How do you keep your composure or deal with trifling hoodrat bitches
There's this chick I work with who's been fired before for getting aggressive with a bouncer. And more than HALF the girls DISLIKE HER. She apparently sucked one of our managers dicks to get her job back and we almost got into a fight back in October of last year cause she told a customer not to tip me and all I asked her was "what's the problem?" And she tried to act like she didn't do anything and got aggressive with me got in my face and I swear we almost started scrapping.
Since then I've been trying to be the bigger person and just be cordial and say "hello" when I walk by. She'll have her days where she will ask me for my grinder (the club is like 40-50% 420 friendly) and fake compliments. Then when I'm thinking our "beef" is over she'll still be making negative faces and still disrespect me in other ways.
So since I don't have time to deal with the bullshit; I just decided she don't exist to me anymore. When I walk around I don't acknowledge her or even give any eye contact its gotten to the point I almost forgot what her face looks like.
Recently she's been trying to get me more riled up and give her more attention because she started taking songs that I always play and at my club its like you know which girl is on stage even in the dressing room cause they always play the same song. So I look up and she's dancing to my song....and you know how girls do certain moves that kind of set themselves apart from other girls? I know she was doing one of my favorite moves to my song and now its like girl wtf is your problem? But the customer I was sitting with knew what was up and we both laughed about it.
How do y'all deal? Cause I have loyal customers here that don't want me to leave but management sucks ass in terms of that cause she shouldn't have been re-hired in the first place
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Nobody owns a song (except the writer) or a certain move. Just continue to ignore her. You should be so busy hustling and making money that the other girls are merely a blip on your radar.
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I get no one owns the songs except the performer/producer/etc im just saying you know when someone is coming for you lol
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Do not let this person get to you. Ignore her. She seems unstable to me. you do not need the drama. You are at work, not middle school.
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Don't even say hi or engage her. Put her on "ignore" and just focus on your money. If she starts creating drama, walk away. Don't feed into it. People like this will manipulate your reactions to make you look like the crazy one, even if you are not. Focus on yourself.
One girl tried to pull a bitch move in front of a customer. They were both rude to me. I smiled and ignored them and collected my tip from the next guy, who gave me a 10 to make up for their rudeness. Let her be the classless idiot. You've got money to make.
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I agree with everyone here. I've had a couple of experiences with dancers like this who sort of attempt issues with everyone, and I haven't gotten spared. Actually, I've had a dancer specifically begin targeting me simply because I hit the ignore button on her (not looking at her, not speaking to her, etc)
Just go in, work and let them upset themselves and not make money. From my experience guys aren't too into buying dances from angry drama queens. Make the customer your priority. Let those annoyed feelings for that dancer translate to motivation to do better and make the most you can make
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First, I love the title of this post - "trifling hoodrat bitches." I had to click, haha.
Second, there's obviously something wrong with her. Whatever it is, it's none of your concern because you're too busy making all the money. Clearly you're a threat, otherwise she wouldn't be trying to take "your songs." You know you're doing well when you have haters, just saying. :)
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She’s only looking for a rise out of you— the less emotion you show and less bothered she will stop eventually. I had an issue with a girl recently who thinks she owned the place. She was jealous one night this customer was spending money on me and not her, she came up and smacked my jaw. On the floor.. in front of all kinds of people— she denied it. My job means more than some bitch so I just let it slide and told a manger. Bout 2 days later she tries to talk to me oh hey how are you girl and I told her I’m fine. Thanks and she said what’s your deal, I replied that we’re not friends so I don’t understand why you’re talking to me, and she was like wow you’re really funny but I just went on with my day. Another few days go by and she approaches me in the dressing room and asks me what’s up and I said you hit me in the jaw and she denies it, started getting loud and I told her that I was gonna shut her loud ass up real quick by going to the manager I didn’t care I told her we’re not friends live your life and I’ll live mine. Frankly I’ve never been one to make friends at work I’m there for money so it’s pretty easy to get involved with drama but I feel like it’s easier to shut down as long as you don’t feed into their bullshit. Ignore the bitch tell her you don’t fuck with her.. customers don’t care about our beef, and if they do get involved tell a manager bc the bitch shouldn’t talk about your all's issues and drama with customers, at my club they will fire us for dumb shit like that. She’s just bored and jealous, ignore her and make your money
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Act like they don't exist. Eventually they will get bored when they know they can't get attention from you and move on to their other targets. People like that eventually end up meeting their own karmatic demise.
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Kill them with kindness so they have no reason to pick a fight with you so if you end up fighting it clearly looks like her fault.
Act like you are a queen and she is a peasant that you don't have time for unless she comes up to you. Continue to be nice to her.
But most importantly, try to ignore her and focus on yourself. If she copies a move you do, just make sure you do it better. Focus on nothing but the customers. Act like she's not even there, then in your mind, problem solved... she's gone.
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I keep in mind the fact that people are mean because they're afraid and insecure.
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Needed this thread! Awkward situation before I went in vacation where a very big spender came into the club whom I've danced for before. I go say hi because he's with three other girls I've made money with before off of him and he has a bottle of dom.... As soon as I sit down he's like, Vanessa the whole reason I'm here is to tip you for last time. I'm not getting dances tonight. Lol. That did not go over well! I have some enemies, over a few hundred dollars in tip money. It's stupid. It actually drives me to work harder when I feel their hateful gaze though.
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When she asks for anything-make yourself too busy. Google gray rock technique.
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#1 on the "grey rock" technique. Most of the girls I work with are intimidated by me bc I am so quiet and barely talk to them lol.
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I noticed if you have a friend or two at work, hang out with them when it's slow. Drama queens are slower to roll up on someone and try to start a confrontation if there is a witness nearby seeing and hearing everything.
One sad soul tried confronting me over her (imagined) problems with me right on the floor & I just rolled my eyes. Luckily my friend K walked up to join me & sad soul girl didn't want to look stupid in front of a random person so she left quietly. Really stupid drama queens are scared of being humiliated in front of everyone so they will chill once other people start intruding on their little Scenes Of Attention Seeking Manipulation.