The art of lying in sex work
Hey ladies its your fave sketch ball lol posting a lil hustle info to put and keep you on game.
I do not advocate lying in a vanilla job, I do not advocate lying in any situation that does not pertain to stripping, sex work, etc.
I DO ADVOCATE, SUGGEST, AND STRESS THE ART OF A GOOD LIE TO SAVE YOUR ASS and help you continue selling your ass lols....
Men have been lying to us since the dawn of time
---enter ancient mesopotamia -----
Cavewoman: "Kragnog who's lion pelt is this?! ITs not mine!! I'm going to get my club and beat you!!"
Caveman: "wasn't me"
Cavewoman: "ok i trust u"
---exit-----
lol smh you get the point, how many of you had boyfriends that lied for years about cheating???? HOW MANY MEN ARE IN THE STRIP CLUB GETTING DANCES FROM YOU AND GO HOME AND LIE TO THEIR GIRLFRIENDS???
let the honest angel on your shoulder take a rest during ur shift and put the heels on the devil on the left side
"there is no honor among thieves"
I'm posting this reminder for new or green girls that think they owe people honesty cuz you hella dont and you will get smoked and surpassed by your coworkers
"To Be a True Player you have to know how to play"
https://youtu.be/Qv5fqunQ_4I
(I'm going to edit this once I find out how to embed videos lmao)
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Lol! Since this site started and I was using my first account (deleted the old one) I enjoy your posts the most.
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where is the line between lying and being a scam artist? i guess the main thing i can think of is lying about giving extras just to get them in vip. i don't agree with that, and i don't agree with charging more than the standard price for dances *unless* you tell them beforehand that yours cost more, that's different. can't think of anything else off the top of my head but i know there's more
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I never really considering my low key and discrete approach to adult work lying.
I tell people where I am , just not exactly WHAT I'm doing. I think it's ok to have adult work be discreet ( not well known among those who know you ).
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I'm confused, what exactly are we lying about?
I lie about stuff like my age, school, boyfriends existence, etc because it's less draining than to be putting my real life out there for some moron to pick apart and question.
I don't lie about prices or extras. The most I'll do with that is not mention the existence of $10 dances and if they ask, say most girls don't do them and we are 'phasing them out'.
The only girls truly advancing financially by lying are doing so about extras or OTC and while they may make more that night they eventually get screwed by a cop catching them or the club firing them.
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This is inspirational! I wish i could charge more but where i live its unlikely. :(
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Originally Posted by
Nadia_
A girl posted on this forum scared to get fired for mouthing off to a manager and this is why I felt called to post his because no girl just paying the manager out here just trying to get a buck should feel scared and it made me sad
I don't see how that has to do with lying. If she definitely did mouth off to the person capable of firing her, ain't no lie gonna undo it. I agree we shouldn't feel scared of some glorified bouncer wearing a cheap suit.
Charging more for your dances isn't lying either. It's lying if you say it's club standard to charge quadruple and THAT is an example of a bad lie to tell bc it's just gonna start an argument. But you're an IC and can charge whatever you want.
What I'm taking away from this post is that you have a history of going off on customers or being extraordinarily rude to them, and are advocating lying to get out of trouble. That may or may not work depending on if it's a regular customer or how the manager feels about you.
If a guy is a dick to you, there's no reason to make a scene about it. Fire off one little zinger or flatly tell him "You're being an asshole" and get up and walk away. Stooping to his level with insults isn't gonna do shit for making your night any better and it's probably exactly what he wanted anyway, to get you upset.
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I think it depends on the context.
If you work at a club for a long time/have regulars then having credibility can pay off if or when shit goes down and someone lies on you. Then managers will side with you cause they know you are fairly honest. Also regulars will trust you and spend with you if you have credibility.
Now if if you are transient or don't keep regulars then this won't matter as much.
Also savvy customers are used to cutthroat dancers, manipulation, lying, etc. so in some instances they find it refreshing when dancers are "honest" and reward them. Ex. Guy overpays, you offer the difference back, he says no I like your honesty which is rare here so keep the extra vs. guy overpays, you say nothing, he realizes and tells manager, manager asks, you lie, manager makes mental note you are lying shit starter who can't be trusted and less likely to back you in future issues.
I think it's acceptable to lie to protect yourself from mental or physical harm.
Ex. If you tell other dancers how much you really make you open your self up to cutthroat tactics.
Ex. If you tell customers you're single and ready to mingle you open yourself up to nonstop p4p/extras offers
But in the club interacting - it's more like acting. Like playing a role. So sometimes it's not necessarily lying. IMO.
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PhatGirlDynomite!!!
YOU deleted your old account? Or was it "deleted" for you? I'm curious.
Ew. Why would you even say that? I wasn't talking to you. Not that I owe you any explanation but I deleted it for privacy purposes. This is a public forum.
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What specifically are we talking about lying about? Telling customers that you're single always seems to work better than telling them that you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other, unless they are persistent in trying to get you to go otc on a date and you don't want to cheat on your other half. I lie about my age because of the male obsession with the younger woman/barely legal thing. I'm 10 years older than I tell them. I can get away with it so I do. I also lie about what city I live in. I don't think that it's any of their business where I live and don't want any more stalkers. I've had enough. If you need to tell some lies in order to protect yourself, then do it. It depends on what the lie is about.
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Dance
Ew. Why would you even say that? I wasn't talking to you. Not that I owe you any explanation but I deleted it for privacy purposes. This is a public forum.
Slow your roll homegirl. I asked because I was curious for the simply fact that members are not able to delete accounts. They can only be banned.
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Selina M
What I'm taking away from this post is that you have a history of going off on customers or being extraordinarily rude to them, and are advocating lying to get out of trouble. That may or may not work depending on if it's a regular customer or how the manager feels about you.
If a guy is a dick to you, there's no reason to make a scene about it. Fire off one little zinger or flatly tell him "You're being an asshole" and get up and walk away. Stooping to his level with insults isn't gonna do shit for making your night any better and it's probably exactly what he wanted anyway, to get you upset.
That's not even remotely what she is saying and I am honestly baffled at how you came to that conclusion, because anyone who read through this thread can see that she isn't saying that at all.
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I don't think of it as lying so much as acting, and in many cases, protecting yourself be it mentally or emotionally. A degree of puffery in sales comes with good salesmanship in my opinion, but I don't believe in conning people or giving them a bait and switch.
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I wish the moderator would edit the spelling of lying in the title.
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Sex workers should lie like lawyers & entertain like chubby high school girlfriends