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YES.
I get more aroused by money and the things I can do with money than I do by fucking/sucking.
IDK. Actually I'd say it ebs and flows. Sometimes I felt like customers horniness was rubbing off on me and I'd find myself masturbating more often and sometimes I would get turned on by certain customers (like 1-3% of the time though).
I feel ya though, I have only orgasm a handful of times super easily with partner.
It could also be your hormones. And just the fact you have a lot on your mind.
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You are not alone in this. Is normal, after working around dicks so many hours daily, u don't want even more dick.
My bf is atractive too, but my libido is so low. It bothers him, but, he knows is because of my job so, he puts a lot of effort into making me wet.
Lube helps :))))) And blowjobs& erotic massage. When I don't want to have sex, a great blowjob and an erotic massage does wonders EVERY SINGLE TIME :))))).
Also, I am on OC pills and that doesn't help either.
For example, I was under treatment for 2 months ( and I wasn't allowed to have sex) and only one time in 2 months I had that sex drive. So, I can go very well for months, without needing to have sex lol.
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^^^I second the idea of the erotic massage
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Since it’s hard to find a decent guy as a dancer, I have zero interest in sex. I’ve thought about finding a sugar daddy, but I have no interest in dealing with a guys bullshit on my days off. So I’m celibate. It’s easier that way. I’m an amazing sex partner. I was a wonderful wife before I danced, but Guys have treated me like shit so I have no sex drive. I enjoy dancing in part because it’s a safe way to express my sexuality. As much shit as I get for being a mature dancer, I really like my job now oppose to me a younger twenty something. It’s a win/win situation. It might change if I ever find a decent guy who can support me, but until then I enjoy getting paid for my sexuality. Maybe that was too honest, but it’s my truth.
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Ifyouseekamy
So I’m celibate. It’s easier that way. I’m an amazing sex partner.
same. I can count the number of times I had sex in 5 years.
I have so much more peace vs. fucking a dude and dealing with possible bitchassness
Literally I will have to be compensated for dealing with male privilege and letting a dude have the advantage of drinking from this fountain.
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Violethollywood
Is it possible to become asexual ....
I thought about this the other day like what if Im asexual when this dude I'm dealing with now was like "i want to make love to you" and "I want to kiss your beautiful body" all I could think was....."That sounds good and all but I want to see what that wallet do first.....otherwise nah bruh I'm good"
I have this dude who lets me financially dominate him.....now THAT is arousing...}:D
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I know exactly how you feel. At first I wondered if I was attracted to women, since I've lost almost all attraction to men... Then I realized that I just like having women as true friends/soulmates and that I don't want them sexually. Sex work has changed my perspective on the male sex. Mostly, I think that men are awful. I see how they cheat on their families and how perverted and violent they can be. I just don't want that in my body or in my bed. Men outside of sexwork I feel are only out to get sex and usually by then end of our interaction I'm proven right.
Whew-- it feels good to vent.
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honey_b
I know exactly how you feel. At first I wondered if I was attracted to women, since I've lost almost all attraction to men... Then I realized that I just like having women as true friends/soulmates and that I don't want them sexually. Sex work has changed my perspective on the male sex. Mostly, I think that men are awful. I see how they cheat on their families and how perverted and violent they can be. I just don't want that in my body or in my bed. Men outside of sexwork I feel are only out to get sex and usually by then end of our interaction I'm proven right.
Whew-- it feels good to vent.
This is me ^ to a mf T.
My bf always jokes about how if he ever catches me cheating it's game over and i always laugh hysterically like i can't believe you think im some dick hungry whore, like you knoe how much i hate men pfft me cheat come the fuck on,i can barely stand you and i hate men in general, oh yeah I'm gonna cheat on you lol he's like no i know im just saying "if" well if will never happen. Insert eyeroll.
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I'm just so I don't know what the word is but anybody can say something sweet to me like Ooh baby your body so hot that it added I want to f*** you blah blah blah and it literally does nothing for me at all like I never want to have sex but sex is always been a disappointment for me unless I'm under the influence.. like if I'm trashed I'll have sex willingly but sober now I could really care less and I've never really gotten off with sex with any guy I've been with my hand does a much better job pleasing me than any dick ever could
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I don't need physical, penetrative sex. In my personal life either, before I started. Since I turned 18 my libido disappeared and then I realized my kind of sexuality is more mental vs physical, and it will take a very deep and intimate connection with a person to allow myself to be comfortable enough to allow myself to be vulnerable, something I will never ever allow to happen with a client. It's extremely rare when my body will feel horny for penetration, I do try to hold on to the feeling when it's there because I do miss it. Doctor says I'm just not being stimulated properly, and she's most likely right (as I mentioned my need above).
Despite all that, I'm a natural at this job haha.
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Wow, maybe I'm the only one in this group that's always been a tad hypersexual. Like ever since I lost my virginity at 17 -fast forward to 36 & I'm still hypersexual. I will say that now that I've gotten into provider work I no longer need to pick up one night stands occasionally since I know I'm gonna be getting it anyhow sometime during the week. And now I've been having alot of fun casually dating a guy thats really awesome & I'm able to glean some intimacy & real fun from. So I'm basically just banging like a jackrabbit constantly lol. Or who knows I'm in my mid thirties so maybe my libido is just at its height. Who knows.
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YES!!!!!
Sex used to be important for me. Now it's a weird idea.
Honestly my exit from full time adult work was about my sex drive just disappearing like a vapor trail. I basically had a mid-life crisis because of it....