Inviting somebody from your day to day to come see you dance.
Two stories, and then a whole grab bag full of questions.
A couple of years ago, before I started going to clubs, I had a class with somebody who was a dancer, and who was very up front about it. We became acquaintances, and she invited me out to see her. I had only been to a club once before, and felt like it might be awkward, and if she asked today, I would probably say the same thing.
Another time I was in a club talking to one of the dancers, and she said that she danced in the town where she grew up, so people recognized her all the time, and sometimes, it was super-weird, like when one of her teachers from high school showed up. At least, she said, he didn't try to talk to her or buy dances.
I'm sure this is already a thread, but both these stories got me thinking, have you ever invited a friend or casual acquaintance to the club to see you? Was it weird for them? Was it weird for you? Have you ever been recognized? How was that? I'm sure that a similar thread has already been started, but I couldn't find one. Sorry for the double post.
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I'm pretty open about my career and I've invited male friends to see me at my club...with the understanding that I am working and they have to spend money. No one has shown up to my club yet but I'd be happy to see em if they did!
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Yeah I have, cause I've gotten kinda numb to the job i guess? it's just not sexual to me or awkward but for them it was. I just wanted their money lmao.
Now that's not to say I'd be ok with everyone from my personal life seeing me dance, but some of my male acquaintances I have invited. Depends on the person. Shrug.
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Bahahaha, no not when I'm working, but I have suggested my club when guy friends wanted to go to one.
I did have an old casual friend come in, along with a guy who had tried to get my number once, and that was weird for them. I saw them first, walked up and said hi like no big deal, but I could tell the one was very uncomfortable. He ended up buying dances from a girl who was nowhere near his type, seemingly so he wouldn't have to look at me while I was on the stages near them, and then they left immediately after.
They are in MY domain, if anyone's gonna be uncomfortable it's them :D
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Yeah, a guy in my acting class. Our instructor assigned us a scene together and I told him to come by the club when it was slow so we could rehearse. We practiced our lines at the bar and when I did my stage rotation he threw a few bucks at me and then left. He became a good friend. It wasn't weird. He was a regular at other clubs so the environment was comfortable for both of us.
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I would not invite someone if I thought it would be weird. When I was a very new dancer there was big name porn star featuring at my club. I invited my cousin because I know he liked her I just told him to turn his chair when I was on stage. I have invited guy friends in the past, I just would not want someone I was dating or did date to come because I feel like it would throw me off to be Gia in front of people that know the real me intimately. One of my exes would come inside the club from time to time if he was picking me up and I was not ready. The club didn't really care because he never caused problems and knew all the staff. If I was in the LD area, stage or VIP I didn't care but I HATED giving table dances if he was there...
Don't know if I rambled away from answering your actual question but...
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Selina M
along with a guy who had tried to get my number once, and that was weird for them. I saw them first, walked up and said hi like no big deal, but I could tell the one was very uncomfortable. He ended up buying dances from a girl who was nowhere near his type, seemingly so he wouldn't have to look at me while I was on the stages near them, and then they left immediately after.
They are in MY domain, if anyone's gonna be uncomfortable it's them :D
Damn that is cold! :)
I go out of my way to make sure they don't feel bad when I show no interest/reject them, but you go and make them squirm!
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No. never. I like to hustle in anonymity.
True, I would imagine it would hurt your approaching and performance if you had prying eyes -of somebody you know and can bust your balls afterwards- judging you.
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DeathAndTaxes
True, I would imagine it would hurt your approaching and performance if you had prying eyes judging you.
Um.... that is kind of what it is like to be a stripper on any given day. What makes it uncomfortable is the face the eyes are attached to.
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Um.... that is kind of what it is like to be a stripper on any given day. What makes it uncomfortable is the face the eyes are attached to.
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Also let me add that it is difference between people that know and people that don't know how hard something can be, I know I would be infinitely more comfortable being judged by peers (close friends or not) than I would from those with no clue. I actually like the former.
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Why would you ask anyone to come to your club if not for the sole purpose of knowing they will be buying dances from you...
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Why would you ask anyone to come to your club if not for the sole purpose of knowing they will be buying dances from you...
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Presumably the big picture goal is to create regulars?
Dunno, but if a girl asked me that, the first question going through my mind is why the hell do I need to go to the club for that? Why not pay for the dance outside?
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DeathAndTaxes
Presumably the big picture goal is to create regulars?
Dunno, but if a girl asked me that, the first question going through my mind is why the hell do I need to go to the club for that? Why not pay for the dance outside?
Cause you'd get bored seeing one girl dancing lol! And it's more cost efficient to go there than hire 3+ private dancers. Unless money is no object.
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Cause you'd get bored seeing one girl dancing lol! And it's more cost efficient to go there than hire 3+ private dancers. Unless money is no object.
It would not get boring, if I knew her beforehand it would definitely be a fun new experience. In a SC even if I see 10 girls I still want to get to know all of them, but the hustle and fantasy makes it a fool's errand.
Going back to the original topic, in my mind it just does not make sense for the club to get part of the cut, when she should keep all of it. If I wanted the proper experience I would go when I actually wanted.
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Most dancers that I've gotten to know try to work far enough away from home precisely to avoid a crossover between personal and work interactions. IME many of these girls have kids and/or other situations (work, family, etc.) which make cross pollination problematic for them.
The couple of stories I have heard about "discovery" by a real life party did not end well. One in particular really sucked and involved a favorite back in the northeast. She needed to be close to home in case her babysitter had a problem with her daughter, so she could not travel far from her house. As luck would have it, one night the father of one of her daughter's school friends came in the club and spotted her on stage. He seemed cool about it that night, but the next day his 6 year old daughter told her 6 year old daughter that they could no longer be friends. Apparently it was fine for him to visit strip clubs, but not ok for the mother of one of his daughter's friends to work in one. I have 3 young children and that was heartbreaking to hear. I'm guessing that it is that type of hypocritical judgmental behavior that many dancers seem to be looking to avoid.
Anyway, just my :twocents: fwiw.
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True, I would imagine it would hurt your approaching and performance if you had prying eyes judging you.
Daaayum!!! Who let Hall & Oates up in here? ;D
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I don't understand some of the logic on this thread.
I keep my family in separate from school, from work, from friends. Each group/world of mine/is separated. I have a lot of personas....