As happily married sw I disagree.
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Wow...I truly am sorry you have seen what you have seen with relationships. I promise you not all men are bad. Some of us are naive, jealous, spoiled, just not sure how to approach things, etc. etc. We are men. I do not think I am a lot of the things you mentioned, other than being a man, but of course I am far from perfect :)
There must be others like me out there that can cook a good meal, wash their own clothes, and have zero underwear with brown streaks...(gotta tell ya, that one is pretty gross). Lots of us do hold down good jobs, even through the economic downturns, and crazy COVID days. Lots of us, really do try to take very good care of a woman. But again, we are far from perfect, but we do try...
To say that isn't a 'real man', or 'not all men' the issue, minimizes the violence female presenting people face; that only is real when it happens to someone you love. I haven't had all those things directly happen to me, but I have multiple women in my life who have. They had it all minus murder.
You certainty know women like that too, whether you are aware of it or not. And so reducing the feminine experience to merely an individual bad man issue, takes away accountability from all men.
This should also clarify why us in the adult industry need to be extra cautious about who we pick, not if a dude would have us. Redflag for myself would be a man hunting for a sw to marry.
What if I thought sw were smart ladies that I can have a legitimate conversation with? I mean I have been asked once or twice "why am I here?" well yeah you are not boring people, you are worth my time having a chat once in a while, and I know some of you feel the same way.
But I will not deny that sometimes these blanket statements about our gender are damn harsh. I wish I could legitimately wave a magic wand and end all crime, but at the end of the day it would be fair, even when women are the aggressor, and for some reason this is always so damn controversial. I have never hit a woman but they have hit me, never drugged one but they have me (super traumatic), never groped one without her consent but they have me (very common, but I don't really care).
This is customer conversation so it is our little corner to vent lol.
Your customer corner of whether or not we make good marriage material as if we are less than due to our jobs. It is condescending at best, it helps continues the stigma against sex workers. A stigma that allows men to be more abusive and get away with it.
Sex workers are 60% more likely to be abused, but keep telling us how you are all a bunch of good guys while discussing how we aren't really marriage material because we might cheat.
Men always love to throw in and misdirect the conversation to how women beat men too.. but how many women murder their male partners compared to how many men do. How many men are stalked and murdered by their ex's? or past stripper they used to get dances from?
How many past strippers, escorts or cam girls have hunted you down and stalked you? Yet, it is something we deal with all the time
https://twitter.com/The_HollyEvans/s...957149191?s=20 Here is a young pregnant gal who was hunted down by a former client from the strip club and murdered. So yes, I am a bit triggered by this conversation.
Tell me how do we tell the difference between the good guys and bad guys, I would really like to know........................
Well a stripper drugged me and stole from me, police laughed in my face, and literally the only justice I will ever get is constantly rejecting her over and over again, because this whale got away and is physically disgusted by her. I still think sw are cool people and she was just an outlier.
As for tips in identifying violent men, just more arrests, get them off the streets and make it easier and easier to document the evidence needed to lock them up.
So just so everyone understands - this is a dancer support site, so if you have thin skin (and even I have, on occasion, whined about an "anti-male" comment) you should probably realize that most of the pinks know very well that there are good men, but this is their place to let off steam about the challenges they face.
Rather than try to convince them that men are good, or you personally are good, try to hear the reality in what the pinks are saying.
I’m not here to change anyone’s opinion - or brag.
But, I just checked and there are no skid marks in my shorts!
Oh look men on a sex workers site filled with women, telling women how they need a safe place to bash women in this biz and how they are not good relationship material. On here reminding them old tropes and stigmas around their jobs is something they need to reinforce over and over again.
How dare women speak up and hurt men's feelings when men do to them is way worse.
I did notice one thing about this thread.
Why does it matter what work women do, when it comes to falling in love with them and they you?
Same reasoning applies if they are a cop, a mortician, or a Hi rise Window washer. Its a job its not anything else but. Maybe the women dont like your chosen job.
Personally, I don't get why men get upset about these things? Most of these things are "blanket statements" are facts. Most pedophiles, sexual offenders, serial killers, bestiality perverts, and rapists are men. Why should that hurt your feelings? Why yell and nag about "not all men"? When both historically and factually it has been mostly men. You think yelling out "Not all men" is going to stop women and children from getting abuse? Or stop pedophiles and rapists from doing what they do? No, many men yell out not all men because they're too weak to admit that a lot men on average are quite dangerous. Dangerous to women, children, animals, and even other men. Sad but true.
Now back to your story. Sure, women can be aggressors like in your case. But female aggressors, murderers, and sex offenders are pretty low compare to their male counterparts. Also women tend to show these tendencies in manners different than men. For example, a lot of women's crimes are often linked to financial gains or taking back power. So, drugging you was most likely about stealing your money without you fighting back. That's why people need to watch drinking and eating stuff from unknown people. But if you encounter a man...he would have did much more damage to you. Group of men would did even more damage. I am not saying this to belittle your experience. I am saying this because it's the truth.
It's always amusing to hear "Not all men". Because it's always one of most strangest answers for men to give. That's statement itself is weakness. Because it's about not accepting that there's evil in many men's hearts. First of all, stop being naive to this world. Men on average are much violent and physically imposing compare to us women. Openly, they use their physical might against women and children when men don't get their way. Or for their weird sexual interest and to feel more powerful.
Many of them openly hold women back at every turn from not giving us raises in the workforce to leave us defenseless in poverty with our children. A lot of the world's poverty happens because of a lot of men can't or won't take care of the families they started. They don't make enough money, they don't want women to make good money, or they abandon women with children to starve.These are not personal digs at men. These are facts. So, trying to do good is not good enough. Maybe for some who never seen "true good men" or hold men to accountability. But you have be an true stand up guy before preaching about it.
Many years ago, I lived in a sketchy area known for its bars, several were open 24/7, literally, closing only a couple hours per day for cleaning..
Imagine that clientele?
I, personally was once chased down the street on my way to school, by an idiot in such a place, TG he gave up!
It was rather common for in bar shootings & especially for people having their drink(s) doped (male/female, didn't matter) so they could be 'rolled ' later..
That was then.. fast forward to today, all the shitshows going on.. It makes sense to keep your awareness at all times.
Would you marry a cop that beats and kills innocent people?
Would you marry a mortician that hustles families in grief so they can get the "good" coffin for more money?
Would you marry a chef that will work tons of hours and never be home on holidays because they're cooking
Military? They leave for months at a time
A job creates factors that people should take into consideration when we're talking about marriage.
Maybe you and your values are ok with those....maybe they're not...everybody is different
Would you marry someone whose job entails a lot of lying and manipulating? Some people care. They want to spend the rest of their life with an honest person. Some people don't, they think you gotta do what you gotta do to pay the bills.
Sex worker? Well some people value sex with their wife....maybe they don't want them sharing those kinds of things with other people.
Are we what we do 9-5? Well I think some jobs definitely create a grey area.
PS....I couldn't come up with anything negative for a window washer
Before I would have answered with a firm NO, NEVER. But my thoughts have changed, and now I have a more mature mentality. We all have a past and we all change with the time, what matters is who the person is today