Conversation tips for closing the dance
Im stuck in between " wanna dance?" and talking about nothing, then feeling awkward about wanting to ask for a dance. What are some tips for this? Im quiet normally, and i do enjoy dancing. I just lack the confidence needed to think anyone "wants" a dance from me.
Re: Conversation tips for closing the dance
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Rose2341
I just lack the confidence needed to think anyone "wants" a dance from me.
This is your problem right here. It's not really what you say, it's how you say it. Some girls keep their chats as sexy as possible and smoothly transition, but a lot of the time it's more like *small talk* "ok i'm getting bored of clothes!" or seizing any opening in thr conversation to be like "speaking of fun times" or whatever, or even a well placed "sooooo guess what time it is" with a sexy smile
Remind yourself that guys are there for a fun time, and if they leave without a dance with you, they're missing out on a great night.
I think all of us have sold dances off of some pretty awkward, reaching lines just due to a confident delivery
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^ That!
If I'm not feeling particularly witty or sales-lady-y, I often just wait for a lull in the conversation (especially if you've just made him laugh) and then drop one of my canned closing lines. It's all in the delivery, you have to be really enthusiastic or cheeky about it. 9/10 times they will laugh and say yes.
My favorites that work really well:
- Super excitedly: "Ok, are you ready for a naked lady?!"
- "Oh shoot, I'm a terrible stripper, I guess I should have asked if you wanted me to take my clothes off by now!" Implies you've been enjoying talking to him so much you forgot.
If you're not confident enough yet to be inventing lines on the fly, just troll Hustle Hut for a few cute/funny ones and get used to firing them off in an upbeat manner. Once you get the confidence down, you can start making up your own closes.
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I only have one line: Im ready to get naked. I only say it when I know he's already having a good time talking to me and is looking at my body. I don't need any other lines.
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Sometimes I feel awkward in the beginning of my shift in particular so these are a helpful refresher.
When I'm in hustle mode once I've gotten a few dances / VIPs, it depends on whether its busy or dead.
Busy: simple. approach with confidence and maybe scratch his back a little bit and say: "ready to have some fun?"
the approaches above work as well. when its busy, you don't need much especially if a guy is drunk / spending money already.
Dead: when there are only a couple of guys in the club or if it is REALLY slow, something that usually works for me is saying I'm a little cold / chilly and want to warm up.
Sometimes he'll try to put his arm around me to 'warm me up' and that's when I get really excited and say "ooh, dancing would definitely make me warm. let's go!"
weird but 8/10 times it works for me lol
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vanessa_mtl
I only have one line: Im ready to get naked. I only say it when I know he's already having a good time talking to me and is looking at my body. I don't need any other lines.
lol i like that one but I feel like those cheap asses here would either say 'ok just get naked right here' or then complain that I don't take my bottoms off cause our dances are topless only. But I guess I could be like 'if you wanna see it all you need to go into the VIP'
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If you don't think the guy wants a dance then you're shooting yourself in the foot. Remember that it's entertainment. Think about how many times you've gone to a movie or a restaurant when you have cable and food at your house. Keep a positive attitude. If you catch a guy checking you out, mentally say to yourself "this guy DEFINITELY wants a dance" and believe it in your heart. I'm a big proponent of using affirmations to get your confidence up. Say mentally "all these guys want dances from me. every single one of them wants my sexy naked body on them and they're willing to pay me every dollar in their pocket for it". Confidence is honestly just about being delusional. I'm sure you've heard the phrase "fake it till you make it" and now would be a good time for you to implement that strategy.
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I love those lines haha. I also find lightly touching their ear/back/leg/arm in a sexy way to get them going first has drastically upped my close rate, as has getting up and grabbing them by the hand to lead them to,the dance room.
Be sexy and aggressive and assume the sale
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If we're chatting and they slow down when a song comes on I gasp and say "I love this song! Do you want a dance?" If they decline, you can purse your lips and pout then say "Well alright, but I HAVE to dance to this song, I'll be back in a bit." Some variation of the end let's you excuse yourself to find a paying custie or guilt them into keeping you with them by paying for dances.
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“You know a great way to shut me up, put me to work”
“Uh oh, I’ve been relaxing too long, make me feel productive”
“Welp, feels like naked o’clock”
Really though, what’s the worst that could happen, he says no? Well now you’ve gotten him outta your way to find the ones that’s gonna spend.
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While looking into his eyes with a sort of sexy, knowing smile, I lean in and ask, "Wanna come with me?" or just say "Come with me." I kind of half-whisper it, the key is to get him very into what you're saying so that what you want (a dance) is what he wants. It's like hypnotizing them, works almost every time.
Also, always be leading any convo back to the club/the fact that you're a stripper. Focus the conversation on the situation at hand and let your personality out in the way you react to him, not too much in what you say. Most of the times, I can get a dance from a guy before they even know my name because the entire interaction from walking up to him, looking at him, flirting a bit, then saying "come with" is focused on getting a dance or a room and that's it.