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Re: Would You Marry A Woman Who Worked In Adult Industry????
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
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Adelina
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
Not all of us. And many of us have a pretty good idea whether we're desirable or not. I'll give you that plenty don't though. Probably those make excellent customers.
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I'm not a fan of marriage in general, but I think I would.
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I just read this article on Huffpost. It sort of goes along with this thread:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/sex-w...Mv6M4B9OQTvQWT
It's an awfully long url, but I tried it and it worked.
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Good article. The guys are really hilarious, in a sad way. I can't believe, after all the work she does to move to the next phase of her life, the one guy casually asks her to escort "for him" because he needs money.
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Adelina
Yes, this is a forum, and we are sharing our opinions. I think what many men do not realize is when they think they are still desirable, they very often fail to check whether their object of desire feels that he is desirable to her, too. It's like men feel entitled to young attractive women.
I agree but I think the reason men don't check into that is because:
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.
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Luckyguy09
I agree but I think the reason men don't check into that is because:
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.
Financially successful, that means nothing if he is not planning to share his resources with the chosen woman. I laugh when guys talk about how successful they are, then offer to go "to grab a drink" lol
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[That said, I prefer women to pursue me, or at least give me a few signals that it is ok for me to pursue her. I don't pursue women that have no interest in me. It's a colossal waste of time and it's demoralizing.[/QUOTE]
Pursuing a woman is demoralizing? Since when? If a man doesn't have the balls to pursue me, he is not worthy of me.
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Luckyguy09
1. They believe they can "win her over" just like in the movies
2. They believe being financially successful will trump anything
You'd be surprised though. IMHO fame comes first - you have to see it to believe it. Then wealth. But it has enormous power - people say they'd reject it, then they don't. I think this may be unpopular on here, especially since the pink side here are largely professionals and they keep their heads around fame and wealth. We are talking about civvies, aren't we?
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Bahuba
You'd be surprised though. IMHO fame comes first - you have to see it to believe it. Then wealth. But it has enormous power - people say they'd reject it, then they don't. I think this may be unpopular on here, especially since the pink side here are largely professionals and they keep their heads around fame and wealth. We are talking about civvies, aren't we?
Not civvies, the original OP's question was "Would You Marry A Woman Who Worked In Adult Industry?"
But you are right, Bahuba. The professionals are less impressed (fooled) by wealth or fame.
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I will marry her if she is the right person. Doing some job doesn't prove what kind of person she is. She, of course, has some other charms. And being a stripper just makes her sexier sometimes.
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I am married to a former stripper who is a member of this site and I wanted to provide my perspective because so many of my wife's friends who are sex workers have bad relationships and have a hard time finding a decent stable man to settle down with.
They answer in a nutshell is complicated. I met my wife after she had stopped stripping and I married her not knowing she was a former dancer. At the time she was working a corporate job. I was a bit naive and should have known that since her sister and many of her friends where strippers than chances are that maybe she had been or is a stripper as well. Anyhow, she kept the stripping a secret from me until many years after we were married and after we had 2 kids. An ex-boyfriend who had been released from prision was trying to extort money from her by threatening to release sex tapes she was in and so she had to spill the beans. The fact that she didn't tell me prior to our marriage has had a profound negative effect on our connection as I don't know what else she has lied to me about and can't trust that she is telling the truth. So my advice to any sex worker is to not keep their work or past a secret from a potential spouse because it will affect the quality of relationship.
So would I have married my wife knowing that she used to be a sex worker. The honest answer is maybe.
If she was not an extras girl and prostituted herself while stripping I would have been okay with her stripper past and it would not have been an issue she needed to cover-up and keep from me. If she was a prostitute I would not have married her as I couldn't deal with that for a variety of reasons.
As for our relationship, It is less than ideal. We are not best friends, we don't have sex or have a close connection, and I know she doesn't love me. I was the decent guy with a good job she decided to settle down with. As for divorce, I have come close on several occasions but I stay with her because of the kids mainly as they deserve stability. Once the kids are off to college I am sure we will part ways.
I think in the end if you are a sex worker and want a successful relationship, honesty is the best policy even if it ends up costing you a few relationships in the process of finding the right guy who wants to be with you.
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miss.a.p1600
Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......
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95%of men cannot handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it.
Did you tell your wife about every single time you waltzed in the strip club, clicked on pornhub, or jacked off to some fetish she doesn’t know about??
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You are right most men can't handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it. I know I would have walked had I known the truth. But there is also an even bigger risk to not telling the truth as in a ruined relationship / marriage after you and your partner have invested much time and effort into building a life.
As for me I was honest with her about my past and skeletons in the closet including my sex history, all the times I had been to a strip club (5 at age 27), my one fetish (I like beautiful female feet with nice toes and arches), and yes I like watching porn and she knew that.
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miss.a.p1600
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95%of men cannot handle that kind of truth even though they say they want it.
Did you tell your wife about every single time you waltzed in the strip club, clicked on pornhub, or jacked off to some fetish she doesn’t know about??
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So lover, your theory is that she should have precluded herself from a high percentage of the eligible market by coughing up ancient history every time she got serious? Honestly, what she did before you is none of your business and the only reason it ever came up again is because of an absurd low probability situation.
Besides, it sounds like your marriage went to shit for reasons completely unrelated anyway, so that whole little diatribe sounds whiny and disingenuous. Also, if you know that she's a member of this site too, why in the world would you post this here? This is private business and should have remained that way.
I do wonder though how your marriage would have fared if you showed a little more loyalty to the mother of your children instead of searching for ancient history to hold over he head.
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^^Where is a hand clap gif when you need it
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I would marry a male adult industry worker. NBD.
The shame associated with women who openly express sexuality for pleasure or profit makes the job a deal-breaker for some men, but not all.
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Most of my dates / relationships / whatever have been in or considering the adult industry. I don't look for that but I guess cuz it's kind of pictures I take it just happens. Actually I find them to be the most faithful partners or I guess faithful might need to be phrases honest since many of them have wanted open relationships but they've been up front about it. I think that good ones who stay off the drugs relatively or at least keep it recreational are some of the best business people I've ever met and even the ones I no longer with I still consider them on my top list of friends that I can count on is something really went bad so yes I am all for it. Not in comparison to anyone else I don't want to get into a debate that sex workers aren't better girlfriends than anyone else I didn't say that. I said my experience has been very positive
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lover90210
I am married to a former stripper who is a member of this site and I wanted to provide my perspective because so many of my wife's friends who are sex workers have bad relationships and have a hard time finding a decent stable man to settle down with.
They answer in a nutshell is complicated. I met my wife after she had stopped stripping and I married her not knowing she was a former dancer. At the time she was working a corporate job. I was a bit naive and should have known that since her sister and many of her friends where strippers than chances are that maybe she had been or is a stripper as well. Anyhow, she kept the stripping a secret from me until many years after we were married and after we had 2 kids. An ex-boyfriend who had been released from prision was trying to extort money from her by threatening to release sex tapes she was in and so she had to spill the beans. The fact that she didn't tell me prior to our marriage has had a profound negative effect on our connection as I don't know what else she has lied to me about and can't trust that she is telling the truth. So my advice to any sex worker is to not keep their work or past a secret from a potential spouse because it will affect the quality of relationship.
So would I have married my wife knowing that she used to be a sex worker. The honest answer is maybe.
If she was not an extras girl and prostituted herself while stripping I would have been okay with her stripper past and it would not have been an issue she needed to cover-up and keep from me. If she was a prostitute I would not have married her as I couldn't deal with that for a variety of reasons.
As for our relationship, It is less than ideal. We are not best friends, we don't have sex or have a close connection, and I know she doesn't love me. I was the decent guy with a good job she decided to settle down with. As for divorce, I have come close on several occasions but I stay with her because of the kids mainly as they deserve stability. Once the kids are off to college I am sure we will part ways.
I think in the end if you are a sex worker and want a successful relationship, honesty is the best policy even if it ends up costing you a few relationships in the process of finding the right guy who wants to be with you.
Oh, he acts like there are a ton of decent good men out there & it is our fault for getting into relationships with bad men. Victim blaming when 1/3 of men have at least one past violent act in their past. And physically & verbal abuse happens to any woman at any income or educational background.
Or how about the fact that women are more likely to be murdered by their male domestic partner than anyone else. And how once she leaves he becomes more violent/ Not to mention most mass murder as in 3 or more victims is a man getting revenge upon the woman who left him, the kids & the family members that took them in..
Yes, I can see how from a male perspective a stripper or hooker past is way worse. (being extremely sarcastic here)
I don't value marriage or hold it up as the golden ring that I need to strive for. I never worry if I am good enough for any man, men worry if they are good enough for me & most of them fail. Since it is literally our lives on the line, it is men who need to live up to our standards instead of the other way around.
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miss.a.p1600
Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
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Well it doesn’t show up as “blue” when I’m on mobile
Also you assume women working in adult industry can’t be customers....I thought it would be better to ask customers of adult industry workers than to post in Lounge which is more random topics but perhaps this could have been posted there instead.
In addition it’s not that people can’t post on blue side, it’s more so that weirdos come on blue side trolling so they end up getting reported and banned as they should.
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maximvsv
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
Can you elaborate on what you mean you’d be insecure about money?
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There are a lot of concerns and insecurities there that get folded into one.
I have a paternalist disposition.
I am insecure about my own income, to begin with. I would prefer to be making enough, on my own, to fund myself and a spouse. I would also prefer to be making more than my spouse.
One of my biases is that I think that a woman ought to not want to be in sex work. I would feel bad if I thought that she was in it or continued in it solely because there was not enough money for her from some other source. I would be insecure about having enough money and enough of an income that I could support my spouse, so that having money is not a factor in her being in it or continuing to be in it.
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miss.a.p1600
Well it doesn’t show up as “blue” when I’m on mobile
Also you assume women working in adult industry can’t be customers....I thought it would be better to ask customers of adult industry workers than to post in Lounge which is more random topics but perhaps this could have been posted there instead.
In addition it’s not that people can’t post on blue side, it’s more so that weirdos come on blue side trolling so they end up getting reported and banned as they should.
I would think that it should go here:
https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/fo...r-s-Discussion
It's no big deal, though. More, a lamentation of the lack of participation in that area of the site.
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maximvsv
This forum is supposed to be customers asking questions of dancers. Nobody wants to post on the Blue side any more.
Regardless, back to an answer to the original question: I could, but with three caveats. I would not be able to be around while she was working--I cannot tolerate sharing attention. I would be consciously insecure about performance anxiety and unintentionally offending the woman. I would be insecure about money.
No, both pink and blue can ask each other questions here. Blues post all the time, but as you may know blues were almost banned, so SW is not looking for quantity, just the few, the proud.