If you allow touching anywhere not covered by fabric. What constitutes handsy?
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If you allow touching anywhere not covered by fabric. What constitutes handsy?
I would say grabbing, squeezing, putting your hands anywhere off limits, groping around the limits, "playfully" touching off limits areas. That's just me, and I'm a blue.
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This, plus "octopus hands"- when they're all over the place so fast. Like not necessarily breaking the rules but like, grope your butt, then back, then legs etc all within 5 seconds, like please calm down. You"re putting the girls in defensive dance mode without actually breaking the rules
From a fellow customer's POV, anywhere the dancer indicates is not okay to touch or do.
"octopus hands" makes me laugh for some reason, even though it probably shouldn't. ;D
Quoting this for truth, again from a customer perspective. ASK ABOUT AND RESPECT BOUNDARIES.
I've gotten dances from a lot of "clean" dancers (according to TUSCL) that went way farther than the reviews claimed they'd go. That's probably because, horror of horrors, I asked politely. Remember this line before a dance and you won't go wrong:
"Where are you cool with me touching?"
If anything's left vague or too blatantly open ("oh, whatever you want honey,") ask again before moving on to a more "sensitive" area (boobs, butt, kitty, etc.)
Take notice of how she dances on you - I've found that a dance can go shitty really quick if you happen to be doing something "wrong," but not (strictly speaking) wrong - SuperJa's comment above about "defensive dance mode" actually makes my personal experience with this make a lot more sense. In my case, a dancer had a problem with someone brushing up against her bellybutton piercing. Damn near ruined an otherwise great string of LDs until I asked what was up.
Bottom line - if they say they're not cool with it, you don't go there, and you'll get a way better dance overall if you respect that. If you're not getting to touch what you really want to touch, pay for your dance and move on - there's no value in pressing the issue. Best case for you, she just walks off. Worst case, you (hope you) walk off after bouncing off the sidewalk in front of the club a couple of times.
Well, each State has laws that will tell you exactly what is legal & what isn't.
^ And I've yet to see a club that operates within those state laws. They'd all go out of business.
Agreed with everyone else. What makes me tell other girls a guy is handsy is A ) the octopus thing, B ) being too rough - if I say you can touch my boobs, that doesn't mean you can squeeze them like a stress ball.
If it makes you feel bad then it’s too much. I’ve been there when some guy is being to aggressive. You shouldn’t do anything you don’t feel right about. It doesn’t matter if others girls do. If you don’t like something tell them no
Too handsy to me is touching over the clothing on my g string. Touching anything not covered by clothing doesnt mean you can touch it though the clothing. Do not try to touch/rub me down there! Also keep your tongue and lips off of me do not kiss me or lick me or anything nasty like that. I know that isnt handsy that's....tonguesy??? But still thought it was worth mentioning. Do not do it lol.
No, if a dancer wants you to do something she'll make it pretty damn clear.
It's pretty common to motorboat guys here, but you still can't touch our breasts. A dancer putting a body part on you is not an invitation to touch said part. If unclear, always ask.
omg, yes. i put my boobs in customers faces or motorboat all the time and so many of them think that because my nipple is right by or grazing their mouth it means i'm wanting them to suck or lick on it. NOOO nothing is an invitation unless i flat out ask or tell you it's ok. i try to make my dances fun and sexy, and my boobs are my main asset, but someone always has to ruin it. just sit back and relax and if i say you can touch remember that touching is something you do with your hands, not your mouth -_- . i said touch not slobber!
The responses are what I expected, but I do appreciate the clarification. I'm by no means an experienced club-goer, so I only have my outside life to fall back on. Seems like the key to an enjoyable experience is to get all permissions verbally and never assume anything!