Ideas on how to give subs aftercare via Phone Sex, and Cam shows?
Hello! I had a question about Aftercare, so I've rebranded and just getting into my persona as a Domme. I haven't really done a lot of fetish oriented things (I'm well versed in fetish/kinks) and when I do I'm on Niteflirt. I'm currently working on my PSO skills as well. But theres a lot of disputing across Twitter about Dommes not following RACK, and SSC when it comes to Kink in general. And I'm imagining that Aftercare is a part of that too, and I'm also sure that some subs don't need it, but it's recommended right?
So my question is what are some ways that you can give a Sub (Short or long term) aftercare without physically being there after an intense phone call and/or cam show. My thing is if I'm going to invest myself in understanding Kink and my submissives I want to make sure I'm doing it right.
Re: Ideas on how to give subs aftercare via Phone Sex, and Cam shows?
If they feel the need for this I would assume they would stay in paid after the session. I am more than willing to discuss the session and likes/dislikes with a customer in paid.
If they log off the show is finished, right?
Re: Ideas on how to give subs aftercare via Phone Sex, and Cam shows?
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And I'm imagining that Aftercare is a part of that too, and I'm also sure that some subs don't need it, but it's recommended right?
Aftercare needs are really individual, and unless the sub communicates them to you, and sticks around for long enough after the "main course" of the session, there's not a lot you can do.
If the session was physically demanding, I usually follow up with "hey, good job, don't forget to drink some water and get some calories into yourself / moisturise your ass / take it easy" with the usual "thanks for the fun times" note. If it was, say, a humiliation session, their needs are less universal - some might want to bounce back into normal mode & peace out asap, others need reassuring. I've also started letting them know that if they want to decompress in NF chat, I'm available, but few have wanted that - they either decompress right there on the phone, or leave.
On SM, the sessions are rarely so long or genuinely intense that they'd warrant aftercare, but if the guy is wealthy enough to pay for a longer session, he usually stays long enough to debrief. I don't debrief in freechat; there's no time.