Re: Feeling discouraged...
Don't hate yourself. I left my first week of club dancing literally in tears & with no profit.
& Yes unfortunately post Christmas is dismal for most sales occupation jobs.
Re: Feeling discouraged...
Don't be discouraged. Winters are usually slow and you never know how much you'll make. My first night I had no experience at all but I stuck through it and there will be good nights. I used to be shy like you as well but just be very friendly, smile a lot, and talk to customers.
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Don't be discouraged it's not your fault AT ALL that there were only 4 customers for the whole night that's just a really bad night it had absolutely nothing to do with you and even if they club had been packed and you still didnt make much it still wouldnt be something to beat yourself up over because first nights are notoriously sucky for many girls it doesnt mean you wont get better. Like you mentioned it's just after Christmas and was a weeknight so business will probably pick up soon but if not maybe you could try a different club near you if there are any? Maybe this one just isnt a good one. Still give it time though.
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Thanks for the encouragement ladies; I'm still nervous about how tomorrow will go but I'm going to stride in there like I'm the baddest bitch on there and give it my all!
Daniellaa- I've been thinking about trying out another club soon, though unfortunately there aren't a whole lot of suitable options here in Baltimore; I tried Hustler and haven't heard back from them yet as well as Ritz. My goal honestly is to make it into Gold Club, though I think I'll stick this divey club out for a bit, just for the experience.
Re: Feeling discouraged...
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mikroslouloudi
Let me start off by saying that I've been stalking this forum for quite some time, and a lot of the advice and info on here is very helpful and I thank all you lovely ladies for helping out newbies like me!
Tuesday night this week was my first night dancing; Mind you, I Have NO experience in this kind of field, and I'm painfully shy, so I expected to have a rough-ish night. What I didn't expect, however, was to not only have 4 customers come into the club the whole night, 2 of whom were trying to get me and the other girl to go home with them for free, but I only made $28 and ended up LOSING money because of housefees and the ubertrip. I mean, again,I guess I should have expected it because I know there's rough nights when it comes to dancing, plus I'm new, plus it was a Tuesday, plus it's winter, but I can't help but feel like a bit of a loser and wondering "is this worth it?". I mean,I'm BROKE, and if I keep LOSING money from this, I'll be in trouble!
I actually kind of enjoy doing this, though; I feel like it'll be good for me in a lot of ways, and I'm not ready to give up yet, so I'm trying again Friday. Hopefully I'll have better luck.
Hi Love, thank you for sharing your feeling.It seems like you are having a rough time.But let's be realistic.This is your first night right? And you don't have expirence ? So it is understanble that you won't "Make it right away" it takes time to learn the hustle.It takes time to learn how to talk to customers.You can pm me if you need help with converstaion.Also look at the Tips and tricks here.And look at other girls and copy them.Thats what I did when I fist started I just copied other girls until I learned.But yea don't get discouraged.You gotta be hopeful because customers can sense when we are not in our best mood.Here if you need me.
Re: Feeling discouraged...
Hang in there, it takes a little while to get your groove down, and even though there weren't many customers in the club, as time goes on, you will learn how to work a situation to your benefit. I danced for 13 years between New York and Las Vegas, and it took me a few months to get my groove down, but once you get it, it's there forever. Enjoy the process, because the beginning will never happen again. These may be some of the best times you have as you learn an entirely new world and all the nuances that go on within. I remember my first days with great fondness, even with all my stumbles and falls and naivete. You'll be a pro in no time at all, so just hang in there. Good luck to you. :)
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It can be tough at first. The frigid temperatures and bad weather lately certainly don't help either. Only 4 customers sounds like it was just a very slow night. That's not your fault. You can't control how many customers come to the club. Don't let it discourage you. If there are other clubs around that you could try, maybe you could try a couple nights there and see how you do. Sometimes you have bad weeks, other times you have really good weeks. It is the nature of this line of work.
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mikroslouloudi
Thanks for the encouragement ladies; I'm still nervous about how tomorrow will go but I'm going to stride in there like I'm the baddest bitch on there and give it my all!
Daniellaa- I've been thinking about trying out another club soon, though unfortunately there aren't a whole lot of suitable options here in Baltimore; I tried Hustler and haven't heard back from them yet as well as Ritz. My goal honestly is to make it into Gold Club, though I think I'll stick this divey club out for a bit, just for the experience.
I don't see why you couldn't get hired at Hustler or Gold Club. Both of those clubs are very WOC-friendly. Hustler has more reasonable house fees, Gold Club requires you to pay $40 upfront and then you're required to sell 5 drinks that were $14.50/each when I was there a couple of years ago. If you're relatively thin, Scores has earning potential with a reasonable house fee ($20 if you're in by 7 p.m.). Scores is not WOC-friendly, though. PM if you need more details!
Also, it can be extremely depressing when the club is slow and you have a string of bad nights. Please don't be discouraged, though! You will learn and grow from your experiences! TBH, it might be good thing to start out slow because you can work on your hustling skills and perhaps even make regulars! :)
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I don't see why you couldn't get hired at Hustler or Gold Club. Both of those clubs are very WOC-friendly. Hustler has more reasonable house fees, Gold Club requires you to pay $40 upfront and then you're required to sell 5 drinks that were $14.50/each when I was there a couple of years ago. If you're relatively thin, Scores has earning potential with a reasonable house fee ($20 if you're in by 7 p.m.). Scores is not WOC-friendly, though. PM if you need more details!
Thank you again you guys; after a few days passed I accepted the rough night as an opportunity to have gained experience, so it didn't bother me as much. Last night (Friday) went MUCH better! A lot more custies came in. There were more girls, so I also felt less nervous and they were all very sweet and gave me pointers. I even sold my first dance! I didn't get to keep the full amount and he didn't tip me during (the girls said next time I should ask for tips upfront before I do anything, he also whipped his mini-him out which was not surprising but definitely a shock to my system lol), and I was also very shy and tired towards end so I had trouble approaching guys, so didn't make nearly as much as I could,but I still was in the positive instead of the negatives this time so I'm happy! I also came across the Law of Attraction thread on here which helped me think good thoughts and feel positive about myself :^ )
mma: I applied to be a hostess at Hustler inotially because they were understaffed for them and I'm new to dancing, but they actually said"sweetie you need to be up on stage, not on the floor!" and to come back for amateur night on Wednesdays to be a dancer instead, which I'm admittedly not confident enough to do yet, but I'll definitely tryout soon. I also tried scores but they said to call back in 2 weeks because they weren't hiring at the moment. Haven't officially tried gold club because when my boyfriend took me down there to speak with the manager, he wasn't going to be in until 9pm and we couldn't stick around for 2 hours cause we had things to do afterwards and I haven't had time to go down there since then. I've also heard good things in the dressing room about Oasis, but their definition of good might be different from mine lol
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^^good to hear things are going better. Just FYI, never, ever, go to a stripclub audition or to inquire about a job with your boyfriend. You could look like Linda Evangelista or Naomi Campbell and they would not hire you. I've had friends not get hired because the manager was smoking out front when they came in and saw their BF was waiting in the car outside. The management does not want to hire you if you're going to bring your boyfriend around, and so therefore, if your boyfriend is around, you will not be hired, unless maybe at the worst dive. There are pimps in this industry so dancers have to be extremely careful of appearances. Try Gold Club on your own. The only reason to stay at a dive is to get your body tight, you can learn to hustle anywhere. If this club you're at has low money potential and bouncers aren't kicking out custies for flashing you, you should try a better club now. Don't get complacent at a dive, find the very nicest, safest, best money club you can. Being new does not mean you should settle.
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vanessa_mtl
^^good to hear things are going better. Just FYI, never, ever, go to a stripclub audition or to inquire about a job with your boyfriend. You could look like Linda Evangelista or Naomi Campbell and they would not hire you. I've had friends not get hired because the manager was smoking out front when they came in and saw their BF was waiting in the car outside. The management does not want to hire you if you're going to bring your boyfriend around, and so therefore, if your boyfriend is around, you will not be hired, unless maybe at the worst dive. There are pimps in this industry so dancers have to be extremely careful of appearances. Try Gold Club on your own. The only reason to stay at a dive is to get your body tight, you can learn to hustle anywhere. If this club you're at has low money potential and bouncers aren't kicking out custies for flashing you, you should try a better club now. Don't get complacent at a dive, find the very nicest, safest, best money club you can. Being new does not mean you should settle.
You're absolutely right! Part of me not wanting to jump right into the "nicer" clubs is because of my slight lack of confidence at the moment, but it's definitely rising slowly but surely. The club I'm at now isn't TOO bad; bouncers do kick people out if they're hassling/bothering the girls and they actually kicked a guy out for flashing a girl at the bar last I was there. They also walk the girls to their cars/don't pressure us or make us do anything we're not comfortable with. I also didn't necessarily inform anyone that the guy flashed me in the V.I.P room, I was too caught off guard to process it but I'll definitely make sure to put my foot down about it if it happens again. It's mostly just the clientele that's seedy, not so much the place itself, but that's Baltimore City for ya' lol. Also my boyfriend only drove me to the Gold Club because I don't drive/have a car and he wanted to save me a $25 there and back ubertrip, but maybe if I can get the money together, I'll try Gold Club on my own next week :^ )
Re: Feeling discouraged...
I would try again .
If it's any help, I was also really upset my first night dancing over earnings and things looked " up " from there.
There's just a lot to learn and take in which slows you the first few nights. Once you get the hang of things, it can improve.
One trick I recommend ( if your schedule allows ) is to go in early and get lower fee's that way and just stay a really long time for a few days. That way, there is no pressure on yourself from coming in late and paying a higher fee.