Sugar Daddy/Escort question
Hi ladies. I have been dancing for years, but recently started considering other sorts of income. I met an attractive older guy in the club last time I was working. He bought lots of dances. He told me that he's married, lives hours away, but travels to my area regularly for work. He says he had a year long arrangement he just ended with a girl who would go to dinner with him, then mess around after. He was clear that he's interested in sexual contact, but that they didn't always have sex. He asked he what a couple of my preferences (sexually) are. He paid her $800 a time, 2 to 3 times a month.
We made plans for this W.
I'm starting to get cold feet. He seems very respectful (so far), but I'm worried that something may go wrong. I'm a single mom, and cannot risk getting in any legal trouble. I do need the money, and it would be a nice arrangement if it worked out.
Does this sound kosher to you? He gave me his first and last name. I suppose I should google him. I am on the verge of cancelling. Does anyone have advice?
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If you're worried about legal issues just collect the fee as compensation for "cleaning" and get a receipt. Also screenshot your texts and photos with this guy....are you worried about him trying to extort you?
Or are you more worried about him being married?
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I am worried about somehow getting arrested and my ex husband finding out. I just googled the guy, and he seems legit. He owns a business. Our texts have been clean, so to speak. Most everything was discussed in person.
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When LE does prostitution stings, it almost always involves things like BP stings and undercover cops trying to bust girls ITC. Iin other words, actions where they can charge a large number of people at one time for a variety of offenses (prostitution, drug offenses, outstanding warrants, weapons charges, etc.). Now yes there have been extremely rare stories where LE has taken girls OTC and then arrested them, but the few instances that I have ever read about were quick strike same night things (and often involved LE being extra motivated when a town/city was looking for an excuse to shut a club down). I somehow sincerely doubt that LE is going to commit a boatload of cash on dances, hours in the club, the resources needed to create a false identity, website included, and the time to repeatedly text a girl on other days, all just to catch a single girl for a misdemeanor solicitation charge.
IMHO you're worrying about the wrong thing. Your bigger worry should be whether the guy himself is full of shit or not about his intentions and resources. You obviously don't do this much, so your instincts may not be as fine tuned as they could be. You may want to consider making him visit you ITC again first if you have any doubts. If he is unwilling to do even that much, then maybe it wasn't really meant to be.
In any event, good luck.
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rickdugan
IMHO you're worrying about the wrong thing. Your bigger worry should be whether the guy himself is full of shit or not about his intentions and resources. You obviously don't do this much, so your instincts may not be as fine tuned as they could be. You may want to consider making him visit you ITC again first if you have any doubts. If he is unwilling to do even that much, then maybe it wasn't really meant to be.
In any event, good luck.
Yeah if I were you I'd check to see if he's willing to come back ITC to have one last discussion to put your mind at ease. If he can't do that small thing for you, he is not worth your time.
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The way to get around the legal ramifications is to make sure that you never accept money for sex. What I mean is never say "Yes, for $800, we can have sex". I was an escort and into the Sugar Daddy scene. I made sure that they understood that they were buying my time and companionship, not buying sexual favors. Ask him if it y'all set up a meet at a public restaurant to further talk and iron out the details. IME, I met men publicly FIRST to make sure that we were compatible and to see if he gave off any weird vibes. This could be at a bar, restaurant, Top Golf, where ever you feel comfortable. I've had men bring me gifts and some that haven't on the first date. Usually it is non-sexual and a time for you to Meet-And-Greet. During this, you guys can talk about whatever. Some guys prefer to talk about money ans sex at this date, some after, and some before. Either way, a discussion about your needs and his needs should happen before ANYTHING SEXUAL HAPPENS.
IMO I would have chat with the guy and then we would set up a M&G (meet-and-greet). This is where I can see if he is creepy, gives off bad vibes, and sees how he reacts to me in person. I would pick where we went. If he is looking for alot of discretion then we would meet for dinner at night. If not then it's really up to you but I mostly chose dinner at a nice restaurant so he could see me dressed and glammed to the gods. Have a glass of wine, relax, ask him about his profession. Small-talk. Nothing too serious. If we both agreed that we liked each other we set up a time and place to meet again. You should not feel pressued to do anything that you don't want to do. No PayPals, no checks, no direct deposits or offers to put you on his Payroll. Cash is king. Please read this link. Feel free to PM if you have any questions about anything
https://www.letstalksugar.com/
Here goes a website forum which will answer a ton of your questions and more that you didn't even know you had. Be safe
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Sassypants1111
He gave me his first and last name. I suppose I should google him?
Affirmative!
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Yes, definitely Google his name and phone number. Check to see if he has any social media accounts. True that LE likes to target bp girls, ITC, and stuff like escort agencies because they can nab many people on multiple charges but in some cases they'll go after anyone. Wait and keep seeing him ITC. I doubt an undercover would have the patience because they tend to want to get you to agree to sex for money asap so that they can make an arrest. I'm not trying to scare you. Be careful.
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Thank you for all the responses. There is a lot to consider in this situation. I realize that dancing for 15 plus years doesn't mean I am fully equipped or knowledgeable about SB or escort type relations. For me, anything that may impact my kids, (like legal problems) is always for most in my mind. I googled and Facebook searched this guy. He checks out, so I am not as worried about him being in LE. So far he is very respectful and sweet. We rescheduled put date for next week, since Valentines Day interfered. I'm really praying this works out. It's a huge strain to leave my kids for 10 ish hours to dance. Although I do well, after paying the sitter $17 an hour, I'm usually left with only $200-$600 for myself. I really need a better option.
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As other ladies have mentioned screen him.. look into some of the other threads about screening.. and make sure he is not using a burner #.. I have seen several ladies get burned and not receive payment for their time from douche bags they met at the club.. Predators look for ladies who “need the money..” when I worked in Dallas I would hear girls warn other ladies about it, all the time! These douche bags would do dances too.. There used to be a whole site dedicated to to douche bags who ripped off sex workers of all types by not paying the agreed rate or not paying at all.. or outing ladies they Negotiated down.. they post pictures, personal information, and all kinds of stuff.. be careful of trusting people with your personal information.. or letting them glance at your ID while getting drinks..
if you do not know much about him, if things went south you have no recourse..
If he does turn out to be legitimate, play safe!! Do not let him talk you into bare services or more than you are comfortable.. I had a guy tell me that if he wanted to use a condom he would hire a pro.. A year or so later when I started escorting I found out the gentlemen in question has over 200 reviews with various escorts.. all of which he stated he played safe or atleast said he did.. that is a pretty big circle, for unsafe services..
Please let someone know where you are meeting this guy.. try to meet him in public and get a car tag and description of the vehicle.. try to make note if it is a rental..
Exchange money per visit upfront.. ask him to leave it in an unsealed envelope in the bathroom.. or ask for it to be in a birthday card (or something) if meeting in public first..
Be safe!
PS. Amanda Brooke’s at skip the games has some helpful advice..