What's the difference? Do you always go out to dinner before sex?
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What's the difference? Do you always go out to dinner before sex?
I had no idea there was even a difference.
This is so cuuuute. LOL
Cute because this is what I thought before I started escorting.
GFE is escorting. It means that you're open to kissing and bbbj (bareback blowjob) - nothing else.
Not all escorts are GFE. Some escorts don't kiss at all.
As for dinner, there's no guarantee any of your clients will actually take you out.
There's social escorting (where you just go out and do nothing else) but there isn't really a big market for that.
I don't like billing myself as GFE because a LOT of guys rationalize GFE as "more miles for less" scenario.
A LOT of hobbyists would rather keep everything covered.
I think GFE is a "hot" thing but if it isn't okay with you don't let anyone pressure you into offering it.
fbsmgirl i spent about an hour doing some more research and i wanted to slap myself lol (newb when it comes to all things/everything escorting) but im curious...i ended up stumbling on the best thread on SW when comes to newbies wanting the basics of escorting i wish i would have bumped that thread and deleted this one....oh well ill go searching for it soon
Hehehe..yeah, when I was first researching and saw GFE, I thought the very same thing too. Like, here on SW there were some discussions about being paid just to spend time with a guy, and also the whole sugarbaby thing... So I thought GFE was along those lines..guys just pay you to pretend to be his Girlfriend. I was ALL about it :D
But yeah, The two common classifications are GFE and PSE. Not everyone is one or the other, just that by aligning yourself as one of those types of escorts, it sends a signal to guys what sort of services they can expect are included without going into detail...so if you do say you are one or the other, make sure you actually do the common Acros associated with it. I make sure to note that I do not do anything that compromises my personal health and safety...99% of guys get it. Even if someone thinks BB is a part of being GFE (which it certainly is not) now they know for sure where I stand without me spelling it out for them. Which is important..most guys do not want to see a woman who does BB. Only assholes and creeps are into that.
Now, how you are perceived depends heavily on how you market yourself. Personally, I still really really liked the idea of being a paid girlfriend, so thats what I market myself as, not just GFE based on the services, but a full on actual girlfriend experience. So I market myself as the girl they can take out for dinner, go on a trip with, will walk down the street holding their hand and sneaking kisses. My rate is the very same whether we are in private or public..they are paying for the whole experience. I do offer rate breaks for longer dates though, since that is what I want. I hate hourly dates...love multi-day dates..and my rates reflect that.
This may be specific to my city, but it seemed that when I first started escorting (about a year and a half ago), guys asking for GFE basically used it as a code term for unprotected acts (something I don't personally do, without exception)...but lately, there's a much more innocent connotation - typically they're looking for someone to make conversation, maybe share a drink, etc. rather than simply "going through the motions." Let me be clear that they're looking for this "connection" (lol) *along with* sex, of course.
I've been wondering whether this is a widespread change, or just a reflection of my slowly figuring out how to attract more upscale clients... Has anyone else noticed this?
Nah Sarah..thats always. Like fbsm girl said, it means that you will do the acros DFK AND BBBJ. Thats it cut and dry. But since forever (well, lol as long as Ive been doing this anyway, I started about 5 yrs ago) some guys are misinformed and think that it should mean BB, because duuur, what guy uses protection with his girlfriend?! Um...many. Only way I will be with a guy without protection is if we're engaged or married and I know that a lot of women who feel that way. Or...guys see the BBBJ and assume that means BB-everything..nope...
So yeah, thats why I make it a point to put that line in that I value my health and safety and will not do anything to compromise that. So even if a guy wrongly thinks GFE means BB...he'll know Im not down for it.
But yeah...no the innocent connotation really is a marketing thing. Id say still that GFE and PSE strictly point to the acros a lady is willing to do. The connection and conversation...that can be anyone even if they are PSE or not GFE/PSE at all. Some GFE providers want nothing to do with a connection and want to keep their emotional distance from the guys. So yeah, its a totally separate thing.
A guy looking for that would have to pay attention to how a lady describes and markets herself beyond any Acros she gives, to get an idea of whether or not shed be interested in a more casual date. If she lists half hour and hour dates and nothing at all about dinner dates or social dates...odds are slim. If she has a 2hr minimum and overnight weekend date rates...the odds are better.
This was taken from another poster who said she got it from TER (this was the post that really cleared it all for me)
0.5$ -- $50
$ -- $100
$$ -- $200
$$$ -- $300 etc, etc.
420 Friendly -- a provider that will smoke marijuana with you (see the Urban Dictionary - http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=420)
A-Level -- Common in Britain, anal sex.
Agency -- An organization or individual that manages many providers.
Amazon -- A large woman.
AMP -- Asian Massage Parlor.
Anal -- Anal intercourse - penetration of anus with penis
Around the world -- Anilingus and Fellatio.
Asian -- Anilingus.
Asian Cowgirl -- Woman rides on top during intercourse, squatting over the man on her feet, not on her knees.
ASP -- Adult Service Provider.
ATF -- All Time Favorite.
ATM -- Ass to Mouth.
Aunt Flo -- Menstruation, period, red tide.
B&D -- Bondage and Discipline.
B&S -- Bait & switch.
Bait & switch -- 1) Ads, pictures that describe someone else, 2) Promised one thing or person, given another.
Bareback -- Without a condom.
BBBJ -- Bareback Blow Job.
BBBJTC -- Bareback Blow Job To Completion.
BBBJNSNQTC -- Bareback Blow Job No Spit No Quit To Completion
BBFS -- Bareback Full Service.
BBW -- Big Beautiful Woman.
BCD -- Behind Closed Doors.
BDSM -- Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism.
BFE -- Boyfriend Experience.
BJ -- Blowjob; fellatio; oral sex.
Blackhole -- Anus.
BLS -- Ball licking and sucking.
Blue Pill -- Viagra.
Blue Steel -- Viagra.
Brown Eye -- Anus.
Brown Shower -- Defecation on your partner.
BS -- 1) Body slide, 2) Bullshit.
BTW - boardspeak for "by the way"
Canine -- Doggy style.
Cash and Dash -- A rip-off where they take the money and run.
CBJ -- Covered Blow Job.
CBT -- Cock and Ball torture.
CD -- Cross-dresser.
CFS -- Covered Full Service.
CG -- Cowgirl.
CIM -- Cum in mouth.
CL -- Craig's List. The newspaper want ads of the internet, and a free place for providers to advertise.
Clockwatcher -- A term for a provider who counts the minutes until the session is over. Usually used to describe a provider who rushes and does not enjoy her work.
CMT -- Certified Massage Therapist.
COB -- Cum On Body
COF -- Cum on face (see facial) Be careful performing or receiving this as it can lead to the painful CIE (Cum in Eyes) and the sticky CIH (Cum in Hair)
Commercial Company -- Prostitution, normally a trucker’s term.
Completion -- Orgasm.
Cover -- A condom.
Covered -- Use of condoms or dental dams.
Cowgirl -- Woman rides on top.
Crushing-- fetish relating to dominance and control; a desire to see small, defenseless animals crushed under women's high heels.
Cups (cups of coffee) -- Orgasms.
DATO -- Dining At The O, rim job.
DATY-- Dining at the Y, Cunnilingus.
DDE -- Doesn't do extras.
DDG -- Drop Dead Gorgeous.
Deep throat-- BJ where the penis is "swallowed".
DFK -- Deep French Kissing.
Doggy -- Woman on hands and knees with man entering her from behind.
Doubles -- threesome with two providers.
DP -- Double Penetration.
DT -- Deep throat.
ED -- Erectile Disfunction.
Ellie -- LE.
English -- Segment of bondage and discipline; including spankings/whippings.
EOM -- End of Message.
EOP Equal Opportunity Provider - a provider who does not discriminate on age, race, color or background of clients.
Facial -- Man ejaculates on woman's face.
FBSM -- Full Body Sensual Massage.
Felching -- 1) Sucking semen out of vagina or anus; 2) Inserting animals into anus or vagina.
FIV -- Finger In Vagina. Digital Stimulations.
FJ -- Foot Job.
Flake, Flaky -- Errant behavior, often used for providers who no-show.
FOTC -- Fuck Of The Century.
French -- Oral sex.
FS -- Full Service; intercourse.
GFE -- Girl Friend Experience.
Golden Shower -- Urinating on your partner.
Greek -- Anal sex.
GS -- Golden Shower (either you urinate on her, or she urinates on you).
Half and half -- BJ followed by FS.
HE -- Happy Ending.
HJ -- Hand Job.
HM -- High mileage.
HME -- Honeymoon Experience (sex like you'll never have again).
Hostess Club -- A lower end strip club where bargaining for sex acts with the dancers is acceptable, and some activities may occur on premises.
HR -- Hand Release.
Incall -- You go to her place.
Interpreter -- Condom.
ISO -- In Search Of.
Italian -- Penis between butt cheeks.
Jack Shack -- Establishment (massage parlor, lingerie modelling) that is not FS
John -- A man who patronizes prostitutes.
K9 -- Canine, or doggy style.
Kama Sutra -- Indian sex manual by Vatsayayana.
Lazy Dog -- Doggie style with woman flat on stomach.
LE -- Law Enforcement.
LEO -- Law Enforcement Officer.
LFK -- Light french kissing. (no heavy tongue).
Little blue pill -- Viagra
LMP -- Licensed Massage Practitioner.
LMT -- Licensed Massage Therapist.
LOL -- Laughing Out Loud.
Lot Lizard -- A prostitute that works primarily in truck stop parking lots (usually soliciting from a CB radio).
LTR -- Long Term Relationship. A provider who drops out of the business for a VERY SUBSTANTIAL stipend, paid weekly, or monthly for exclusivity.
Madame -- Proprietress of an agency or bordello.
Maid -- In a British parlour, the person who answers the phone and books the schedule.
Mediterranean -- Anal sex.
Merkin -- Pubic hair wig.
MG -- Massage Girl.
MILF -- Mom I'd Like to Fuck.
Mish -- Missionary position.
Missionary -- Man on top during intercourse.
MMF, MFM, MFF -- Threesome designations. e.g. MMF = male, male, female, MFF = Male, female, female.
MP -- 1) Massage Parlor, 2) Multiple Positions.
MPA -- Massage Parlor Attendant.
MPCFS -- Multiple Positions Covered Full Service.
MPOS -- Multiple Positions Oral Sex.
MSOG -- Multiple Shots On Goal: she allows you to have more than one orgasm during the session
Multiple Pops -- More than one orgasm during the session.
NCNS -- Escort or Client doesn't show up for the appointment, and doesn't call, either before or after.
Newbie -- A novice hobbyist or novice provider.
No-Show -- Escort or Client never shows up for an appointment.
NQBC -- No Quitter But Covered, a CBJ to completion.
NQBS -- No Quitter But Spitter, a BBBJTC followed by spitting out your ejaculate.
NQNS -- No Quitter No Spitter, a BBBJTC followed by swallowing your ejaculate.
NSA -- No Strings Attached.
Out, Outed -- Private, personal info is made public.
Outcall -- She comes to your place.
OWO -- Oral With Out (a condom); bbbj.
OWO to Completion -- OWO resulting in CIM.
Pearl Necklace -- Man ejaculates on woman's neck and/or chest.
Pegging -- anal penetration of a male by either but plug or strap-on.
PIITB -- Put it in the bum/butt.
Pimp -- A man who solicits clients for a prostitute.
Punter -- a British term for a Hobbyist
PSE -- Porn Star Experience.
Puffies -- Breasts where the entire areola appears 'puffy', enlarged, or swollen.
PV -- Private viewing: Dancing, modeling, perhaps a HJ; not usually FS.
Raincoat -- A condom.
RCG -- See Reverse Cowgirl.
Reverse Cowgirl -- Woman rides on top, facing away.
Rimming, Rimjob -- Anilingus
ROB -- Rip Off Bitch - a sub-standard provider, or more likely, a cash and dash specialist.
ROFLMAO -- Rolling On Floor Laughing My Ass Off
RS2K -- Room Service 2000 - a Chicago-based referral service popular in the midwest, but also has national exposure. Google for more info.
RTFF -- Read The Fucking Forum.
Russian -- Penis between her breasts.
San Juan Capistrano -- BBBJTC and she swallows.
Salad Tossing -- Anilingus, tongue in the anus.
Scat -- Defecation on your partner or feces play.
Screening -- A provider or agency does a pre-session background check on a new client.
Shemale -– A transsexual, particularly one who is living as a woman, but hasn't had SRS. The penis may or may not get erect or be able to ejaculate.
Shill -- A hobbyist who writes or posts positive reviews in exchange for discounts or special favors from an agency or provider.
Shots on goal -- Allows more than one orgasm per session.
Sixty-nine or 69 -- Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously.
Snowball -- Provider takes ejaculate in her mouth and returns it via kissing to the ejaculator.
SO -- Significant Other.
SOG -- Shots On Goal, attempts at orgasm.
SOMF -- Sat On My Face.
SP -- Service Provider, prostitute.
Spanish (Australian) -- Penis between her breasts (also known as Russian).
Spanish (USA) -- Penis, finger or toy comes out of her ass, and goes directly into her mouth.
Spinner -- A very thin and/or petite provider (from the 1970's toy, "Sit 'n' Spin")
Squirting, Squirter -- Female ejaculation, a provider who ejaculates
SRS -- Sexual Reassignment Surgery.
STD -- Sexually Transmitted Disease.
STFU -- Shut The Fuck Up!!! If you encounter LE, you have the right to remain silent, and the cops have the right to lie!!! Get a lawyer, and don't answer any question without his/her advice. Unless you have been offered immunity, in writing, signed by the DA, and approved by your lawyer, your cooperation can only hurt yourself and others, no matter what the police tell you.
Sting -- A female police officer poses as a prostitute to apprehend unsuspecting johns, or a male police officer poses as a john to apprehend unsuspecting prostitutes.
Street action -- Prostitution that is solicited on public streets.
Stroll -- A street, strip, or neighborhood that sees heavy street action.
Summer teeth -- Her teeth, some are there, some are not.
Sunshine, sunny -- Without a condom (i.e. no raincoat)
SW -- 1) Street walker, 2) Sex Worker
Sybian -- A mechanical sex device that is in the shape of half-barrel with a dildo attachment mounted in the middle.
Teabag, Teabagging -- Man squats and dips his testicles into partners mouth.
TER -- The Erotic Review, the best escort review board in the USA.
TG -- Transgender, a catch-all term for TV, TS, Shemales, and CDs.
Tipping required -- Hidden charges, provider demands more than the advertised price in order to perform, or bargains hard for various services.
TOFTT -- Take One For The Team. A hobbyist sees a provider who has no (or scattered) reviews. He was ripped off, or his experience was very poor. Ostensibly, he has helped save other members of the community (the team) from making the same mistake.
Toss the salad -- Anilingus, tongue in the anus.
Translation, translator, translated -- Using a condom.
Trolling -– 1) The act of driving around looking for a prostitute, 2) Posting to a discussion board with the intent to anger or incite others
TS -- Transsexual.
TUMA -- Tongue Up My Ass.
TV -- Transvestite.
Two Call System -- The general location is revealed during the first call; location specifics are revealed on the second call.
Uncovered -- Without a condom.
Untranslated (ie, untranslated French, or UTF) -- Without a condom.
Upselling -- Payment of additional charges are required for some services.
UTF -- Un-Translated French; a BBBJ.
UTR -- Under The Radar; a provider who maintains a very low profile.
VD -- Venereal Disease.
WAH -- Wild Ass Humping.
Water Sports -- Urination play.
WG -- a British term - Working Girl, a euphonism for a provider.
WTF -- boardspeak for "what the fuck"
XOXOXO -- Hugs and kisses; x = kiss, o = hug, xoxoxo = hugs and kisses
YMMV-- Your Mileage May Vary, a catch-all phrase to remind that tastes differ, and experiences may vary from person to person
I think i would like to start escorting, but like you blksharpie i dont want anything less than an hr. i love sex, i love men and im very shy at first so i dont think id be comfortable or even able to do an hr or a half hr if its the first time we meet. of course if its a reoccurring client i would easily be able to do an hr (i dont think id ever be able to do a half hr, i think id feel too rushed) so is that something GFE escorts normally do? i understand that will greatly decrease chances of getting customers so idk. im still toying around with the idea...if i wanted to check out other girls ads what would be the main site that escorts who offer (strictly) GFEs use to advertise? or does it not matter?
Well I never knew it for a while but I've always done GFE, "DFK", "BBJ" but no "CIM" and no "BBFS" ever... But I find sadly most of these old men jus want to "DATY" and that took me a while to get used to but hey there's worse things in the world to get paid for .)
The best place to advertise is whatever is most popular in your market...so it can be anything. I suggest doing a google search for escorts in "your city" to see what pops up, cause thats what guys will be searching for afterall.
GFE literally just means services a guy can expect, so theres no standard to what one would normally do....its totally up to you how long the dates are. Actually...1hr is best for someone you dont know well, because if you cant stand him, you only have to deal with him for an hour. Im pretty good at vetting guys at this point, so Ill do an overnight for a first date if we vibe well before meeting, but Im definitely an odd one out with that. Some women prefer to spend as little time as possible with a guy and be in and out, so they do only half hour or hour dates..2hrs max. Some prefer longer dates and do nothing less than 90m or 2hr dates. The most common minimum though is 1hr. The most decent guys dont look too favorably on girls who do hh dates, because it gives off the impression shes very high volume.
Mostly...you need to decide what kind of guy you want to meet, what kind of date you want to have, and market yourself towards that, including your rates, time, photos, presence, ad copy, etc. Doesnt make sense if youre keeping super busy with guys you cant stand...or not working as much because you chose rates / times to give off a certain appearance when you're willing to be more flexible. You have to do whats comfortable for you.
I only do 1 or 2 hrs max unless I know a guy then I can do 1/2 hr or go longer but most guys around here can't afford more than 2 hrs...