Quiet girl needs help lol
Any advice for a new dancer who is not used to asking men for money lol. My hustle sucks and I've tried using some of the tips I've read here however, i think my biggest issue is learning to play the sweet fun girl who isn't afraid to ask for what she wants. But in everyday life this has never been my style. I have always been fiercely independent never asking anyone for anything. And I'm used to men just giving me stuff without me having to ask or say anything really.
If i have ever asked for anything it was more of demanding it and not asking. I have a more domineering personality. Idk how to change! How do you girls switch it on and off. I feel so fake trying to this happy sexy stripper. I am sexy but more of a laidback girl who doesn't take shit off anyone. Usually i give off a mean vibe because of resting bitch face and i think that also kills my hustle. Please help! I want to be that bubbly stripper with awesome convo skills. I'm just naturally a quiet person and idk how to let the real me go so i can make more money. I don't drink or anything at the club and i don't want to have to drink to get in the zone. Although drinking makes it easier for me to be more sexy and free. I just don't know what to do. Am i to old to change my ways? I am over 30.
Re: Quiet girl needs help lol
You need to smile ALL the time even when you are being demanding. Don't let resting bitch face slip in or else it will seem like you are a demanding bitch. You should be demanding because men respond to that and act like the amount you're asking them for is NORMAL. Say something like "I usually get XXXX for my time, is that ok?....GREAT!".
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Yes, practice in a mirror. It's not necessary to be that "fun fun party party" girl all the time to make money. If your personality is more laid back then use that, but make sure your face looks content so you read as "sexy and mysterious" when you're walking around the club, not "I hate everyone here".
If talking is difficult for you use body language. Smile and make eye contact with as many guys as possible, and make sure you are walking/posed sexily all the time. When you read back a "yes please!!" off a guy, approach them first. You shouldn't have to chat long to close the sale because you already hooked him non-verbally.
If you're at a club where basically all the customers want you to drink and party with them before they'll spend, it makes sense to try another club that might be a better fit.
Also in terms of "letting the real you go"- figure out your "character". Write it down if you have to. Who is *stripper name*? What are their traits? It doesn't matter if you're shy and quiet, she isn't. This job is mostly acting- the amount of "loud" girls who are introverted and shy in their real lives is always surprising. On a side note I think the less "real" you is like "stripper" you is probably better mentally long term. One of the problems girls run into is not separating the two and being a stripper 24/7- a recipe for burnout.