Sharing personal info (Husband/Bf/kids etc)
I was curious what other positions and views are on this.
I have some regs from 15+ years ago, a mix from camming and from dancing, and these few know I have a child, that I go school, and my real relationship status. They still don't know where I reside, real name, how to find me etc
I would never share anything in free/guest chat of course, my extent is yes, I qualify as a MILF but I don't even talk about my off spring. I tell them its off limits, and I don't even hint to the gender or age.
My long timers sometimes gift stuff, specially during Xmas for my off spring, through my amazon wishlist.
I know some guys like to get to know you more, maybe those regs that have been "spoiling" you for some time, and those 2 hour skype shows where they just want to know you, do you guys just say off limits, or make stuff up, or just divulge enough to give the impression of a more personal "show" without compromising safety?
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When I was a dancer, I would let my customers know that I was a single MILF just tying to make ends meet via a fulltime vanilla day job and studying at night in an effort to get a better job . . . Wallets seemed to open instantly.
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They are not entitled to that kind of personal info...no matter how much they spend, or how nice they seem. You don’t have to make up stuff. Just kindly tell them something like “I don’t give out personal info, babe.” If they’re decent, they’ll drop it. If they keep hounding you (“I mean, what is your REAL name, bb?”), kick or ban them. Why tf would you need to know a cam girl’s REAL name, etc. unless you intend to stalk her online or in real life?
I once had a dude on MFC stop seeing me just because he wasn’t satisfied with my answer to his “What’s your REAL name?” question. Wtf. That’s fucking creepy. If you’re not satisfied with calling me “Shelly” or “Fox,” you’re a creepy mf who’s probably trying to look me up elsewhere. You don’t owe these people dick...
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sexyadrienne
When I was a dancer, I would let my customers know that I was a single MILF just tying to make ends meet via a fulltime vanilla day job and studying at night in an effort to get a better job . . . Wallets seemed to open instantly.
I had a roomie years ago who was a retired stripper. she went so far as to have a fake family picture to show dudes. managed to raise all three of her real kids on her own off of dancing and modeling. Guys definitely like helping a cause.
I've had the best made up bf for years now. he's been there through the thick and thin of all my actual relationships. :p i try to keep my personal life private online though.
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*Lynn*, I believe that it depends what kind of cam model you are. If you are more an actress type, than a backstory involving mate is good enough. However, if you are just yourself...than your customers don't need to know. Either way, it is personal call. Personally, I create my cam personas and add backstories for them. Then, I based my hustle around my cam personas backstories. Interestingly enough, most customers don't want to get into my personal life unless they are creepy weirdos. :)
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caramelcraze
I've had the best made up bf for years now. he's been there through the thick and thin of all my actual relationships. :p i try to keep my personal life private online though.
:crackup::crackup::laughing::laughing::laughing:
I've been making up sexual encounters, I swear real guys aren't going to be able to compete with the ones I'm making up, hahaha
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Yeah I don't even tell them what country I'm in, I don't know what the big deal is, why they are so adamant to know where we are at. Are they really going to fly halfway across the world in hopes of running into us at a nearby coffee shop? duh
I have three customers from 15+ years ago and they are the only ones that know I have a child, the gender and that I am really single. Oh, and what my degree is. Besides that they don't know anymore. They also just chat with me on messenger or fb and buy gifts or money, not visitors to the camsites.
I seen girls get personal in guest/free chat across different sites, so I was just curious :-)
They are constantly asking where I am from, and most leave when I don't tell them. I usually tell them where I "used" to live, (places I lived in like 10 years ago, or places I visited long ago) or live in their dreams, or tell them my ethnicity instead like I didn't get the question, lol
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It's none of their business. I always tell them it's irrelevant on a camsite because it fucking is. I especially don't entertain that bullshit in free chat. They might get pissy and whine like children and start with the childish name calling but there are things men on camsites are never entitled to know. Your real name, your real location, your marital status, birth certificate etc is your business.
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I think it sends up too many red flags. Guys can easily become stalkers if given too much personal info.
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WendiStarr
I think it sends up too many red flags. Guys can easily become stalkers if given too much personal info.
Yup. Back in the day, I had an MFC "friend" go nuts on me via text message (Yes, I was naive enough to give out my real cell # to a few regs), just because he was pissed that I didn't call him first thing in the morning to wish him a happy birthday. I had promised him a birthday phone call, however I never specified what time I'd be calling. Needless to say, he was blocked on my phone, and on MFC, because he'd been blowing up my phone with nasty text messages, and popping into my MFC chat room to talk shit.
This is what happens when you try to do something nice for these assholes. They aren't satisfied, and start acting all entitled and expecting more. Just keep things virtual (As for phone stuff...there are texting apps like TextNow, or you can just use the website's built-in phone features, if available).
I see that some models are still doing "date raffles," but that doesn't mean you have to if you are trying to keep things strictly virtual.
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How much personal information do you know about your customers?
Do you know their real names?
addresses?
where they work?
if they are married? Wife's name?
do they have kids? Kids names & ages?
You start asking them those kinds of questions, because they are you & see how fast they lie or back up. Funny how people will ask me how much money I make & when I tell them you first. At that point they get uncomfortable & realize they don't want to answer.
It is a job, such information is none of their business if I was their Doctor, a waitress, washing cars for a living and such.
Great customers NEVER push for that information & I don't trust ones who do. You are just entertainment. Cam sites are NOT dating sites, despite the fact that is where they get the traffic for them.
NONE of these guys have our best interest at heart, they are on there to jack off. The ones who want such information are pushing for more & in person eventually.
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I say I have a boyfriend because I escort and cam with him, and we shoot content together to sell. When clients (real time or online) push for information about him, or other aspects of my life I shut down, but I speak openly about him (or rather, the idea of him as i dont give out any personal info about our relationship or his life) because it seems to excite them.
Also if I say Im in a relationship, theyre less likely to want to extend the relationship outside of business!
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Everything I tell about myself is fake. I am a camgirl with no boyfriend and no sex life. They are there to watch me and have a good time. That's all they will ever get from me.
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It's annoying when they wanna show they re real in order to get more infos about you and start sending their cropped ID pictures to see that yeah, this is their name, birthday and they reside there LOL.
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Ginnyyy
It's annoying when they wanna show they re real in order to get more infos about you and start sending their cropped ID pictures to see that yeah, this is their name, birthday and they reside there LOL.
Whaaat! hahah that's crazy!
What if they get a psycho camgirl, lol
I wonder at times at the mental stability of some of these guys...
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I never talk about my family in great detail or what that entails outside of having a husband. But Ive only started to admit that I'm married and that's really only when asked. Everything else I tell them is fabricated or loosely based on real experiences. I never tell my real location at that exact moment. When Im in Florida I tell them I'm in the NE. And vice versa. Sometimes I throw out a random place and make things up on the fly.
I use to shut em down when they asked for personal info but now I think of it as part of the performance. I dont think they all want to stalk us, although we should be careful of course. Its just that many of them want to believe that we aren't just in it for the money. I seem to catch more bees when I give them a "real girl" persona. However I do sometimes forget some of my stories and have been called out on it. I just laugh and play dumb.