Tips on how to hold on to a regular customer
I'm looking for some tips on what are some of the best ways to have a regular customer. I've been able to do this to some extent but it's never been longer than a month or so.
I'm not a natural at hustling so I tend to get stuck at times with customers who waste my time, so having a regular customer would go a long way for me.
Anyway, in the past few weeks, I've had a customer who's really enjoyed dances and time with me. He's not pushy so I definitely like that. He's spent up to an hour with me on a few days and a couple of hours on one day as well. The fact that he's a really good tipper works really great. I do my best to notice him when he comes in as well as greet him. However, last week he went for dances with another girl, which gave me the idea he may not want to be a regular with me, so to speak. He's a regular at the club so he fits the bill of what I'm looking for. I did see him for dances at the weekend, but didn't bring up anything about him dancing with another girl, as I didn't feel it was right. Moving forward to a few days ago, and he had dances with another girl again.
I'm not sure if it's to do with the fact that he didn't see me at the club that day or if he's losing interest. I really don't want to seem desperate but I'm also looking for tips and advice on the best way I can get him to be a regular for me. Rather than chatting up time-wasters, it would be great to know that I have a regular to rely on. To give you some background about him, he's a little shy and I get the idea that he's a bit submissive as well. He's always complimenting me on my hair (which is very straight), and loves my shoes and nails (I tend to be well-kept in that area and he seems to appreciate that). He's very short, and I'm taller than him with my heels (I'm very petite in general). He seems to comment quite a bit on that and the fact he likes it. That gives me a bit of an idea that he's a shy and submissive guy, as well as some of his other mannerisms.
Do you think there's a certain way I can bring up about him being my regular? Should I bring up the fact that I've seen him get dances with other girls (I'm leaning towards no as that might give the wrong idea). What are the best ways I can play myself up and should I use a more dominant approach with him? I don't really know how to do a dominant approach, but I have a feeling that this guy would be really receptive on it; I just need suggestions on how I can start. At the same time, I don't want to go too overboard with anything and lose a good customer.
Any tips would be appreciated!
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MistyGirl
I'm looking for some tips on what are some of the best ways to have a regular customer. I've been able to do this to some extent but it's never been longer than a month or so.
I'm not a natural at hustling so I tend to get stuck at times with customers who waste my time, so having a regular customer would go a long way for me.
Anyway, in the past few weeks, I've had a customer who's really enjoyed dances and time with me. He's not pushy so I definitely like that. He's spent up to an hour with me on a few days and a couple of hours on one day as well. The fact that he's a really good tipper works really great. I do my best to notice him when he comes in as well as greet him. However, last week he went for dances with another girl, which gave me the idea he may not want to be a regular with me, so to speak. He's a regular at the club so he fits the bill of what I'm looking for. I did see him for dances at the weekend, but didn't bring up anything about him dancing with another girl, as I didn't feel it was right. Moving forward to a few days ago, and he had dances with another girl again.
I'm not sure if it's to do with the fact that he didn't see me at the club that day or if he's losing interest. I really don't want to seem desperate but I'm also looking for tips and advice on the best way I can get him to be a regular for me. Rather than chatting up time-wasters, it would be great to know that I have a regular to rely on. To give you some background about him, he's a little shy and I get the idea that he's a bit submissive as well. He's always complimenting me on my hair (which is very straight), and loves my shoes and nails (I tend to be well-kept in that area and he seems to appreciate that). He's very short, and I'm taller than him with my heels (I'm very petite in general). He seems to comment quite a bit on that and the fact he likes it. That gives me a bit of an idea that he's a shy and submissive guy, as well as some of his other mannerisms.
Do you think there's a certain way I can bring up about him being my regular? Should I bring up the fact that I've seen him get dances with other girls (I'm leaning towards no as that might give the wrong idea). What are the best ways I can play myself up and should I use a more dominant approach with him? I don't really know how to do a dominant approach, but I have a feeling that this guy would be really receptive on it; I just need suggestions on how I can start. At the same time, I don't want to go too overboard with anything and lose a good customer.
Any tips would be appreciated!
I’m not sure if I would go consider him a regular just yet but he has potential.
Do you have his contact info? That way you can prearrange dances and meet at the club at a certain time.
I wouldnt bring up the dances with another girl though .. but later on if you find that he’s submissive, he might like being told that he’s only allowed dancing with you or girls you approve of. I have a regular like this and it works well but it took some time. My one regular and I usually do one hour together, spend some time drinking and watching the shows, pick a girl to do double dances with (usually one of my friends), do an hour with her, chill some more and then do another hour.
Anyways .. first step is getting his contact info and sharing yours. Maybe an email or Google Voice. Or some form of social media?
sorry for the mistakes .. I did the iPhone update and it’s so annoying.
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Layla.00
I’m not sure if I would go consider him a regular just yet but he has potential.
Do you have his contact info? That way you can prearrange dances and meet at the club at a certain time.
I wouldnt bring up the dances with another girl though .. but later on if you find that he’s submissive, he might like being told that he’s only allowed dancing with you or girls you approve of. I have a regular like this and it works well but it took some time. My one regular and I usually do one hour together, spend some time drinking and watching the shows, pick a girl to do double dances with (usually one of my friends), do an hour with her, chill some more and then do another hour.
Anyways .. first step is getting his contact info and sharing yours. Maybe an email or Google Voice. Or some form of social media?
sorry for the mistakes .. I did the iPhone update and it’s so annoying.
Thanks a lot for the tips!
I don't have his contact info, and I was thinking of starting with just letting him know my schedule. I think email is probably a good idea as I'm not comfortable with sharing other social media as of yet. Do you think I should keep in regular contact through email or really just use that to update him on my schedule/etc.
How long did it take you to get to that level with your regular? At what point did you know he was someone you can have that type of arrangement with?
I definitely get the feeling he is submissive but I haven't started to play that angle as of yet, and I'm not sure exactly how to start, but yours is a good tip!
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Personally I think going dominant is a mistake. The amount of guys who are really into that are very small. And they tend to seek out dominatrix types. If you aren't a strong hustler it is a strong sign that isn't you.
It is massively likely he is just a common beta male. That is a pretty large portion of the male population. If this is someone who is new to regular strip clubbing he probably just isn't super comfortable asking you directly for what he wants. And most beta males really want to be dominant and for you to be submissive.
Watch what type of dance he is getting from the other dancers and compare that to your style. Then next time you get to give him a dance before you start tell him something to the effect of "Let me know if you want.... faster, slower, whatever you like. I want to make you happy." The goal being getting him to feel comfortable telling you to do what he wants. And really make an effort to be both present and observant and responsive to whatever signals he is putting out.
In some cases this might end up completely changing up your normal dance routine. If so make sure to say something to him afterwards like "Wow, that was a ton of fun. I love doing dances like that. Most guys aren't interested in that so I don't get to do it often."
As a side note don't over think the height comments. Height of women is like the height of a bowling trophy in the minds of men.
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If he’s spending an hour of two in VIP with you I definitely see the desire to lock him down. You can’t necessarily MAKE him your regular, it’s his choice to be loyal to you...so make sure he chooses you by giving him the best experience possible. Reading his body language and actually listening to what he says will give you insight on what type of hustle to use. He doesn’t sound particularly submissive to me.
Don’t bring up other girls, that reads jealousy. Although some men like having girls fight over them, it may scare him away. If he didn’t spend as much time with the other girls as he usually does with you that could be a good sign that he just settled for them when he didn’t see you.
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Other things I can think of:
1. Let him know you are willing to give him more of your time. There are a lot of ways to express from something indirect like saying you want to get off your feet for a while or are bored. But it is probably far better to just be honest and direct. The direct route actually works really well and can even be done after the dance, by saying you think he is a really great customer and would love to spend more time chatting if he is going to spend more time in the club that night. In this situation the genuine route is probably the way to go, you are admittedly not the best hustler, you really want him as a customer, and he wants a genuine connection to a stripper.
2. When you get to the lap dance area instead of just waiting for the next song to start. Tell him "I can start at the next song, or we can wait until the one after that, no rush, just let me know when you are ready". That kind of statement will make him feel special. And men NEVER want to wait that long anyway. The one exception to this would be if he is too handsy for you before the dance starts. But you should already know that.
3. Yes definitely give him your contact info.
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When I find a customer who a) seems super into me, and b) spends what *I* consider to be good consistently money towards my income, I make sure that he doesn't want or need to spend money on any girl except tipping our waitress or bartender. A lot of this comes from fulfilling some of their emotional needs, as this is something that not just "any girl" can do. When I have a regular we exchange numbers. I have a Google voice, but I just went ahead and got a work phone because google voice texting is limited. It is a good starting point, though. I also have my own stripper email that I've used with customers before. But basically I just ask them when are good times to text and then I'll send them some sort of, "hey babe, how's your day going?" text. I mean imagine a man having a stressful day then a hot woman texts him asking how he is doing. He will feel appreciated and it will set you apart. Don't ONLY text him when you want him to come in, do it every now and then just to ease his day and entertain him via text if the money he is spending is worth it. Then it'll feel like you guys have a special bond. Lol.
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Thanks for the tips!
I did exchange emails with him (I have not given him my contact number yet - and he hasn't asked) and I've tried keeping in touch with him, also letting him know the next day that I had fun dancing for him and sharing stories.
The great thing is that he came in on Thursday and gave me a small gift (just a giftcard but it was a nice thought:)) I've managed to spend 2 hours with him for a few times now, which I'm happy about as I want to really establish him as a regular.
He did make a comment about perhaps going for a coffee sometime. I played it off saying that maybe we can do it sometime, and he didn't push on it at all. What's the best way to react to that? I'm not making it a big deal as of yet since it was just one comment and I've seen him since without him mentioning it again or pushing it. He's definitely not pushy so I feel quite comfortable trying to move things in the direction that I want.
I'm hoping to move things to the point where he wants to come to the club more and spend more on me. Is that the type of thing you just need to wait out or is there a good way I can subtly let him know I'd love more gifts and more regular visits? I'm trying to do it in a way that he starts thinking about that more and that he really wants to get me more things. I notice that he particular loves commenting on my shoes (telling me I have very sexy shoes) as well as my outfit and how he's excited to see what I wear. Are these things I should be using to my advantage more?
Once again, thanks for any tips:)
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What tips worked for you?
Have the emails gotten to the point of actually setting up an appointment?
If it hasn't you could get that ball rolling by saying if he let's you know when he is coming you can let him request an outfit. Guys LOVE this! There are numerous ways to play this and its really best to give it some thought. This could become a regular thing you have to keep wearing for him, but it doesn't really cost you anything. Try and phrase it as being a thank you for the gift card. And don't be suprised if the request is something vanilla like a sundress.
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thehester2
What tips worked for you?
Have the emails gotten to the point of actually setting up an appointment?
If it hasn't you could get that ball rolling by saying if he let's you know when he is coming you can let him request an outfit. Guys LOVE this! There are numerous ways to play this and its really best to give it some thought. This could become a regular thing you have to keep wearing for him, but it doesn't really cost you anything. Try and phrase it as being a thank you for the gift card. And don't be suprised if the request is something vanilla like a sundress.
Thanks for the tip! I actually brought this up with him and he actually offered to get me something nice:) I don't know if I played it right, but I told him I'll think about it. Obviously I want him to get it for me but I didn't want to see like too much of a gold digger lol.
Does anyone know if it's better to be up-forward with these guys and request things or play it slowly.
He's also really complimented my shows so I'm thinking it would be great to get him to buy me some shoes as well (not just for work) since I love me some heels. Do you think being forward is the right approach to this?
He hasn't come in the past 2 weeks as he was out of town, but will be back next week.
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MistyGirl
Thanks for the tips!
I did exchange emails with him (I have not given him my contact number yet - and he hasn't asked) and I've tried keeping in touch with him, also letting him know the next day that I had fun dancing for him and sharing stories.
The great thing is that he came in on Thursday and gave me a small gift (just a giftcard but it was a nice thought:)) I've managed to spend 2 hours with him for a few times now, which I'm happy about as I want to really establish him as a regular.
He did make a comment about perhaps going for a coffee sometime. I played it off saying that maybe we can do it sometime, and he didn't push on it at all. What's the best way to react to that? I'm not making it a big deal as of yet since it was just one comment and I've seen him since without him mentioning it again or pushing it. He's definitely not pushy so I feel quite comfortable trying to move things in the direction that I want.
I'm hoping to move things to the point where he wants to come to the club more and spend more on me. Is that the type of thing you just need to wait out or is there a good way I can subtly let him know I'd love more gifts and more regular visits? I'm trying to do it in a way that he starts thinking about that more and that he really wants to get me more things. I notice that he particular loves commenting on my shoes (telling me I have very sexy shoes) as well as my outfit and how he's excited to see what I wear. Are these things I should be using to my advantage more?
Once again, thanks for any tips:)
try to get him to buy you outfits! and maybe he has a thing for feet?
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crystalize
try to get him to buy you outfits! and maybe he has a thing for feet?
That's definitely something I'll try, do you think it's good to just bring it up or slowly get him to offer it himself?
I think he might, and I've thought so for a while. Do you think I should ask him if he likes feet or maybe find out some way?
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ok so for outfits: I believe he would be down because he bought you a gift card. You could be like "what else would you like to see me in next time you visit?" "do you wanna pick it out for me?" or something like that.
with the feet you could ask 'do you like my shoes/new pedicure?' etc and then see if he gets all horny from that. you should be able to tell. then you could make more convo about feet to find out more of his interests.
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work a consistent schedule. if a guy knows where and when you're working it'll make it easier for him to come see you.
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MistyGirl
Thanks for the tip! I actually brought this up with him and he actually offered to get me something nice:) I don't know if I played it right, but I told him I'll think about it. Obviously I want him to get it for me but I didn't want to see like too much of a gold digger lol.
Does anyone know if it's better to be up-forward with these guys and request things or play it slowly.
He's also really complimented my shows so I'm thinking it would be great to get him to buy me some shoes as well (not just for work) since I love me some heels. Do you think being forward is the right approach to this?
Yeah it might have been a mistake to say "you'll think about it". Next time say YES, or just be honest and say "I know last time I said I would think about it, I didn't want to seem like a gold digger, but yeah... you can totally buy me something, that would be pretty amazing actually, no one has ever done that for me before"
If he does want to buy you something I would recommend against asking for something you actually want. You want to give him whatever fantasy he wants. If that is you in a cheerleader outfit or starbucks uniform you want him to feel comfortable enough with you to ask you for that. And then you provide that fantasy for him (for an extra fee if it's weird). This isn't about you getting the shoes you actually want. Maybe over time you can progress it into a sugar baby thing but don't start there if you really want him as a longer term regular.
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crystalize
ok so for outfits: I believe he would be down because he bought you a gift card. You could be like "what else would you like to see me in next time you visit?" "do you wanna pick it out for me?" or something like that.
That is a really good way of phrasing it.
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crystalize
ok so for outfits: I believe he would be down because he bought you a gift card. You could be like "what else would you like to see me in next time you visit?" "do you wanna pick it out for me?" or something like that.
with the feet you could ask 'do you like my shoes/new pedicure?' etc and then see if he gets all horny from that. you should be able to tell. then you could make more convo about feet to find out more of his interests.
Thanks for the tips! I was pretty nervous but I did bring it up and he complimented me on my pretty feet:) He's definitely into both heels and feet. We talked a lot about the kind of nail polish he likes so I think that's a good start!
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thehester2
Yeah it might have been a mistake to say "you'll think about it". Next time say YES, or just be honest and say "I know last time I said I would think about it, I didn't want to seem like a gold digger, but yeah... you can totally buy me something, that would be pretty amazing actually, no one has ever done that for me before"
If he does want to buy you something I would recommend against asking for something you actually want. You want to give him whatever fantasy he wants. If that is you in a cheerleader outfit or starbucks uniform you want him to feel comfortable enough with you to ask you for that. And then you provide that fantasy for him (for an extra fee if it's weird). This isn't about you getting the shoes you actually want. Maybe over time you can progress it into a sugar baby thing but don't start there if you really want him as a longer term regular.
That is a really good way of phrasing it.
Thanks a lot for all of your tips! I definitely won't be pushy and will let him build the fantasy he wants and work from there:)
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MistyGirl
Thanks for the tips! I was pretty nervous but I did bring it up and he complimented me on my pretty feet:) He's definitely into both heels and feet. We talked a lot about the kind of nail polish he likes so I think that's a good start!
Awesome! now you can try getting pedicures and shoes, maybe he likes stocking too?
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crystalize
Awesome! now you can try getting pedicures and shoes, maybe he likes stocking too?
I can give that a try! I typically don't wear stockings often but I do have a few pairs:) I've been asking him how he wants my toes to look for the next night and he's definitely a fan of that:) Hopefully soon I can get him to pay for my pedicures lol.
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MistyGirl
Thanks a lot for all of your tips! I definitely won't be pushy and will let him build the fantasy he wants and work from there:)
Awesome!
Sounds like your work is about to start paying off. At this point you are really over the hump, you are giving him something other girls haven't and most won't take the time to do. So you can sort of coast a little bit. Don't push too hard, little nudges are the key. And as always make sure you have consistently high presence, don't start phoning it in. You might even want to do something like if you know he is coming head back to the DR to freshen up and then come up with a mantra to get your mindset right, for example "I AM the fantasy!"
One thing I would also say is that now that he is starting to feel comfortable asking you to fulfill his fantasies in rare instances it get weird pretty quick. Again this is rare but guys like this can go from buying you pedicures to asking you to wear a diaper. So in the off case something like that happens think through how you would react to say no or react to say yes but $$$. It is a good idea to think that in advance so that you are prepared and professional if you need it. You don't want to be caught off guard stuttering or give a bad rejection that accidentally scare him away. I also think personally that if you think that through in advance it also helps set your own boundaries.
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thehester2
Awesome!
Sounds like your work is about to start paying off. At this point you are really over the hump, you are giving him something other girls haven't and most won't take the time to do. So you can sort of coast a little bit. Don't push too hard, little nudges are the key. And as always make sure you have consistently high presence, don't start phoning it in. You might even want to do something like if you know he is coming head back to the DR to freshen up and then come up with a mantra to get your mindset right, for example "I AM the fantasy!"
One thing I would also say is that now that he is starting to feel comfortable asking you to fulfill his fantasies in rare instances it get weird pretty quick. Again this is rare but guys like this can go from buying you pedicures to asking you to wear a diaper. So in the off case something like that happens think through how you would react to say no or react to say yes but $$$. It is a good idea to think that in advance so that you are prepared and professional if you need it. You don't want to be caught off guard stuttering or give a bad rejection that accidentally scare him away. I also think personally that if you think that through in advance it also helps set your own boundaries.
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Thanks! I definitely know my comfort level and so far he hasn't gone outside of it. I don't think he would; but you're right, it's better to be prepared for that type of thing!