Ok, I need some advice from other dancers.
I have asked a lot of club employees from Vegas, Portland & Denver about this issue I have sometimes (more times than not) at clubs where I am, if not always, one of the hottest if not the hottest girl there. And yes even in Vegas this happens. The issue is.... I am too intimidating to customers! Everyone tells me I am intimidating (unless its an arrogant guy typically) and honestly sometimes it kills my money.
I seriously don't know what to do about this.. if I talk to most other dancers I know about this I sound like a snobby egotistical bitch. Like seriously no one cares or wants to hear about "hot people problems"; I get that I don't get sympathy for shit, but the reality is... I experience a lot of the same BS a lot of more unattractive dancers do as well, only for opposite reasons. And the 2-3 super hot dancers I know are married, mostly taken care of by their husbands, only dance for fun & aren't solid hustlers; so thats no help.
At work...
I smile. I try and start conversation sometimes.. but I can be reserved and shy & because to most men I am the "fantasy" girl and I am very exotic looking; guys usually are very scared to talk to me. I try and keep my energy open but I am a total introvert and if I spend my energy on the wrong customers; I don't have any left by the time I get to the good ones; so usually I just stand there until a guy thats drunk enough to think he has a chance approaches me; then he spends everything on me; and that's usually my night.
It's weird. I have developed a weird hustle because of peoples reactions to me and I don't know how to adapt it.
So tonight was a bad night for me, and one of the club employees said I am too intimidating, too "perfect stripper"/Barbie, and that maybe I should dumb myself down a bit and try the "girl next door" type look.. even tho I am naturally very exotic looking and can't change that...
Wtf. I don't know what to do.
Does anyone have any hustle advice on trying to be less intimidating? I like being put together.
For an idea of what I look like, just think "Victoria Secret" model type; stats 32DD-24-36; slim/tone, I am 6'1"+ in heels; long hair; Slovakian/French mix.
Also, sorry for the overdrawn post/rant...

