Empty club - newbie guidance
I'm a strip club newbie and looking for some guidance. I'm a 40 year old guy who has been married forever and this week went to a strip club for the first time in my life.
I got there around 12:30 PM on a Monday and I was the only customer there. There were two dancers - one was a goddess and the other was an 8. I spent about 2 hours there as the only customer in the club while waiting for an afternoon appointment. Several times they both danced on the main stage and I also did about 3 lap dances with them. The goddess wasn't as into the lap dance, so I only did one with here. The 8 turned into the real goddess during the lap dances and I went into the VIP room with her. She was incredible and went a bit above and beyond. I wasn't expecting that and it kinda ruined the fun for me when it was over - I let her push the lines of what I was comfortable with as a married man.
I ended up spending about $250 for my afternoon of fun with those two ladies. Overall it was incredible to have two stunning young ladies faun over this old guy. I do know it was only because I had some cash and was the only guy there.
So my questions:
When you are alone or there are only a few customers, are you expected to tip more when a dancer is on the main stage?
I really enjoyed just watching the beautiful girls dance on the main stage instead of the lap dances. The lap dances were so dark it was mostly just a grind session. If presented with a similar opportunity, should I just pay the lap dance fee and ask if she minds just dancing on the main stage?
After each session, I would just chill and drink my soda (non-alcohol club) while browsing on my phone. The girls would come back and sit down with me where I told them they didn't have to and we could dance a bit later. I was honest with them that I had time to kill and was not trying to rush through things. Their responses were that their manager was getting mad that I was sitting alone in the club. I didn't know if this was just a ploy by the girls to try to get me to spend more money, but was tempting for me to just bail because of the pressure to keep doing things. Should I have been concerned about this?
I'd love to have a similar experience, but didn't like the amount of cash I spent. Is targeting 2 hours of fun with maybe 3 lap dances @ $20 each and $20-$40 for tipping tipping reasonable? Or is that unfair to the girls if I'm the only guy there?
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You got off easy man. 250 for the amount of attention you got was a bargain.
But stop feeling like you need to do anything, like tip more if you are the only guy there or whatever. Just take good care of them, and they will return the favor.
Far, far better to go into a club when it's slow. Go to the same club when it's slamming with 200 other guys, you're just a bug on the wall. So many guys totally fail to realize this.
Seen it 10,000 times...it's a slow night, very few guys there, a bunch of girls sitting around bored and wishing they could make some money...a couple of guys walk in the front door, look around, say to themselves 'Hmmm, not enough dick here, let's go to another club...'
I SWEAR, this happens all the time! Idiots...
:rotfl:
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If you're the only guy there then depending on how long the club was dead the ladies may pressure you a bit if you sit there too long not spending.
I worked day shift here for a while (dead ass shift) where sometimes from 11-4pm there would literally be zero customers. The girls would start getting antsy and pounce as soon as a customer walked through the door. So if they've been sitting around for hours not making money they're probably going to have less patience for "oh I just want to settle in and have a cold beer" type of customers. They're going to hit you with the 3 song (or less) hustle like it was a crowded Saturday night.
Since you discovered you're not a fan of private dancing/VIP, I think it's okay to spend the price of private dances plus tip to watch the women dance on stage. Either that or pay them to go to the private room but they don't have to lap dance they can just talk or rub your shoulders or whatever.
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cash=attention
Spend what you feel comfortable with and you will be fine
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miss.a.p1600
So if they've been sitting around for hours not making money they're probably going to have less patience for "oh I just want to settle in and have a cold beer" type of customers. They're going to hit you with the 3 song (or less) hustle like it was a crowded Saturday night.
Yeah that is the flip side to my usual advice, that it's much better to go to a club when it's slow. Some of the girls wind up getting very frustrated/bored/irritated, and they won't be any fun at all--unless they are able to snap out of it.
I totally understand this syndrome. As a DJ, I can tell you that slow shifts with few girls and few customers are way, WAY harder to work than slamming nights with all kinds of girls and a packed house. Plus the added mental burden of knowing you are likely to walk with shit money. After a few hours of this, my ability to pretend it's really exciting to put up the same bored, pissed off girl yet again, to the same annoying music she can only dance to or she will throw a shit fit*, is reduced to abysmal levels.
Then suddenly a guy or a few guys come in, and you have to snap out of that funk real fast--because they will pick right up on it and leave half the time.
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miss.a.p1600
Since you discovered you're not a fan of private dancing/VIP, I think it's okay to spend the price of private dances plus tip to watch the women dance on stage. Either that or pay them to go to the private room but they don't have to lap dance they can just talk or rub your shoulders or whatever.
I never get dances, won't do it. But partly because I will wind up working with them likely as not, and I cannot then be the guy that has to pay them for attention.
However, i will never go to a club if I'm not going to tip the girls and buy them drinks. Also the backrub idea is great! I will offer them the money to do it right out in the club, rather then bother with going in private dance room.
You get the physical attention, they don't have to pretend to be excited about it, and they love the relatively easy money, rather than some groping lecher (not you, the other guys they have to deal with). I've done this many, many times. Find the right girl though--some are much better than others at this.
*No offense to the many dancers that are easy to work with and flexible with music.
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Thanks all for the helpful responses. I'm probably spoiled now and will only want to return when I'm the only guy there and all attention will focused on me ;)
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If you want to see the girls dance on stage and compensate them appropriately to get back up there no stripper is going to say they'd rather dance in the private area