Baffling Sexual Encounter ... :/
Ok ladies. Have a really strange experience I would like to bounce off you all.
The last couple months I've been in a kind of flirty thing with this guy. Cute guy, tons of chemistry, the couple times we made out were amazeballs.
So tonight was "the night". Heavy make out session, engines ready to go, you know the drill, and ... Oh. My. God. Tiniest thing I've ever seen. Like seriously. I gotta say, this guy apparently has taken time to adjust because he knew his stuff otherwise, creative positioning and enthusiasm and what not, and was totally on point... Everything felt great but just not orgasm-inducing.
Which was kind of a let down, after all that build up.
But anyway. So after a while he's like "tell me when" and I was like "tell you when what?" "When you are done" "um... Are you??" He said he didn't want to... Um..... What? So eventually we just um... Kind of stopped?!
Has anyone ever had that? I mean he seemed like he was into it, but didn't want to come? (We had a condom)
I'm competent baffled. And a bit disappointed that this was the "grand finale".
If you don't have any insight... Maybe share some of your own strange encounters? So I don't feel so alone here? LOL!!
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Im a size queen so I need a big dick to get me off (for intercourse).
My work around that is I shamelessly will rub myself during sex to get off. Havent met a guy that wasn't into it and bam everyone's happy.
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Some guys can't come with condoms on.
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Woops I may have misread the post, I thought he didn't come because you didn't come.
-_--
It's been a long day.
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SnuffleUffleGrass
Some guys can't come with condoms on.
Huh. That should have been an obvious one lol. I've never come across it personal ally though so didn't even cross my mind
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Originally Posted by
SuccubusSasha
Im a size queen so I need a big dick to get me off (for intercourse).
I've actually had problems with larger guys so I didn't think I would be a size person at all, in fact one of the best sexual experiences I had was with a slightly-smaller than average - guy who seriously could work it. But for some reason this time was just so awkward- like I'm a pretty physical person and like to get into it and if I moved too much it would pop out . Omg. It was just a really bizarre night, not at all what I was expecting!! Kinda felt "off my game" or whatever
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Was he not totally hard or was it really that small. Sometimes the anticipation can mess with a guys mojo. If you're still attracted to him you can give it another shot or you can ghost.
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Perhaps he knew that you weren't going to have an orgasm & why keep going if you don't come too. If he rings all your bells, suggest bringing sex toys into it.
Any man who can't orgasm with a condom on, needs to practice jerking off with one until he can.
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Originally Posted by
vanessa_mtl
Was he not totally hard or was it really that small. Sometimes the anticipation can mess with a guys mojo. If you're still attracted to him you can give it another shot or you can ghost.
I think he was just really that small. I didn't get like super up close and personal with it. Maybe another try is in order LOL.
Penises are just so weird anyway, aren't they? Like I've only met one that I would have considered a "esthetically pleasing". Like seriously he could have been a junk model. Ahhh.
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Originally Posted by
Sam38g
Perhaps he knew that you weren't going to have an orgasm & why keep going if you don't come too. If he rings all your bells, suggest bringing sex toys into it.
Any man who can't orgasm with a condom on, needs to practice jerking off with one until he can.
I did bring it up the other day and he said it was "safer and less messy" and he could enjoy it even without. Which is totally a chick thing to say, isn't it?? Lol. So idk if he is full of shit or just odd. I get a lot of mixed signals from him anyway.
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Originally Posted by
lexxirain
I did bring it up the other day and he said it was "safer and less messy" and he could enjoy it even without. Which is totally a chick thing to say, isn't it?? Lol. So idk if he is full of shit or just odd. I get a lot of mixed signals from him anyway.
Insecure due to the size, so he focuses on your pleasure instead. Due to the size, penetration may not be enough to get him off, which is NO shady upon you. Is he a good guy, fun, sexy, has a good job. Then the dick isn't such a deal breaker, especially if your pleasure is more important. Break out the toys and have fun together.
Explore tantra sex.
He knows the more he makes you orgasm in other ways more likely a relationship for the long term might come about. Which is smart on his part. We are all more than just our sex parts, including him. I've known guys with HUGE cocks that are the same way.
He isn't at a point in the relationship to that vulnerable with you to discuss it. He may never be & pushing him isn't right. He will go home & jerk off like a mad man & find the arrangement perfectly satisfactory.
Enjoy a man who is totally focused just on your pleasure. Those can be the most fun & erotic, discover how the inside of your elbow can send shivers up your back with a gentle kiss. He is going to be the kind of guy who gives you a back message & doesn't make it about sucking his dick 2 minutes in.
Enjoy this journey for what it is and not what you are used to with other men.
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I was thinking the same. He didn't want to keep doing all that work just for his pleasure and if you didnt orgasm vaginally then he just quit.
He probably knows he is small and maybe a bit insecure about it....he didn't want tiny tim debuting if fireworks aint happening.
Perhaps that is a good thing. So then you will be conditioned that when he dick is out/in you - orgasms/pleasure will happen.
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Originally Posted by
Sam38g
Insecure due to the size, so he focuses on your pleasure instead. Due to the size, penetration may not be enough to get him off, which is NO shady upon you. Is he a good guy, fun, sexy, has a good job. Then the dick isn't such a deal breaker, especially if your pleasure is more important. Break out the toys and have fun together.
Explore tantra sex.
He knows the more he makes you orgasm in other ways more likely a relationship for the long term might come about. Which is smart on his part. We are all more than just our sex parts, including him. I've known guys with HUGE cocks that are the same way.
He isn't at a point in the relationship to that vulnerable with you to discuss it. He may never be & pushing him isn't right. He will go home & jerk off like a mad man & find the arrangement perfectly satisfactory.
Enjoy a man who is totally focused just on your pleasure. Those can be the most fun & erotic, discover how the inside of your elbow can send shivers up your back with a gentle kiss. He is going to be the kind of guy who gives you a back message & doesn't make it about sucking his dick 2 minutes in.
Enjoy this journey for what it is and not what you are used to with other men.
Oh my gosh yes!
I feel like this is ridiculously spot on.
He actually did give me a back rub and not turn it into sex. I was seriously super shocked. I guess you could say that my experience with guys hasn't been the best ahaha so I don't even know how to read this dude
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You have found a treasure where life isn't revolves around his cock 24/7. Congratulations!!!!
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So a couple of you suggested toys but I'm not that experienced in that area. What would you recommend? *LOL*
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Originally Posted by
lexxirain
So a couple of you suggested toys but I'm not that experienced in that area. What would you recommend? *LOL*
Now, that is a whole new adventure you two should take together. Whether it be on Amazon or going to an Adult store. Decide together & experiment with what works best.
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If he gave up because you didn't cum vaginally, for whatever the reasons, why didn't he just go down on you at that point and have a satisfied customer? I think he needs to do some serious work on his happy endings.
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