Vanilla jobs can help with burn out. I held a vanilla job for almost 3 years while being in the adult world part-time after previously working in it full-time. I had originally got the vanilla job because I was getting burnt out, wanted health insurance, and wanted something where I didn't have to spend hours getting all dressed up, and pretending to be happy and/or horny all the time. Then I got sick of the bitchy supervisor and lame workplace rules. My vanilla job required a doctor's note every time you needed to call off and you were only allowed 2 paid sick days a year. You'd get written up if they thought that the doctor's note wasn't good enough. They wrote me up over the dumbest things like if they thought that I used the bathroom too many times in a day. I have ibs so I didn't think it was fair of them to write me up when I was going through a flare up and they didn't understand that I needed to use the bathroom to avoid an embarrassing accident, or when I was pregnant and had to pee every 10 minutes. The whole not being able to make your own schedule sucks. I can't stand being micromanaged. The good thing about a vanilla job is that it can be something to add to the non-vanilla resume when/if you do decide to leave the non-vanilla world.
Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
Having a vanilla job while working in sex work can have advantages and even disadvantages.
I remember when I was starting out I knew my vanilla job would bring in $1,600 a month, but with my constant needs of wanting to be my own boss and control my life and schedule and also the up and downs of taking care of my mental health. I never stayed in a vanilla job no more then 2 months or less.
The pressure of a job of constantly being evaluated by management added in with office gossip I couldn't handle it. so I started to discover vanilla jobs I could do at home. Then it just became i couldn't handle the pressure of constantly being evaluated by management and the annoying you can be fired for any reasons or non reasons during probation period.
At my worst in my mental health I was in and out of treatment programs and emergency rooms almost every 6 months. So to have a vanilla job that understood I just escaped being a victim of a crime, and dealing with the mental side effects of it was pretty much impossible. not something you can bring up in your first few weeks of starting a job.
If your end goal is to have a career in the vanilla world then it makes sense to have a regular income that you can add on your resume. If your end goal is to have a career where you are designing your life, choosing your clients, and how much you charge and what services you are providing then you have way more flexibility of when you take on a vanilla job to support your dreams.
Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
I personally found that having a vanilla job increased my stress and burn out...the vanilla earnings were nothing like what I was making dancing even 2x week and it felt like such a chore to go in, plus it cut way down on my extra sleep.
Re: Burn out & vanilla jobs
I always experience burnout every once in a blue. 6 months a square snaps me back to reality. I've only been burnt out twice though